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1. noober+(OP)[view] [source] 2018-09-12 02:29:31
It's not like meritocracy is completely unrelated to real life, it matters in a certain regime. However, if like Vanessa, you're born to lesser circumstances, you just cannot escape poverty by just working harder. Similarly, if you are born to very well off standards, even if you're a dope and spend money from Dad's inheritance on cocaine, sure, you won't be successful but you'll still have a net of some kind. You can always improve your lot, but where you start has a large impact on how much of phase space you can reach, so to say.

I think the mentality is shifting a little as millenials and gen z are slowly letting go of the meritocratic myth, but blaming internal motivations more than context is a problem in the American conception of the world we still suffer from as a nation. The inability of us to accept that our actions are not the only determining things in our lives seriously limit our ability to fully comprehend the world and how it really works which leads us to thinking ideas like work requirements are actually sane rather than completely counterproductive.

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2. neuman+37[view] [source] 2018-09-12 04:35:08
>>noober+(OP)
The slope counts for something, but the y-intercept should not be forgotten. And in the US, the distribution along the y-intercept is huge, but often ignored.
3. skooku+v9[view] [source] 2018-09-12 05:20:54
>>noober+(OP)
> the meritocratic myth

I've been around to see people over decades, and how their decisions affect their lives. Meritocracy is not a myth. Where people wind up is very much a consequence of their choices.

This isn't the Soviet Union where one is assigned a career, a job and an apartment.

I've seen immigrants arrive here with nothing and become millionaires. That's why everyone wants to come to America. The opportunity is here.

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4. bsder+ca[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 05:30:36
>>skooku+v9
> Where people wind up is very much a consequence of their choices.

True.

But we also have lots of studies showing that the best of the lowest socioeconomic class almost never do better than the laziest of the uppermost socioeconomic class.

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5. skooku+Qa[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 05:42:59
>>bsder+ca
So why do penniless immigrants keep coming here? Do they know something poor people in America don't, or are they simply misinformed?
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6. burfog+kb[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 05:51:11
>>bsder+ca
We have social mobility, not a social lottery. Moving all the way from the bottom to the top might take a couple generations, which will obviously involve needing to win at a fierce competition.

That looks an awful lot like a meritocracy.

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7. blub+Xb[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 06:00:53
>>skooku+v9
What you've seen is irrelevant, when on the whole the lower and middle classes suffer due to lack of a social safety net and an extreme form of capitalism. There's a large amount of news articles which describe the situation of labour in the US.

If things keep going like this, those millionares will soon have to build their own fortress cities to keep all the undesirable and disgruntled poor people away.

The fact that poor people come to the US doesn't prove anything either, 99,(9)% of them will never be millionares, just like most people won't.

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8. blub+tc[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 06:08:03
>>burfog+kb
That sounds like a crap deal honestly. Come to the US, you'll probably still die poor, but at least maybe your grandchildren will do well. *

* does not apply if you or your children get shot by the police for being the wrong shade of brown, maimed by unsafe working conditions associated with low-skilled labour, get sacked because you ask for a raise, etc.

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9. skooku+Rc[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 06:13:03
>>blub+Xb
I know people who profess to be victims, too. I'll tick off the choices they made that got them where they are. Of course, they get angry with me. Nobody wants to hear the truth.

Where I am, the good and the bad, is nearly entirely the sum of my choices. For example, if you floss or not eventually has a large effect on your health. Ditto for the amount you choose to drink, smoke, and exercise. Where you choose to live, who you choose to marry, who you pick for friends, what you do with your free time, do you work to excel in school or do just enough to squeak by, what major do you select in college, it just goes on and on.

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10. will42+fd[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 06:16:42
>>bsder+ca
> we also have lots of studies showing that the best of the lowest socioeconomic class almost never do better than the laziest of the uppermost socioeconomic class.

Could you point me to one? I've seen a number of studies on averages, and anecdotally, this contradicts my experience, so I'd be interested in whatever data you're referring to.

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11. 3x+yd[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 06:19:58
>>burfog+kb
Social mobility doesn't have anything to do with it really. Even if it is easier for the average citizen to become wealthy, that doesn't entail that the ones actually doing meritorious work are being rewarded accordingly. The "merit" in your idea of a meritocracy only measures the ability to accrue wealth, which is meaningless (as proxy for the more general notion of merit) when rich assholes are rewriting the laws to their own benefit.
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12. blub+6h[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 07:18:37
>>skooku+Rc
When one US citizen can barely make ends meet, it's reasonable maybe to tell them to try harder.

When millions can barely do it, the political and business classes fucked up and they need to fix it. That's the point of goverment, they can tackle systemic issues.

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13. coldte+Vh[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 07:30:16
>>skooku+v9
>I've been around to see people over decades, and how their decisions affect their lives. Meritocracy is not a myth. Where people wind up is very much a consequence of their choices.

Choices is not the same as skills. Meritocracy is about merit, not choices.

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14. coldte+8i[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 07:33:30
>>skooku+Rc
>I know people who profess to be victims, too. I'll tick off the choices they made that got them where they are. Of course, they get angry with me. Nobody wants to hear the truth.

Who told you poor people are capable of as good choices as richer people?

When you live life in easy mode is easy to make the right choices.

It's also easy to see some people who managed to play in hard mode and win, and extrapolate to everybody (especially if you don't account for lucky breaks and mitigating factors in their course).

But because a handful managed to win in hard mode, it doesn't make it as easy as those who play in easy mode, nor it makes it any more statistically possible for the masses to win the hard mode gameplay they were dealt.

>Where I am, the good and the bad, is nearly entirely the sum of my choices.

LOL. http://thewireless.co.nz/articles/the-pencilsword-on-a-plate

(One is even tempted to wish upon people saying hat a couple some serious accident or decease that kills their savings or takes their job, or puts them into depression, or have them tend to another family member, and such, to see whether their tune will remain the same...)

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15. michae+Sk[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 08:14:33
>>skooku+Qa
This is the most ridiculous proof that America is the land of opportunity I can imagine.

From https://www.wola.org/analysis/fact-sheet-united-states-immig...

"While the total number of migrants apprehended at the U.S.-Mexico border is near its lowest level since the early 1970s, the number of apprehended unaccompanied children and families is again on the rise after a dramatic drop in the months following Trump’s inauguration.

This is a vulnerable population who, for the most part, are deliberately seeking out U.S. border security authorities and asking for protection. Affirmative requests for asylum of individuals from Guatemala, El Salvador, and Honduras have increased by 25 percent in fiscal year 2017 compared to 2016.

