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1. spanka+(OP)[view] [source] 2026-01-13 17:22:25
I don't get "avoiding the ugliness" when someone dies. We need to acknowledge the ugliness and try to do better.

Acting like "oh, he was trolling", or "it was just a small amount of hating Black people and women" is exactly how you get Steven Miller in the fucking White House.

We need to make it shameful to be bigoted again, and that means calling out the bigotry even in death.

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2. wussbo+J3[view] [source] 2026-01-13 17:34:02
>>spanka+(OP)
Is "calling out the bigotry" useful? I feel like the Internet has been used for this purpose pretty consistently for the last 15 years. Is it effective? Is there less bigotry now than before?

I would argue it has not in fact been useful, that making it shameful hasn't reduced it, and that calling it out in death is not useful in reducing it. I think we do it because it's easier than doing something useful and it makes us feel good.

I hate bigotry as well. I encourage to do something IRL about it.

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3. lotsof+g4[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:36:04
>>wussbo+J3
Making the bigotry known is helpful, because while it might not cause a reduction, it is valuable information for all members of society.
4. noobah+95[view] [source] 2026-01-13 17:38:52
>>spanka+(OP)
He was just 'trolling' for leftist Democrats. So no ugliness. There.
5. testde+m6[view] [source] 2026-01-13 17:42:06
>>spanka+(OP)
I see where you’re coming from. But I’d argue that there’s broad consensus that his bigotry at the end was bad. So in this one moment, when we’ve just learned that he’s died, we can recall the good as well as the bad.

It is shameful to have those views. But perhaps we can bring it up tomorrow rather than right this minute.

6. inglor+A6[view] [source] 2026-01-13 17:42:57
>>spanka+(OP)
By this standard, many, of not most of the artists that lived prior to the Civil Rights Era are to be thrown out.

I don't really want to study fluctuating levels of religious bigotry in Bach's life when I listen to his works.

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7. Teever+p7[view] [source] 2026-01-13 17:45:22
>>spanka+(OP)
'Don't speak ill of the dead' comes from an era where everyone genuinely believed that the dead could haunt you from the grave.

It continues to have prominance in our society due to inertia and the fact that some people want a positive legacy to endure long after they pass regardless of whether or not they did anything in life to deserve that kind of legacy.

As the person you're replying to wrote it better than I ever could I'll write what they just shared becauase I think it's worth repeating, "taking inventory is harder than eulogizing or denouncing. But it’s more honest."

We should strive for honesty in these kinds of discussions over sensitivity.

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8. shimma+M7[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:46:49
>>inglor+A6
What's wrong with this tho? Maybe we should stop uplifting people when we find out they are nasty individuals. Acting like there aren't also artists that are good people is odd, these are the ones deserving our attention.

FWIW, I use to be a big fan of Crystal Castles (like listening to 4+ hours a day for close to a decade). It was a core part of my culture diet. Once it was known that Ethan Kath was a sexual predator that groomed teenage girls, I simply stopped listening or talking about them ever.

Why is this hard? IDK, it really feels like people put too much of their identity into cultural objects when they lack real communities and people in their lives.

Also throwing it out there, I don't really know much about Scott Adams (or his work for that matter). Dilbert comics weren't widespread memes on the phpBB forums I'd post on throughout the 00s and 10s.

edit: spelling

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9. RIMR+l8[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:48:38
>>inglor+A6
Enjoy Bach's music all you want, but when I read his biography those difficult details better be in there, and if that ruins his music for you that's on you.
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10. rglull+V8[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:51:04
>>shimma+M7
Why is it so difficult to separate the work from its creator?
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11. stetra+09[view] [source] 2026-01-13 17:51:12
>>spanka+(OP)
In the context of the above comment I read "avoiding the ugliness" as avoiding incorporating it and continuing it in your own life, not shying away from talking about and addressing it.

This comment actually makes a specific point of calling it out compared to some others here.

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12. victor+59[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:51:23
>>inglor+A6
We can hold people today to modern standards.

You can’t burn a woman at the stake today and say ”oh well, 300 years ago it was normal so”.