These people are fleeing for a reason. As White House Chief of Staff John Kelley once put it, the mass migration of children from Central America to the U.S.-Mexico border primarily consists of “[parents that] are trying to save their children.” The countries of El Salvador, Guatemala, and Honduras are facing unparalleled levels of violent crime, with El Salvador and Honduras ranking among the top five most violent countries in the world."

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16. EliRiv+dm[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 08:30:39
>>burfog+kb
I understand the US has very low social mobility, which would imply that if it is a meritocracy, it's a very bad one.

As an aside, when the word "meritocracy" was coined, it wasn't considered a good thing. It was a bad thing.

17. dgudko+fm[view] [source] 2018-09-12 08:31:02
>>noober+(OP)
>you just cannot escape poverty by just working harder.

This is a traditional, stereotypical belief that in order to escape poverty you have to work harder. This is old understanding of meritocracy and it's no longer valid. The new meritocracy is that you have to learn harder. And now, given all the learning resources available for free on the internet (which is also very accessible nowadays) it's probably the best time ever to self-educate.

Once in a while I walk past a person selling pens/begging for money in my neighborhood. I always wonder how much he could've learnt and improved his life if he spent his time on learning instead of sitting on a bench and begging for money. I have sympathy for people that are poor due to unbearable circumstances such as mental illness or disability. But I honestly don't understand why an otherwise capable person won't make an effort to self-educate in order to break out of poverty.

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18. skooku+dn[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 08:40:56
>>coldte+Vh
People choose to acquire skills, or not. It's the whole point of all the education available to Americans, most of it free. Choose it, or not. Heck, you can even get an MIT education for free over the internet. It's up to you.
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19. skooku+Ho[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 09:00:05
>>coldte+8i
> Who told you poor people are capable of as good choices as richer people?

The first step in making better choices is to realize that one is making choices.

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20. sheepm+4p[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 09:04:10
>>blub+Xb
> when on the whole the lower and middle classes suffer due to lack of a social safety net and an extreme form of capitalism.

Which policies hurt the poor and middle class the most?

Our housing policies, our immigration policies, our trade policies, and our anti-family policies.

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21. skooku+Pp[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 09:10:54
>>michae+Sk
"The United States has been the top destination for international migrants since at least 1960, with one-fifth of the world's migrants living there as of 2017."

That doesn't make much sense if the US is a hell-hole of capitalism grinding people into poverty (as immigrants usually have little).

In 2016, 1.49 million immigrants came to the US. The median age is 44, so they're hardly all children.

Meanwhile, an awful lot more want to come but can't get in legally.

> This is the most ridiculous proof that America is the land of opportunity I can imagine.

People run to opportunity, not away from it. https://www.migrationpolicy.org/article/frequently-requested...

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22. michae+Rq[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 09:25:28
>>skooku+Pp
People aren't rational you can't prove anything about anything by supposing that people make sense.

A lot of the planet is just terrible. Of the places that aren't terrible many wont let you just sneak in and make a living if you live a cash and carry lifestyle.

At best you can prove that the US is viewed as better than their current abode by people that don't live here.

This is the definition of damning with faint praise.

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23. _khau+us[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 09:46:51
>>dgudko+fm
Learning costs money, especially as an adult.

You still need to cover your basic expenses, homeless or not.

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24. ionise+Ls[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 09:50:15
>>burfog+kb
The US is among the worst of the developed nations for social mobility.
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25. skooku+dt[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 09:57:57
>>michae+Rq
If you actually believe that, it will be come a self-fulfilling prophecy for you. And that will be your choice, as the US is full of opportunity.

For example, you can get an MIT education for free on youtube, you can open a business on github for free, you can get funding for free from kickstarter, you can advertise for free on reddit, you can reach a worldwide market for free via the internet, you can write and sell a book on Amazon for free, and on and on. Nobody needs to know your age, gender, ethnicity, religion, location, disability, marital status, etc.

There's never been such opportunity, right here anywhere in America.

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26. sheepm+yt[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:01:14
>>coldte+8i
> nor it makes it any more statistically possible for the masses to win the hard mode gameplay they were dealt.

You don’t have to go back many generations to see that compared to today almost everyone played on hard mode.

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27. bko+0u[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:11:03
>>_khau+us
Learning is not just formal education. Learning costs much less money today than it probably ever has. Practically everyone in the US has the access of all the world's collective information.
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28. lr4444+lu[view] [source] 2018-09-12 10:14:27
>>noober+(OP)
The diabetic Vanessa could have chosen not to have her first baby at 16.
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29. lyzan+qv[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:29:01
>>_khau+us
While not totally free (access costs) a vast majority of the knowlage I've learned and use for my job has been from free resources online. Realistically, I've probably spent under $500 in 10 years on educational materials (excluding buying my first non-work-sponsored laptop) and am now "Senior" level in my field. Plus almost all that was in more recent years as I'm trying learn more theoretical / academic applications. Combine that with most cities having libraries with free books and in major cities free internet, and I'd argue is cheaper and easier than ever to learn, though it does still cost time.
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30. cm2012+Bv[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:31:38
>>lr4444+lu
You have no idea the kind of mental state, upbringing and understanding of the world Vanessa had at 16. One of the big reasons teen girls get pregnant is a desperate hope to fill the psychological void in their hearts created by neglectful parents.
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31. iei02n+Ev[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:31:49
>>bko+0u
And all the free time in the world while working 3 jobs:

https://youtu.be/wFNj5sireDo

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32. Solace+gw[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:42:28
>>lyzan+qv
How much of that could you do pulling multiple low-wage jobs and raising child(ren)? If you yourself had a serious chronic illness? If you yourself was raised in poverty so you had to go to schools with high failure rates and no education in which to acquire your own education?
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33. hhjink+qw[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:44:10
>>cm2012+Bv
That does not absolve her of her irresponsibility. 99% of 16-year-olds realize having a kid is a bad idea. She made her bed, and now she sleeps in it. I can empathize with her situation, but I can not empathize with anyone saying she is not herself at least partly responsible.
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34. Solace+Iw[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:47:27
>>sheepm+yt
How does that apply to today’s people, who are dealing with today’s problems and today’s struggles? Is it okay that a child in America is malnourished today because malnourishment existed?
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35. doitLP+Qw[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:48:56
>>blub+tc
Seriously? I'm guessing you don't have children. Working to improve the life of your kids and grandkids is a real driver, and is the subject of the classic immigrant story for millions of people the world over.

Police kill ~1000 people per year in the US and roughly half are white. While there is an inarguabale disparity there, that means your chances of getting shot by police are extremely, vanishingly rare. And the numbers killed each year is in steep decline. Let's abandon the fear mongering rhetoric of getting shot by police is any real threat. It makes good headlines but it's just not likely to happen to 99.9999% of people no matter their "shade of brown" as you say.