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13. zemo+m9[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:52:21
>>inglor+A6
I think there's a big difference between the following:

- enjoying the work of an unrepentant bigot who died hundreds of years ago, whose work is in the public domain, who does not materially benefit from your spectatorship (what with them being dead and all)

- enjoying the work of an unrepentant bigot who is alive today, whose work they have ownership of, who materially benefits from your spectatorship

- enjoying the work of an unrepentant bigot who died mere minutes ago, whose work is owned by their estate, whose heirs materially benefit from your spectatorship

I think the first category is fine, the second category is unambiguously not fine, and the third category is ambiguous, but I would err on the side of "don't consume".

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14. inglor+J9[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:53:31
>>shimma+M7
"What's wrong with this tho?"

The thing that is wrong about it is that the purity spiral may get out of control and result in wholesale purging of art, Iconoclast-style (or perhaps Cultural Revolution-style).

I don't trust people with an instinct to purge history. They rarely know when to stop.

Plus, standards change a lot. Picasso had a teenage mistress. It wasn't as scandalous back then. Should we really be so arrogant as to push our current standards on the entire humanity that once was? If yes, we will be obliterated by the next generation that applies the same logic to us, only with a different set of taboos.

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15. pbreit+U9[view] [source] 2026-01-13 17:54:31
>>spanka+(OP)
One good reason to avoid it is because you're probably wrong.
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16. inglor+ba[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:55:23
>>zemo+m9
Is it fine to pirate such works, then?

I don't think I ever paid for a Dilbert comics strip, though I never downloaded them from somewhere illegal either.

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17. inglor+Fa[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:56:36
>>victor+59
I can agree with this when it comes to actual violent actions, but not with regard to words or thoughts.
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18. RajT88+Ka[view] [source] 2026-01-13 17:56:47
>>spanka+(OP)
The thinking is that not "speaking ill of the dead" is not just respect, but doing anything else is pointless.

You will not change them, and everyone present already made up their mind on their behavior.

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19. neom+Za[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:57:29
>>Teever+p7
When I was a young man my mother did use that but explained ill more in the sense of unfair/unkind. I guess as an adult you realize everyone ends up living a somewhat complicated existence, and it's easier (maybe even sometimes safer) to say this person was bad than it is to say this person did unacceptable things.
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20. stetra+2b[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:57:48
>>inglor+J9
"Acknowledge the ugliness and try to do better" and purging art and history are different things. The comment you replied to above did not call for a purging of Adams' work or life from history.
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21. mrtest+cb[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 17:58:25
>>wussbo+J3
Think about all the things people have done in the real world the last 50 years to combat bigotry. During the civil rights movement of the 60s, black people sat at segregated lunch counters and marched peacefully in the street, and were consequently spat on and attacked by white mobs, beaten by police, sprayed with fire hoses, attacked by dogs, etc.

In the last 10 years, the modern black lives matter movement has triggered similar violent backlashes, with every public gathering drawing a militarized police response and hateful counter-protesters. On a policy level, even the most milquetoast corporate initiatives to consider applications and promotions from diverse candidates of equal merit are now being slandered and attacked. In education, acknowledgment of historical racial and gender inequality is under heavy censorship pressure.

It really does seem like the more effective we are at acting IRL, the greater the backlash is going to be.

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22. inglor+3c[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:01:26
>>stetra+2b
It seems to me that, even here in this discussion, people call for avoiding work of such authors. Would that entail, say, pressure on galleries not to show such art? If so, that is more than half way to a purge.
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23. tdeck+7c[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:01:36
>>shimma+M7
Personally I think this (admittedly long) video makes a good agument on the subject.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=oG5EpzGmAtA&pp=0gcJCTIBo7VqN5t...

My TL;DR Choosing not to financially support a creator for ethical seasons makes sense as an ethical stance. But that doesn't mean the media we like needs to always reflect our values.

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24. spanka+ec[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:01:54
>>pbreit+U9
Wrong about what?

Are you saying that Scott Adams was right and, say, white people _should_ avoid black people? Or are you saying that we shouldn't remember how awful people were once they die?

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25. zemo+Ac[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:03:07
>>inglor+ba
I personally would go with no, because you're still propagating their cultural product. One rarely consumes media with the intention of keeping it a secret; half the point of watching a movie or tv show is to talk about it. The entire sociological function of celebrities is that we talk about them. "I am doing research on Scott Adams and I want to consume some Dilbert as a research device", um, sure, I guess, I dunno, why are you doing research on a recently dead bigot, what is the purpose of that. etc.

I'm not -your- conscience, I can only explain my own. To me? No, that's not fine.

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26. b3lved+Ic[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:03:57
>>inglor+Fa
Laws are words
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27. Silver+Pc[view] [source] 2026-01-13 18:04:29
>>spanka+(OP)
Agree with this. I didn’t agree with it in the past, but I can see now that it has caused the issue you raise. I don’t know if this is a great insight, but one reason I think people have not connected the results (Stephen Millers in the White House) back to the action (not speaking ill of the dead) is because THEY are not the ones affected. When Stephen Miller is in the White House, it’s all the non white people - including legal immigrants and naturalized citizens and citizens born here - that are living in fear of where the administration will go. I doubt others are aware that there is this fear, or even that the DHS’s official account tweets out threats to deport a third of the country.
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28. b3lved+Zc[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:05:21
>>rglull+V8
Without the creator no work. Can i like the work and hate the creator? Absolutely.
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29. Araina+9d[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:05:40
>>RajT88+Ka
They didn't, though. Plenty of people who had one reputation at their death have had that reputation change over time, especially with more information and awareness of what they did. Sometimes their reputations improve, sometimes they decline.

Speaking only positively about people distorts the reality.

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30. stetra+nd[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:06:20
>>inglor+3c
Personally avoiding consumption and calling for a purge from history are not equivalent.

Even calling for a boycott or lack of commercialization of something is not purging from history.

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31. mempko+Ad[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:06:49
>>inglor+A6
In any period of history, there are people who know things are wrong and are vocal about it. There are artists prior to the Civil Rights Era that were not bigots. The problem you have is the artists that were celebrated AT THAT TIME which we know about were also those accepted by the status quo which allowed them to be known.

People knew slavery was wrong when slavery was happening. People knew child labor was wrong when child labor was happening. People knew segregation was wrong when segregation was happening. Those people were not rewarded by society.

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32. SoftTa+Bd[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:06:57
>>Teever+p7
In the modern era it's usually said because the dead person cannot defend himself.

Now, Adams had plenty of opportunities to defend/explain his comments on certain issues, and he did not satisfy many people with those or perhaps dug himself in deeper (I myself really only know him from Dilbert in the 1990s, and am only superficially aware of anything controversial he did/said outside of that).

But I don't see anyone saying anything about him now that was not being said when he was alive.

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33. shimma+Kd[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:07:16
>>inglor+3c
That's not purging at all, words have meaning. If you grep my comment you might be encountering a massive bug if you found the word purge.

You can still stream all of Crystal Castles songs on every platform, you can still buy their music, their albums still have hundreds of seeders on trackers. Just as I'm sure you can buy your Dilbert books.

Telling people to maybe look up to better humans, which it needs to be stated have always existed and aren't a modern invention, should be encouraged.

One of the other threads in here an OP states that we should use this moment to reflect and do better in our own lives, what is wrong with this viewpoint?

We've seen countless examples of people getting sucked into social media holes and I've yet to encounter a single case where this has ever led to healthy outcomes.

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34. teknop+Sd[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:08:04
>>RajT88+Ka
Adams stated he was racist and thought that was aok.

I'd say calling him out as a racist is not exactly speaking ill of the dead in this case.

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35. ALittl+ue[view] [source] 2026-01-13 18:10:10
>>spanka+(OP)
Ah, yes. Trump and friends are in the White House because nobody called them racist. Excellent political analysis.
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36. m0llus+1f[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:12:29
>>Teever+p7
No. Disbelief has always been around. That there is no Church of Disbelief is a feature not a bug. Not speaking ill of the dead has a range of connotations, probably most prominent being avoiding easy targets that can't defend themselves. Want to show righteousness and strength of conviction? Then try a live target. There are many.
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37. spanka+Kf[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:14:51
>>inglor+3c
People often like to conflate criticism and personal choice with censorship, but they're not the same.

We're allowed to avoid consuming the work of artists we think are horrible humans. We're allowed to encourage others to do that too even. None of that is purging or censorship.

38. NoMore+Tf[view] [source] 2026-01-13 18:15:21
>>spanka+(OP)
>We need to make it shameful to be bigoted again,

We have made our society shameless. Pornographers, gamblers, and truly creepy people are told that it's fine to be what they are. I dunno, maybe that really is the case. But having abandoned shame as a method of social cohesion, you don't get to resurrect it for those things you dislike. The two-edged sword cuts both ways.