There are more worker protections, more systemic empowerment of people in all classes, all genders, all faiths, all backgrounds than ever in history. There's a lot of work to be done and the system is by no means equal. Wealth disparity is real. But the fact is there's more learning resources available for free with which to bootstrap yourself than ever. As someone descended from hard working immigrants who valued education, and who is part of an incredibly racially diverse family, I don't think it's a crap deal at all.

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36. Solace+0x[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:50:15
>>hhjink+qw
Why are we making motherhood something that cuts into someone’s career at all? Furthermore why are we making motherhood something that should punish the mother? Is it okay that a mother go without resources because she mothered too young? Is it fair/meritocratic to her child?
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37. bko+4x[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:51:25
>>iei02n+Ev
OP originally said it was expensive. She did not argue that it was easy or the person had free time.

That's a cute clip, but if you look at statistics you'll see Americans with less than a high school degree work on average 7.8 hours a day, and only 30% work on weekends and holidays.

https://www.bls.gov/news.release/atus.t04.htm

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38. m_faye+ox[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 10:55:20
>>dgudko+fm
The capacity for self-education is not innate for most people. Developing this capacity requires dedication, the ability to delay gratification, significant emotional regulation, and most importantly it requires knowing how to learn. For optimal results, these skills must be fostered from an early age all the way through young adulthood. People who grew up with deprivation or abuse or neglect are unlikely to be good self-learners as adults.
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39. iei02n+Mx[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:00:25
>>bko+4x
Statistics hide the raw numbers and emotional reality.

30% is how many people?

What’s their schedule look like if they have kids too?

That’s a cute trick, using cold hard facts to normalize away bullshit

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40. coldte+sy[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:10:24
>>sheepm+yt
>You don’t have to go back many generations to see that compared to today almost everyone played on hard mode.

Hard mode is comparable across the same game. Those in 1800 played 1800s game, those in Nigeria play the Nigerian game, etc.

You wouldn't consider it much of a success if a person with huge work, skills, and effort got themselves to 1800-era middle class possessions TODAY, would you?

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41. pressc+Fy[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:12:02
>>lyzan+qv
Time is money, as the saying goes.

When you're working a double shift to put food on the table, it's really hard to learn an extra skill set (e.g. programming) and make time to build up a resume on github (or whatever).

The cost isn't really located in the act of "buying" education.

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42. coldte+Gy[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:12:27
>>skooku+Ho
The first step in being rational though is to realize that choices are made under certain conditions, and are affected by them, not by some external agent that is totally neutral and impartial to the body's material conditions and social circumstances.

In other words, you "make" decisions only partially, and your choices are shaped by your status in life, before your conscious self can "chose".

http://science.sciencemag.org/content/338/6107/682

https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2013/11/your-br...

https://qz.com/964920/data-show-poor-people-make-better-fina...

http://news.berkeley.edu/2015/03/02/anxious-people-decisions...

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43. lyzan+6z[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:16:38
>>Solace+gw
Oh, don't get me wrong: I don't think its the best option, but the scenario first described in question was a homeless man with indefinite "free" time on their hands.

I personally work 2 full time jobs, I'm aware how scarce free time can get. I'm certainly not saying that everyone can do it on their own either. Just that cost is a very weak barrier to knowledge and that I agree you need to learn your way out of poverty.

I'm also a big proponent of basic income exactly for the reasons above, but I think the core idea is well founded. Hard work at a job (or two jobs) doesn't usually get you out of a shitty job, where as learning enough to get a better job does.

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44. baq+bz[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:17:22
>>lyzan+qv
you

1) had a job

2) had access to the internet

now trying learning anything for free online when you don't have money for food because you're jobless and don't have access to the internet because you don't have money for that either.

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45. coldte+mz[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:20:28
>>skooku+dn
>People choose to acquire skills, or not.

>It's the whole point of all the education available to Americans, most of it free. Choose it, or not. Heck, you can even get an MIT education for free over the internet. It's up to you.

It's only free if your time is worthless.

Else you have opportunity costs. Which are not just monetary (e.g. needing to work long hours to put food on the table) but human too (e.g. tending to a sick relative or raising your kid).

One could still study after his shift flipping burgers for their "MIT education for free over the internet". But they'd still be left without an actual MIT degree, and even following that free education will be much harder than the average HN commenter whose parents splurged for their education.

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46. m_faye+wz[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:22:12
>>hhjink+qw
A modern wealthy society that allows a bad-but-understandable move by a 16 year old girl to basically wreck her entire life, is a cruel society.

Also don't overlook that America is also supposed to be a country of redemption and second chances, and that we as a society derive strength from that. We foster risk-taking, and we don't throw away people who seriously screw up - but rather capitalize on the fact that those who have overcome serious mistakes often become formidable humans. This is one of the bright spots of American culture, lets not throw it away for the cheap thrill of standing in self-righteous judgment.

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47. lyzan+Bz[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:22:47
>>pressc+Fy
I work 80+ hours a week, you don't need to tell me about time. However EVERY friend I have making significantly less than me / slightly struggling works a single job and spends significant free time in front of TV or games or facebook. My friend that worked hard all the time I taught coding to in under 8 months and he broke 6 figures within 3 years. The ones that were lazy I tried and they didn't put effort in to continue and didnt learn enough to switch jobs and are still doing the same thing.
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48. pressc+rA[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:31:49
>>lyzan+Bz
To an extent, we can agree that poverty is a function of making bad decisions. Certainly, living frugally and using one's time well are necessary for financial success.

That said, making good decisions isn't sufficient, especially when you're trying to claw your way out of deep poverty.

You need more than just hard word. You need the opportunity to do the right kind of hard work, which many people lack.

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49. lyzan+uA[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:32:33
>>baq+bz
Yes, for (1) I had a $10/hr job working as a cashier until I saved up enough for a laptop and got an unpaid internship in tech.

For (2) as I said: libraries are free, coffee shops are free. hotel lobbies are free, heck some whole areas have free Wi-Fi. Internet is very easy to find.

I'll be the first to admit I had a good education, caring and supportive family, and my story would be different and harder without them, but I can't imagine a world that I didn't try to learn something new each day.

Again though, people always try and compare the worst. The solution for someone without a living wage job is a society that doesn't allow that to happen and is a different argument IMO. Getting out of abject poverty is very different than getting out of poverty / being poor.

That said, for someone homeless and jobless, time IS their greatest resource, so learning can be a useful resort. Further no one said they had to do it on their own. The main premise here is that learning is better than hard work for increasing your station. I think that's true regardless of feasibility.