I did not follow the Scott Adams brouhaha when it happened, and vaguely I somehow get the impression it's like the Orson Scott Card thing. I'm afraid to check for fear that when I do I will find there was nothing he should've been ashamed for. People use the word "bigot" to mean things I can't seem to categories as bigotry.

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39. nutjob+gg[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:16:59
>>RajT88+Ka
Respect is earned by your actions and deeds, not by your death.

When someone I know dies, I speak frankly about them, good or bad, because to do otherwise is a lie, and the most disrespectful thing to do is to misrepresent a person who no longer can represent themselves.

Scott Adams did what he did, that's surely not in question. Honor his life by speaking frankly about how he affected oneself and others, good or bad. Let the chips fall where they may.

40. standa+Ng[view] [source] 2026-01-13 18:18:53
>>spanka+(OP)
Personally, I despise an outspoken bigot like Scott Adams more when they die, not less, because now their window for growth and repentance has closed. The grotesqueness they harbored becomes permanently tied to their legacy.
41. nobody+0h[view] [source] 2026-01-13 18:19:46
>>spanka+(OP)
What exactly was the bad stuff? He was insensitive about empirical reality or he was literally wrong about something in the sense of being very confident about something despite having little data? Or something else? I only remember the cartons really but was aware some people seemed to be irked about him recently.
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42. option+hh[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:20:34
>>RajT88+Ka
The best we can do for the dead is remember them as they were, good and bad, not demonize them nor write hagiographies for them
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43. yellow+Bi[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:25:04
>>wussbo+J3
> Is "calling out the bigotry" useful?

There is immense value in acknowledging and learning from the mistakes of others, yes, even after their deaths.

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44. psunav+5k[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:30:23
>>NoMore+Tf
The difference is Orson Scott Card only seemed to have been called out for being a bog-standard Mormon, at least as far as I know.
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45. Angost+Uk[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:34:04
>>RajT88+Ka
So, no need to speak of them at all
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46. jimmyd+Zl[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:38:04
>>nobody+0h
Some random internet poll said many people of race A agreed it was "not OK" to be a person of race B. Adams said if that were true, then people of race B should probably not hang out with people of race A that thought it was not OK to be race B. The internet did its thing and quoted him out of context, and tried to cancel him. He dug in his heels and doubled down. He also liked a certain president that many dislike. And here we are.
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47. revnod+Mm[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:41:05
>>Araina+9d
Why is their reputation relevant? They're dead.

Reputation guides your behavior toward that person. But they're no longer around. There is no behavior toward them. They're gone. Their reputation is no longer relevant.

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48. CaptWi+4n[view] [source] 2026-01-13 18:42:05
>>spanka+(OP)
"We need to make it shameful to be bigoted again"

Interesting way to put it. For the past decade or so, many flavors of bigotry have been lauded and socially rewarded.

At the same time, many valid viewpoints and statements have been mislabeled as "bigotry" by the incurious and hivemind-compliant.

These things are balancing out lately, but quite a lot of damage was done.

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49. jakeyd+Un[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:45:52
>>CaptWi+4n
Care to elaborate on what flavors of bigotry have been lauded and socially rewarded/what valid viewpoints and statements have been mislabeled as bigotry? I feel like you're being intentionally vague to avoid taking a stance here.
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50. JadeNB+eo[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:46:43
>>revnod+Mm
> Reputation guides your behavior toward that person. But they're no longer around. There is no behavior toward them. They're gone. Their reputation is no longer relevant.

It also culturally informs someone's perceived suitability as a role model. It doesn't matter to the dead person if they are held in high or low esteem, but it may matter to people in their formative stages deciding whose influence they follow and whose they shun.

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51. TheOth+lo[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:47:04
>>inglor+J9
The purity spiral on the other side is already batshit. "If you support that we're going to say you're bad and not buy your work" is quite a way from widespread physical and media violence.

Adams was a mediocre bureaucrat who discovered he could make a living as a competent comedian. His success at that persuaded him that he was an Important Moral Authority.

He started as a banker and ended as a self-harming prosperity preacher - not exactly a rare archetype in the US.

The funny parts were funny. The rest, not so much.