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50. gregcr+zA[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:33:01
>>lr4444+lu
Maybe make abortion free and easy to access?
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51. lr4444+FA[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:33:46
>>cm2012+Bv
How about the next kid she had at 19? The 3rd she had at 21?
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52. akvadr+GA[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:34:03
>>Solace+0x
To some degree most cultures do give assistance to new mothers, at least if they are poor. It seems you are arguing for more of that; the issue is it creates bad outcomes. The poorer you are, the more practical sense it makes to have a child. Then the next generation is more likely to have grown up in less than ideal circumstances.

The only kind of children society should encourage is those in stable financially-secure families.

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53. lr4444+8B[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:38:23
>>Solace+0x
In the USA, and most developed countries, you don't have a career at 16. You are either just starting your first job or still finishing your education. You do not start popping out children as soon as or shortly after sexual maturity begins.
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54. Solace+gB[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:40:06
>>akvadr+GA
You may notice I didn’t argue for any of that. I merely argued against the viewing of motherhood as a punishment to the woman, and that it is right for her career to be stunted therefore. “She made her bed” as it were.
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55. oftenw+jB[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:40:18
>>m_faye+wz
>America is also supposed to be a country of redemption and second chances

>We foster risk-taking, and we don't throw away people who seriously screw up

These are things some Americans would like to be true, but are actually far from true, and far from universally supported. America IS a cruel society in many ways. Many Americans blame the poor for being poor, and do not support any form of public assistance. The nation does "throw away" people who screw up - the nation has a high incarceration rate.

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56. dzdt+VB[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:46:18
>>dgudko+fm
There is a pretty high threshold before book learning provides any payoff. The minimum cutoff that some employers take seriously is 12 years of school or the equivalent. Lets guess the guy selling pens is at a grade level of half that. If he could self-teach at the same rate as the education system would advance him (unlikely), that is still 6 years of sitting in a library before reaching the first threshold of significance (GED). Self-teaching is not a likely road out of a desperate situation!
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57. zero_i+YB[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:46:36
>>lyzan+uA
try being a person of color in a coffee shop or hotel lobby. Maybe you heard about some difficulties for a pair of young men had in a Philadelphia Starbucks?
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58. m_faye+sC[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:50:08
>>oftenw+jB
Yes, you're absolutely right. I guess what I should have said is that those things are parts of the American mythology, and I would really like the country to start living up to them.
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59. shafto+QC[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 11:54:04
>>iei02n+Ev
You don't get ahead by making excuses and you don't help people by defending straw men.
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60. rpvnwn+AD[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 12:01:34
>>dgudko+fm
Does “learning” really bring you out of poverty?

Or is this the same old trope with an extra step added?

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61. please+BD[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 12:01:43
>>zero_i+YB
As a POC I have never been kicked out of a library or a Starbucks and I'm from the south. Situations happen, but that doesn't mean it happens everywhere. Sometimes I wonder why when you look at me all you see is a helpless POC, it's very demoralizing and trivializes us.
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62. bko+5E[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 12:05:45
>>iei02n+Mx
Provide something to back up the claim that less educated Americans are working 3 jobs and that it's impossible for them to receive education. The evidence I provided to support my claim is not perfect but it's better than a video of bush making a joke
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63. sheepm+8E[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 12:05:56
>>coldte+sy
> Hard mode is comparable across the same game.

Our ancestors struggled in a much harsher world and got us to a point where we can enjoy easy mode.

Why can’t the poorest Americans do the same?

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64. Yingli+uE[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 12:09:02
>>rpvnwn+AD
Delayed gratification is the mechanism behind all steps.
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65. scarfa+sI[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 12:36:29
>>lyzan+uA
I'll be the first to admit I had a good education, caring and supportive family, and my story would be different and harder without them, but I can't imagine a world that I didn't try to learn something new each day.

I don’t think you’re giving this enough weight. I went to a small unknown state college and got a degree in CS. The CS curriculum was horrible. My saving grace, was that I had been a hobbyist programmer since the mid 80s when my parents bought me my first computer. When I graduated in the mid 90s, I knew I wanted to get out of the small town I grew up in. My choices were to move to a slightly larger city and developing using technology that was already out of date, but would have provided me a salary to support myself, or moving to the major metro area where I still live not making nearly enough to support myself as a computer operator based on an internship that I had the previous year.

There was no way that I could have chosen that job if I my parents hadn’t already bought me a car, paid for insurance, paid my moving expenses, and help me pay my other bills for the first six months.

I “worked hard” but I didn’t have to work two jobs to support myself.

There was another guy who graduated with me, who was just as smart, but didn’t have parents that could help him. He had to get a job in the same place that I avoided like the plague. He’s still working there 20 some years later.

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66. daddyo+5J[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 12:40:53
>>m_faye+wz
At 16, she could have chosen to do a million things that would have messed up her life. Kids can choose to hurt themselves in many ways. We can’t “not allow” kids to do jumps on their dirt bikes or venture into danger in other ways. Once they are given freedom from constant adult supervision, they have to act in self interest. You think that being 16 somehow absolves them from the responsibility of surviving. That’s ridiculous and unnatural.
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67. daddyo+eL[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 12:54:05
>>blub+tc
I knew a girl from a bad part of la. She was Latino. One time she complained to me how the cops harass her friends when they walk around the neighborhood. I asked her what kind of clothes her friends wear, and she obviously replied that they wear saggy pants and black hoodies and so on. I said that if I were in their situation, I would dress in clothes that are impossible to get you mistaken for a drug dealer or a gang banger — simple jeans and a tucked in shirt with a collar. That would be my plan if I were in their situation and I wanted the cops to stop. She just scrunched her eyebrows and said that “we don’t have to change they way we dress!” Well you don’t have to go to college or start your own business or wear any clothes at all but unfortunately you are subject to the economy and the world and you can’t have a nice life and never do anything at all to deliberately secure that end. Sorry.
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68. ss2003+rL[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 12:56:15
>>lyzan+Bz
Not everyone is cut out to be a programmer
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69. xvire+vP[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:18:52
>>_khau+us
Learning costs is only marginally higher than the cost of idleness.
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70. sharem+wQ[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:25:01
>>m_faye+ox
You also forgot the most important factor. Time. When your in school it's paid for. When your in college it's paid for. When you have children and you need to "put food on the table" the equation tips the other direction.
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71. sharem+3R[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:27:53
>>Yingli+uE
someone has to invest in you besides just you. could be parents, government, mentor, investor, teacher.
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72. sharem+iR[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:28:41
>>xvire+vP
you assume poor people are idle.
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73. kamaal+LR[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:31:34
>>dzdt+VB
There is one kind of learning that you do to get a job. But education in general is something that is beyond that.

Learning basic personal finance, or a skill, or learning to exercise, or reading about government services, learning cooking etc can go a great deal in fixing one's problems.

Education often involves learning something, its not always reading text books and writing exams.

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74. coldte+bS[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:34:01
>>sheepm+8E
Because those ancestors "struggled in a much harsher world" in easy mode.

They struggled in an era of economic upward momentum, much mobility, job creation, with a population boom, and when the US emerged as global leader. And from 30s to 70s, in a much more labor and working class friendly climate, when lots of protections and rights were established (the 8-hour work day, pensions, minimum wages, equal rights for women and foreign workers, work safety, etc).

Not on an era of stagnant wages, job outsourcing, automation, over-concentration of money to too few hands, precariousness, eroded labour rights, when other countries emerge as global leaders, and so on.

When playing life's levels, it's not just the conditions you meet that matter, it's the momentum of the whole game environment too. If the game environment constantly upgrades, gives you more guns, ammo, etc, it's easier than playing easier initial conditions but seeing very slow or negative game environment progress.

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75. kamaal+nS[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:34:50
>>sharem+iR
I don't think any one is saying its easy. People are only saying access to resources and the overall process has only gotten easier.

A person still has to work an uphill run everyday until they reach some financial break through .

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76. _rpaf+qT[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:39:51
>>shafto+QC
You also don't get ahead if you there's a perfectly valid reason outside of your control that prevents you from 'getting ahead', or makes it extremely unlikely. Most dictionaries would call those 'excuses'. And you especially don't get ahead if those valid reasons exist but are seldom discussed by the people with the most power to solve them, and are instead often reduced to 'excuses', 'lazyness', or any other straw man, like the one you're complaining about.
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77. sharem+TT[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:42:05
>>dgudko+fm
Imagine everyone was able to get "educated" and get a white collar job, what would that look like? No one to work factories or construction, wait tables, etc. Society is made by object moving not papers or digits. And people are getting pissed off because the paper pushers and the digit movers are getting all the rewards and theirs nothing left for the people doing the actual work.

Don't get me wrong I enjoy the benefits of a "good" job and I finished college to get where I am.

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78. kamaal+TU[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:46:55
>>coldte+mz
>>It's only free if your time is worthless.

If a person is poor, and they still think sparing an hour watching a Ivy League university lecture(that can vastly increase their opportunity range) isn't worth your time, they have far bigger problems related to entitlement.

>>Else you have opportunity costs.

And there they have a choice. Which opportunity is more important to one's life?

>>and even following that free education will be much harder than the average HN commenter whose parents splurged for their education.

There is often a huge space between Homelessness and being a billionaire.

You can always start doing work that is better than flipping burgers. And I don't any one will contest the fact that it will take a person years before they reach 6 figure salaries.

Again, even an entry level QA job could pay you better than flipping burger and you can work from there.

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79. radian+fW[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 13:53:48
>>m_faye+wz
The level to which you are removing Vanessa’s agency in your attempts to relieve her of responsibility is frankly sexist.

Don’t be sexist. She has agency. She has responsibility. She made her bed and now she lies in it. People with your paternalistic condescending thought process are ultimately what holds people like Vanessa back in society in the first place. Don’t take away her agency. She’s responsible for any decisions she’s made, good or bad. And 99% of her 16yr old female peers know that having a kid at 16 is a “ bad decision.” It’s literally sexist as fuck to suggest she was somehow stupid enough or irresponsible enough not to know what she was getting into. Vanessa KNEW she was making a “bad decision” and she CHOSE to make it anyway. Stop pretending like she didn’t choose it. Stop pretending like she has no agency. Stop being sexist. Thank you

80. DiffEq+7X[view] [source] 2018-09-12 13:58:54
>>noober+(OP)
You can escape poverty by working harder; it is just that working harder will not always work. It needs to be coupled with other virtues; of course the solution is not just simply to work harder, but to suggest that working harder is not a great deal part of the solution is false by every measure. Lets say this, you are born into a poor family - you still get to go to school that likely has a great library - the school and the library represent a deposit of great wealth that has been bestowed on you by society and you can take advantage of that - or not; most don't and mostly it is due to laziness. Most children would rather watch TV all day. Say you live in a "bad" neighborhood. You can pick up trash around your house or leave it there, or throw more trash on the ground. My observation is that the poor just throw more trash on the ground, they don't make their beds, they live in filthy or cluttered houses...with all that time on their poverty stricken hands they could at least organize their place. I have seen such stark differences...here in the states, in the middle east, and in Africa. I have seen impoverished people that wallow in their mire, and I have seen those that work hard to improve their situation, and though they may still be financially impoverished - they at least make the things around them a little nicer, educate their minds with what books they have and therefore live a more fulfilled life.
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81. imtyle+RY[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:08:57
>>DiffEq+7X
>My observation is that the poor just throw more trash on the ground, they don't make their beds, they live in filthy or cluttered houses...

I would argue here that you've confused correlation with causation.

Perhaps a minimum wage 60 hours/week worker just doesn't have the time or energy to make their bed, not an unwillingness. Maybe the poor conditions in a neighborhood are what make it affordable, not preferable. Etc.

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82. _khau+1Z[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:10:39
>>lyzan+Bz
> I work 80+ hours a week

Why?

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83. bjourn+UZ[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:16:13
>>DiffEq+7X
> You can escape poverty by working harder; it is just that working harder will not always work.

You can escape poverty by buying lottery tickets too. Obviously it is all about the probabilities. But if you earn $10/hour (what kind of insane unlivable wage is that?) even if you work 16h/day you'll still be poor.

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84. nkrisc+e01[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:18:23
>>hhjink+qw
How sure are you that 99% of 16 year olds realize having a kid is a bad idea? Citation needed for your 99% claim.
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85. sonnyb+F01[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:21:09
>>m_faye+wz
If she really wants to have a kid, she can have that.

To many people having a family is the #1 thing you know, the 'economics' are in support of that.

86. yawboa+Q11[view] [source] 2018-09-12 14:28:25
>>noober+(OP)
> However, if like Vanessa, you're born to lesser circumstances, you just cannot escape poverty by just working harder.

Wealth and poverty for both society and the individual a generational. This generation lifts themselves to a height that makes life better for the next generation. One life time isn't enough to measure whether working hard will make you successful.

Being born into a well off standard is being born into generations of sacrifices and hard work. If the current generation doesn't work hard to maintain they will certainly make life harder for a few generations down the line.