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52. jakeyd+6p[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:49:39
>>neom+Za
We've done this with our kid(s). Saying "you're being bad" or "you are bad" is very different from "You're choosing to do bad things."
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53. reduce+Dp[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:52:33
>>jimmyd+Zl
> The internet did its thing and quoted him out of context

Let's not act like this is some case of out of context quotes. Here's the actual quote for people to decide for themselves:

"I'm going to back off from being helpful to Black America because it doesn't seem like it pays off. I get called a racist. That's the only outcome. It makes no sense to help Black Americans if you're white. It's over. Don't even think it's worth trying. I'm not saying start a war or do anything bad. Nothing like that. I'm just saying get away. Just get away."

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54. CaptWi+Wp[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:53:40
>>jakeyd+Un
No, I think my stance is pretty clear.

If you don't recognize the patterns of incuriosity, groupthink and misguided confidence that have permeated western society in the last ten years, nothing I say here is going to enlighten you.

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55. RajT88+6s[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 18:59:48
>>JadeNB+eo
I'm not saying it's right to not "speak ill of the dead". Just that that's the reasoning I've seen in my family.
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56. spruce+Zs[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 19:02:57
>>CaptWi+4n
> These things are balancing out lately

What measures and data do you base that claim on?

https://www.cgdev.org/blog/update-lives-lost-usaid-cuts "lives lost based on the decline in outlays (current spending) may be in the range of 500,000 to 1,000,000 and potential lives lost based on the decline in obligations (commitments to future spending) are between 670,000 and 1,600,000."

What is your best estimate of deaths due to "woke" or whatever you consider the scourge of the "past decade" to be?

How many visas revoked due to the holder being not woke enough? How many people were deported from the US for being insufficiently woke? And so on. "Woke" may not be what you meant. Whatever you meant, present your measure and data.

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57. derefr+Fu[view] [source] 2026-01-13 19:07:45
>>spanka+(OP)
I think this is a question of who you're talking to, and is something you have to evaluate on a case-by-case basis.

If the person/people you're speaking with, already followed this public figure, or was forced by society to be aware of the life of this public figure at all times — and so were surely also aware of the bad turn that person's career/life took — then to your audience, the ugliness would have already been long acknowledged. To your audience, the ugliness may be the only thing anyone has spoken about in reference to the public figure for a long time.

And, for an audience who became aware of the public figure a bit later on in their lives, the bad stuff might be all they know about them! (Honestly, there are more than a few celebrities that I personally know only as a subject of ongoing public resentment, with no understanding of what made them a celebrity in the first place.)

In both of these cases, if this is your audience, then there's no point to carrying on the "this is a bad person" reminders during the (usually very short!) mourning period that a public figure gets. They already know.

On the other hand, if you presume someone who has no idea who a certain person is, and who is only hearing about them in the context of their death — then yes, sure, remind away.

I think, given the audience of "people in a comment thread on Hacker News about the death of Scott Adams", people here are likely extremely aware of who Scott Adams is.

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That said, on another note, I have a personal philosophy around "celebrations of life", that I formed after deciding how to respond to the death of my own father, himself a very complicated man.

People generally take the period immediately after someone's death as a chance to put any kind of ongoing negative feelings toward someone on pause for just a moment, to celebrate whatever positive contributions a person made, and extract whatever positive lessons can be learned from those contributions.

Note that the dead have no way of benefitting from this. They're dead!

If you pay close attention, most of a community does after the death of one of its members, or a society does after the death of a public figure... isn't really a veneration; there is no respect or face given. Rather, what we're doing with our words, is something very much like what the deceased's family are doing with their hands: digging through the estate of the deceased to find things of value to keep, while discarding the rest. Finding the pearls amongst the mud, washing them off, and taking them home.

Certainly, sometimes the only pearl that can be found is a lesson about the kind of person you should strive not to be. But often, there's at least something useful you can take from someone's life — something society doesn't deserve to lose grasp of, just because it was made by or associated with someone we had become soured on.

I think it's important to note that if we don't manage to agree to a specific moment to all mutually be okay with doing this "examination of the positive products of this person's life" — which especially implies "staying temporarily silent about the person's shortcomings so as to make space for that examination"... then that moment can never happen. And that's what leads to a great cultural loss of those things that, due to their association with the person, were gradually becoming forgotten.

Nobody (save for perhaps a few devoutly religious people) argues that you should never speak ill of the dead. People really just want that one moment — perhaps a week or two long? — to calmly dredge up and leaf through the deceased's legacy like it's a discount bin at a record store, without having to defend themselves at each step of that process from constant accusations that they're "celebrating a bad person."

And it is our current societal policy that "right after you die" is when people should be allowed that one moment.