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87. yawboa+Z11[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:29:47
>>bjourn+UZ
If you work harder than yourself you might still be at the bottom of the pole. It's a competition. If you work harder than the next person above you, you'll definitely earn (keyword is earn) better than them or live a more comfortable life than them.
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88. Yingli+K21[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:35:34
>>sharem+3R
Do you suggest that 'delayed gratification' is a nature/nurture trait?
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89. snowwr+d31[view] [source] 2018-09-12 14:38:09
>>noober+(OP)
Attributing outcomes to inherent properties, instead of systems and interactions, seems to be a fundamental mental error that is manifested in language, at least in English.

We say that a blanket or jacket "is warm", even though all it's doing is trapping heat that we produce. We say a task "is difficult", even though we are the ones who are having the difficulty in completing it. We say an apple "is red" even if we know that the color we perceive is a property of how light interacts with the apple's matter.

And we often say that people "are poor" rather than "in poverty."

Language exists somewhere between representing the way we think, and affecting the way we think. Attributing poverty to an inherent property of a particular person, rather than their context, seems in line with how we speak (and perhaps think) about a lot of the world around us.

I think this is one reason it is so hard to fix social problems: because the first step must be a critical mass of people who can and will overcome a default way of thinking about the world.

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90. snowwr+M31[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:41:52
>>lr4444+lu
If you're arguing for widely available free contraception and sex education, I'm with you.

If you're just into shaming people for bad decisions, I'm not.

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91. jmull+X31[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:42:47
>>dgudko+fm
> ...But I honestly don't understand...

This is the part you should be focusing on.

You've developed a model to explain why people live in poverty and how they can get out. Yet, as you can plainly see yourself, it doesn't actually jibe with reality.

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92. Walter+641[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:43:46
>>m_faye+sC
The mythology is part of the situation, IMHO, rather than ideal people want to enable. It's how people avoid the anxiety without letting go of their narcissism.
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93. m_faye+J41[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 14:46:32
>>daddyo+5J
No, we should precisely look to let kids "down easy" from their errors, rather than ban activities that can lead to those errors, for the very same ends that you're advocating. When too many possible mistakes have big irreversible penalties, everyone becomes much more risk averse, and the society becomes boring and rigid. See: helicopter parenting.
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94. marknu+I71[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 15:02:49
>>snowwr+d31
Yes. They must be, how shall we say... "re-educated".
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95. hrktb+981[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 15:05:41
>>yawboa+Z11
It's all in relatives, but having a better life than the next person above might still be living dirt poor.

I think what a lot of us a eluding to, is that some people can work as much as they can, up to burnout, without ever reaching above the poverty line.

I think that would be basically fate for a minority group single mother with low education living in a poor neighbourhood. People could blame her for her life, but except if her kid is exceptional in some way, he/she would also be doomed to be poor, for instance.

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96. xvire+b81[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 15:05:53
>>sharem+iR
I don't assume anything. I just point out, that cost of self-education is indeed huge, if you measure it in profits not received from performing some labor. However, its 'price' would still be on par with being completely idle. Of course, not all poor people are idle, but some are. And if those who are indeed idle can afford idleness, non-idle people may afford self-learning.
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97. hrktb+u81[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 15:07:54
>>DiffEq+7X
> My observation is that the poor just throw more trash on the ground, they don't make their beds, they live in filthy or cluttered houses

That also matches rich kids going through college. It's hardly an indicator of anything in my opinion.

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98. Broken+4a1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 15:17:43
>>DiffEq+7X
I'm not actually poor and I don't make my bed.

My house is cluttered, mostly because I'm frugal and we live in a house that is a bit too small for our hobbies (art for me, music for the spouse, though we both dabble in the other). I have more money this way.

I'm lazy.

And honeslty, the only time I've really gotten crap for this type of thing is when I'm poor and honestly too freaking tired to do any of this stuff. THere is nothing quite like working for 8 hours, using feet for transportation, and not being able to actually feed yourself well enough to have energy nor keep your house warm enough in the winter to do much. (I kept multiple blankets on). It is really easy to just give up. I wouldn't have gotten anywhere without some help and getting really freaking lucky.

Many schools do not have a great library. That have a library adequate to the school needs. Being able to use said library at school is sometimes difficult. By the time I was in high school, the library was a rare treat in class. They weren't open after school. You could not go there during lunch. My senior year, the school I went to changed and sometimes you could go there during home room period. Before that, not really: It was only 15 minutes most times anyway.

Not everyone has a public library to use either, and even when you do, good luck. You might need transportation.

I will also assume you are talking about older children. Most 13-year olds just don't have a lot of maturity for what you describe. Perhaps a 16 or 17 year old, and hopefully they aren't so poor that they have to work to help support their family or take care of their younger siblings while their parents work.

All in all, it really kind of seems out of touch and looking from the outside in instead of the other way around.

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99. marknu+yb1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 15:25:12
>>m_faye+wz
America isn't a cruel society, it's a society that recognizes that life is inherently cruel. No amount of collective effort will ever change that, and so Americans focus on strengthening themselves in order that they will be better able to handle the cruelty of life.
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100. snthd+Eg1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 15:52:32
>>DiffEq+7X
It's not as simple as cause and effect - there's feedback in effect.

Being poor changes how you think and who you are.

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101. ryandr+sh1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 15:56:04
>>snowwr+M31
I don’t see any attempt to shame here. Having a kid is just a really bad financial decision. I should know, I have one! Would not recommend it for someone just starting their career or trying to climb out of poverty. I wish schools would teach about the massive financial consequences of raising a child. That would probably help immensely.
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102. kart23+Kl1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 16:23:10
>>skooku+v9
That last point really hits home with me. Everyone keeps saying the american dream is bullshit, but I know many people who lived it, including my own parents. I know people that came here on a boat with nothing, and now living in 10 million dollar homes. America is the only country where one can experience both extremes in one lifetime.
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103. Faark+qo1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 16:36:11
>>Broken+4a1
> I'm lazy.

I am as well. And have parents enabling this behavior, with an career outcome as bad as you could expect. I can totally understand that part of the political spectrum doesn't want to encourage this at all (favorable interpretation of them), even though they IMO often overshoot that goal and advance less optimal outcomes.

> I will also assume you are talking about older children. Most 13-year olds just don't have a lot of maturity for what you describe.