Feel free to call out Adams' bigotry a week from now! The story will still be fresh on people's minds even then.

But by giving them a moment first, people will be able to find the space to finally feel it's safe to reminisce about how e.g. they have a fond memory of being gifted a page-a-day Dilbert calendar by their uncle — fundamentally a story about how that helped them to understand and bond with their uncle, not a story about Adams — which wouldn't normally be able to be aired, because it would nevertheless summon someone to remind everyone that the author is a bigot.

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58. NoMore+1y[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 19:21:52
>>psunav+5k
That's the best I can tell. But mormonism is supposed to change their doctrine to follow the left's social standards.

Ok, fair, even I couldn't keep a straight face typing that out. Touche.

59. spanka+Ey[view] [source] 2026-01-13 19:24:03
>>spanka+(OP)
I was directly responding and replying to jchallis, but a mod detached my comment from its parent and now it makes less sense without the proper context. Great job.
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60. spanka+pz[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 19:27:13
>>CaptWi+Wp
Your stance isn't clear at all. Do you have any specifics?
61. TheCon+lD[view] [source] 2026-01-13 19:41:22
>>spanka+(OP)
I agree with the sentiment. I think timing is pretty important, though, and a cooling-off period might be a kind gesture for his loved ones.

I posit that self-reflection might be a better avenue to understanding this world where Steven Miller is in the White House, at least in the immediate. Personally, I stopped reading Dilbert quite a while before he cancelled himself, just because it wasn't available in a medium that worked for me. I do have a couple books on the shelf of old Dilbert comics and I considered getting rid of them when the racism came out. I cracked one open and laughed out loud at a handful of the comics and so the books are still in my house. I abhor racism, but he already got my money. At least for me, and maybe I'm damaged, I still laugh at some of the comics, even after I knew he was a jerk. I think if one of my black friends told me he was offended that I had those books, I'd get rid of them.

How about Harry Potter? I'm certain that there are some folks here who have been hurt by Rowling's statements and I'm also certain that there are some folks here that would sacrifice a limb to live in the Harry Potter universe. Do you separate the artist from the art or what's the rational thing? I have the Harry Potter books on my shelf, I've actually read them out loud to my children. They also are aware of LGTBQ issues, they know and are around LGTBQ people and we have had conversations about those issues. Is that enough? Should one of my kids pick up the Dilbert books, I have a conversation locked and loaded and I already know that I've raised them to be anti-racism. I don't know that I'm super eager to put more money in to J. K.'s pocket, I probably won't go to Disney Harry Potter Land or whatever they come up with but I've bought and read the books and I haven't burned them.

And make no mistake, had I known he was a biggot in 1995, I don't think I would have continued reading Dilbert or ever bought books. The problem is it made me laugh, then years later I found out he was a jerk and I still laugh at the comics, I remember laughing the first time I read some of them, and I think of that more when I re-read them than I think about Scott Adams. Fact is, he still made me laugh all those years ago, I can't put that back in the bottle, it happened.

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62. JadeNB+LG[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 19:55:00
>>RajT88+6s
I was not weighing in on whether one should or shouldn't speak ill of the dead, only trying to answer:

> Why is their reputation relevant? They're dead.

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63. mdhb+1H[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 19:56:14
>>spanka+Ey
The moderation on this site is really such garbage. Filled with all kinds of weird and subtle manipulation, almost never openly acknowledged and they are more than happy to gaslight you when you confront them about it.
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64. nobody+TH[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 19:58:43
>>option+hh
>The best we can do for the dead is remember them as they were, good and bad, not demonize them nor write hagiographies for them

I agree with your conclusion, but not with your premise.

We can't "do" anything for the dead. They're dead. What's more, since they're dead they don't care what we do or say because they're, you know, dead.

Anything we might do or say in reference to dead folks is for the benefit of the living and has nothing to do with the dead.

That said, you're absolutely right. We should remember folks for who they were -- warts and all -- to give the living perspective both on the dead and the dead past.

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65. jakeyd+kK[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 20:07:12
>>CaptWi+Wp
Ah, so you're socially conservative, support Trump but probably consider yourself a libertarian, secretly a big fan of the moves ICE has been making? I'm assuming you've used the term "liberal media" unironically in the last year. You didn't storm the capitol, but you consider the Black Lives Matter protests in 2020 to be worse than January 6. Antifa is more of a danger than far-right agitators. Charlie Kirk's death hit hard. No social identity group is more persecuted than white, heterosexual, cisgender Christian men.