Your phrasing makes this seem like a natural fact. Finding ways to deeply engrave important values (work hard, strive for greatness, delayed gratification, stuff like that) into future generations seems like a real challenge right now. And what makes stories like [0] so interesting. Evolution doesn't take care of that job for us anymore in a "work or starve" way. Religious "work or go to hell" probably did an ok job for a while, but comes with a lot of other baggage. A very capitalistic "work if you want a decent live" society over many generations leads to increasingly unequal starting conditions for offspring and thus seems especially incompatible with democracy, since it will lead to "the system is rigged, lets burn it down" votes, as recently observed all over the western world.

So what's next? As mentioned in my prior anecdote, mostly letting your children do what they want, thinking this will naturally make them strive for greatness, will probably not work. What are the necessary environmental factors parents and society should provide to shape future humans into productive members of society? I'm sure with all our knowledge, mankind can do better than the earlier simple carrot & stick systems.

[0] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17905657

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104. sharem+Eq1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 16:48:34
>>Yingli+K21
As far As I've seen, all traits are a combination of nature/nurture.
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105. sleded+zv1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 17:19:34
>>Faark+qo1
This is only a problem with the West. The East does not have a culture of laziness. They will simply take the mantel if we falter.

Just because the West is no longer hungry doesn’t mean that nobody is.

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106. stale2+Iw1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 17:27:14
>>pressc+Fy
Most people, even poor people, aren't working 2 jobs.
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107. coldte+2x1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 17:28:53
>>kamaal+TU
>If a person is poor, and they still think sparing an hour watching a Ivy League university lecture(that can vastly increase their opportunity range) isn't worth your time, they have far bigger problems related to entitlement.

Compared to working to put food on the table?

Not to mention that after back-to-back shifts, your ability to take in a Ivy League university lecture diminishes compared to somebody whose parents pay for their college...

And that's assuming you even have the necessary background in your underfunded school district and impoverished childhood to seek it and understand it in the first place....

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108. Fellsh+iJ1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 18:48:28
>>snowwr+d31
It is easier now than ever, though, when we can point to countless examples of class mobility in modern times, both upwards and downwards; and it helps that those are stories people love to tell.
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109. Fellsh+IJ1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 18:50:52
>>oftenw+jB
Because we rejected the local institutions that are there to catch those rejected from the larger society and bring them back into the fold. It's a multi-component, multi-tiered system where we've decided to unplug all but the parts we think are most visible.
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110. daddyo+jO1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 19:15:43
>>m_faye+J41
Helicopter parenting basically augments the kids decision making. The parent guides them through everything. When the consequences are real, even permanent sometimes, and the it’s up to the kids to do the right thing, and they know it, and they’ve been educated properly on it, then you get a person who is healthy. They develop risk assessment and management and use it in their adult life where, surprise, you have to make essentially life or death decisions every day. You can rack up 30k on your credit card in a single swipe and, for a lot of people, that would be a kind of death. Almost every decision we make has irreversible consequences. The earlier kids learn to deal with that, the better. As long as they are educated and prepared in some way.
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111. skooku+FS1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 19:38:16
>>coldte+2x1
The Khan Academy has a complete set of primary and secondary education (and even college level) videos to provide necessary background. All for free, of course. They're just a click away:

https://www.khanacademy.org/

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112. Broken+zV1[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 19:55:41
>>Faark+qo1
Your phrasing makes this seem like a natural fact. Finding ways to deeply engrave important values (work hard, strive for greatness, delayed gratification, stuff like that) into future generations seems like a real challenge right now. A

My comment was really more about brain development, maturity, puberty (and the hormones that go with it), and things like that. It doesn't mean they are lazy or anything like that at all. These things are learned, and these young people aren't even in high school.

"mostly letting them do what they want" isn't true now and I don't think that has ever been true. As far as what to do next, we can start by trying to make sure folks have stable households which include not only things like shelter, food, and medical care but also things like internet access. These things lessen the stresses that are an issue - being poor won't necessarily make you suffer.

Make sure kids have freedom to explore. Treat kids like they are intelligent (they are, just not mature) and teach what sort of work goes into getting things. Be realistic about what to expect out of life (for example, a chem degree might really wind up working in a lab somewhere). We could do things like showing kids how work and patience pays off by allowing "fun" subjects (arts, music, inclusive sports, "hobby" classes). Increases in freedoms as kids get older so they can experiment with some of their choices (Such as being able to have free contact with friends, choosing one's own classes, ability to not follow in the parent's religion). A 13 year old might not be mature enough to realise what to do to make their future better 15 years into the future, but these sorts of lessons can be taught so when the maturity catches up it'll come together.

(I should note that naturally, some kids are geared more towards some of the long-term planning than others and I cannot speak for all young folks, just what I notice).

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113. michae+w62[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 20:56:42
>>skooku+dt
Nobody said there wasn't wealth and promise for many in America. If you remember the first comment you replied to.

"But we also have lots of studies showing that the best of the lowest socioeconomic class almost never do better than the laziest of the uppermost socioeconomic class."

The entire point is that there is inequality of opportunity and unequal return on equal potential not that there isn't opportunity.

If you recall the post I replied to you said

"So why do penniless immigrants keep coming here? Do they know something poor people in America don't, or are they simply misinformed?"

This is terrible logic. This is a wealthy nation with lots to offer but people here have actual problems here too. You are glibly dismissing these actual problems with bad logic which personally makes me very angry. Who the heck are you.

Imagine if someone was talking about how racism was still a problem in America and you piped in with how your black doctor friend's practice was doing great and people shouldn't let negatives become a self fulfilling prophesy.

Well no shit but what we were actually talking about was inequality in America which we can actually do something about.

From the individual's prospective whatever society does the individual ought to do the best they can and for many decent lives await in spite of challenges. From the perspective of society we ought to try to maximize everyone's chances as best we can.

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114. snowwr+De2[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 21:46:32
>>ryandr+sh1
Without access to contraceptives and sex education, it is impossible for women to make a decision about whether or not to have a kid. They can only choose whether or not to have sex; pregnancy just sometimes happens if they do. Good luck getting a 16 year old (any 16 year old) to make good decisions about sex.

By sarcastically pretending that this 16-year-old made an affirmative choice to become a parent, the parent is actually trying to shame her for having sex as a teenager.

This goes directly to the heart of the article's point. Rather than confront a system that places some people at a disadvantage (lack of access to birth control or childcare), it's easier to insinuate that a person's hard life is solely the result of their own bad decisions.

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115. bsder+ui2[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 22:18:11
>>skooku+Qa
> So why do penniless immigrants keep coming here? Do they know something poor people in America don't, or are they simply misinformed?

My ancestors came here because life in the "Old Country" was so bad that braving the crossing of the Atlantic in cattle class on a ship, coming through Ellis Island, finding out that working in New York wasn't much better, and finally landing in the steel mills and coal mines of Western Pennsylvania was a step UP--but not by much.

Those same ancestors also stood in front of bullets from Pinkertons because that was preferable to allowing their working conditions to continue.

The fact that immigrants move is generally a sign of how shitty the place they are leaving is, not necessarily a sign of how good their destination is.

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116. bsder+sp2[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-12 23:17:56
>>will42+fd
Also talks about the issues of measuring inter-generational mobility ...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Socio-economic_mobility_in_the...

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117. will42+gC2[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 01:34:13
>>bsder+sp2
I looked through the article but couldn't find a study to back your claim. Can you please look link directly to a study that specifically looks at the most successful members of the underprivileged and compares them to the laziest members or the upper class? I know a good deal about social mobility and your claim reads like something somebody made up.

Edit: in fact, the Wikipedia article directly contradicts your claim, saying "Looking at larger moves, only 4% of those raised in the bottom quintile moved up to the top quintile as adults. Around twice as many (8%) of children born into the top quintile fell to the bottom" - suggesting that the best of the underprivileged are far more successful than the laziest of the over-privileged.

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118. ryandr+lE2[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 02:00:34
>>snowwr+De2
Good point--I guess I was assuming the children were voluntary, i.e. she was not raped or pressured into having children, which might be a bad assumption given her tragic background.
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119. burfog+9N2[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 03:56:06
>>Solace+0x
Motherhood doesn't cut into someone's career. Motherhood is a career. It's a privilege, not a punishment.

People who make bad decisions will often go without resources. Society thus diverts resources to people who make good decisions. Things work better this way, with much less waste. We get more messed up families if government pays people to have messed up families.

I don't think that "she mothered too young". There is nothing wrong with age 16. The problem is instead that she didn't first find a suitable husband to support her family.

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120. skooku+pP2[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 04:27:42
>>bsder+ui2
And yet they still come to the US in great waves, 1.49 million a year, and many more try to get here.
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121. bsder+HU2[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 05:48:10
>>will42+gC2
I will try to find the actual study link.

Percentages hides values:

"However, because US income inequalities have increased substantially, the consequences of the "birth lottery" - the parents to whom a child is born - are larger today than in the past. US wealth is increasingly concentrated in the top 10% of American families, so children of the remaining 90% are more likely to be born at lower starting incomes today than the same children in the past. Even if they are equally mobile and climb the same distance up the US socioeconomic ladder as children born 25 years earlier, the bottom 90% of the ladder is worth less now, so they gain less income value from their climb ... especially when compared to the top 10%."

And, those who fall from the top quintile are likely starting at the 80% point and not the 95% point.

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122. yawboa+y63[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 08:58:34
>>hrktb+981
> It's all in relatives, but having a better life than the next person above might still be living dirt poor.

This is true. But the fact that you're not fixed in your position and could live better is an incentive to keep moving. Thus if you don't stop at the person right above you then there's hope you can make the jump to a better living condition.

> I think what a lot of us a eluding to, is that some people can work as much as they can, up to burnout, without ever reaching above the poverty line.

Again, this is true. But whose fault? I think we could get rid of the concept of poverty line and let people decide for themselves. 2 person making $500/mo in California could be living different lives. It's possible for one of them to not consider themselves poor. But they're out of luck since their poverty status isn't defined by them. It's imposed by the state.

> I think that would be basically fate for a minority group single mother with low education living in a poor neighbourhood. People could blame her for her life, but except if her kid is exceptional in some way, he/she would also be doomed to be poor, for instance.

Story of my life. Illiterate parents, but committed to giving their children a better life. My believe that wealth is generational, that state should define a poverty line stems from this story of my life. It's less a matter of fate than decisions and commitment to exiting a terrible situation.

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123. m_faye+h83[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 09:23:30
>>marknu+yb1
Citation needed.
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124. dgudko+Sn4[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 20:03:29
>>m_faye+ox
>The capacity for self-education is not innate for most people.

I disagree. Most mentally healthy people are capable of self-education. Self-education is what makes human a human. Being an adult person requires working self-education skill -- using public transit, bank services, mobile phones, internet, microwave ovens, TV sets, driving, etc -- all requires self-education to some extent. Getting professional skills is more difficult, but it just requires more effort, not a completely new skill.

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125. dgudko+oo4[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 20:06:32
>>rpvnwn+AD
You still need to work hard, but working hard smarter works better than just working hard.
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126. dgudko+Jo4[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 20:08:13
>>xvire+b81
What's the cost of self-education of a person that doesn't much anyway? Sitting on a bench all day is not labor, it's a waste of time.
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127. dgudko+xp4[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-13 20:13:22
>>dzdt+VB
Payoff is somewhat proportional to self-education effort. For a big payoff you may need to spend years on learning. But for many people earning extra few hundreds bucks per month can drastically change their lifestyle. And that kind of change doesn't require years of self-education, but a little bit of curiosity, determination and perseverance.
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128. sinker+QV6[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-14 23:04:49
>>lyzan+Bz
I see comments like these often enough to convince me that a large portion of the active HN audience are simply out of touch with what's going on outside their major city tech bubble.

Not everyone is going to be able to find a well-paying tech job. How many times have you come onto this forum seeing active HNers who are tech-literate and have a history of programming employment complain that they cannot find a job?

Look at your neighbors.. everyday people like your grocer or mechanic or mailperson.. Take a look outside your bubble. Not everyone is going to be able to be fluent in tech even with great effort. It's not so much that it's impossible, but that's it's incredibly unrealistic.

The only reason I've been able to work as a programmer is because I lucked into it. I got hooked when I was 12 or so because I found it fun. I had plenty of time and enjoyed it. If I had to do it all over today out of desperation I'm not sure I could will myself to do something completely foreign and uninteresting.

I think you take for granted the knowledge foundation that you were given.

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129. ryan_j+Tv8[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-09-16 08:10:08
>>DiffEq+7X
> with all that time on their poverty stricken hands

No offense, but this screams of ignorance. If you take into account the poverty tax [1], poor people pay more for many goods, have worse access to many services, and encounter much higher transaction costs to accomplishing normal life.

For example, if you are a single mother in Southside Chicago living in a food desert and far from the main L/Subway/Metro lines, then you take longer to commute to work, to go grocery shopping, to pick your kids up, etc. There are many additional costs to being poor that easily explain why they don't focus on "making their beds" or "organizing their place".

The Atlantic has a good article on decision fatigue and poverty "Your Brain on Poverty: Why Poor People Seem to Make Bad Decisions And why their "bad" decisions might be more rational than you'd think" that is worth a read [2].

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ghetto_tax

[2] https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2013/11/your-br...

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