Any of those resonate? You're welcome to correct me.

EDIT: in light of another reply to this same thread I recognize that much of this comment was written sneeringly. I apologize for the snark and am leaving it as is in the interest of transparency.

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66. inglor+oO[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 20:23:04
>>b3lved+Ic
Laws consist of words, but making a law is something different than just saying something. It is an act, and indeed American laws are often (or always?) called Acts.
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67. inglor+HO[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 20:25:01
>>mempko+Ad
People also "knew" that being gay was wrong, being atheist was wrong, universal suffrage was wrong or consuming marijuana was wrong.

This isn't a reliable method of determining morality.

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68. fsckbo+nS[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 20:40:10
>>reduce+Dp
>Let's not act like this is some case of out of context quotes. Here's the actual quote for people to decide for themselves:

you quote, but you did not include the context, so your attempt not to be out of context is a fail.

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69. kgwgk+8W[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 20:55:32
>>TheCon+lD
> I think if one of my black friends told me he was offended that I had those books, I'd get rid of them.

Don't be so hard on your friends, let them be offended if they want.

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70. sfblah+dX[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 20:59:06
>>fsckbo+nS
Also, no one even tries to argue that he's wrong. Does one "race" trying to "help" another ever really "pay off"? Debating that question would actually be pretty interesting.
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71. marknu+UY[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 21:06:16
>>teknop+Sd
For anyone else reading this comment, know that it is a blatant lie. I suggest you look into it for yourself.
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72. CaptWi+Qa1[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 21:50:57
>>jakeyd+kK
Out of respect for your effort to keep it civil, I'll answer some of that:

I'm a liberal as defined up until 2012 or so.

Never been socially conservative at all. I'm not a libertarian, as I do support some social safety nets. That being the case, I am strongly against open borders and unchecked fraud.

You're actually right about a lot of the rest (minus the snark.)

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73. jakeyd+vb1[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 21:53:58
>>CaptWi+Qa1
Hell yeah I love being right. Thank you for being civil in response.

Also I was not implying that you are a libertarian, I don’t think that there are many true libertarians. I have just met so many fiscal conservatives who consider themselves to be libertarians and use it as an identifier because they feel libertarians are more intellectually respected than conservatives (which is very funny imo)

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74. DonHop+fc1[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-13 21:56:52
>>RajT88+Ka
The mendacious speaking that Scott Adams did of the living was a hell of a lot worse that speaking factually about him after he died.
75. nailer+ng1[view] [source] 2026-01-13 22:17:01
>>spanka+(OP)
Did you support Scott Adams when he called out bigotry? Why / why not?
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76. A4ET8a+aL1[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-14 01:04:36
>>spruce+Zs
Sure. People only lost their jobs and what not ( which in US means.. well, slow, and without health insurance, likely unpleasant demise ). Totally different. On this very forum, I had someone tell me in a very subtle way that it is a good idea that I stay quiet if I know what is good to me. But pendulum swings. It always does. Only difference is,we are forcing people to live up to the world they have ushered in. I hope you said thank you, because wokeness got you to this very spot.
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77. spruce+CA2[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-14 09:49:49
>>A4ET8a+aL1
On the one hand ~1,000,000 deaths and on the other hand some people lost their jobs and you got a mean comment online?

> lost their jobs ... which in US means ... slow, and without health insurance, likely unpleasant demise

Those you would label "woke" are famously supporters of universal health care. Universal as in would cover everyone including every single Jan 6 participant. On the one hand people striving for health care for all. On the other hand https://www.theguardian.com/business/2025/nov/20/hospitals-s...

> we are forcing people to live up to the world they have ushered in

No, wht you are doing is supporting an administration killing ~1,000,000 people and taking away health care from everyone, including people in the group you identify with.

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78. inglor+wU2[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-14 12:47:43
>>TheOth+lo
"His success at that persuaded him that he was an Important Moral Authority."

Isn't this rather common in artists? Bono of U2 comes to mind as a very pronounced example.

The problem with being a well-known artist is that you have way too many sycophants. Imagine getting dozens of ChatGPT-like fawning messages every day, but from real people, and not just over e-mail, but whenever you stray out of your house and someone recognizes you.

That will mess with self-image of almost everyone except the most stoic personalities.

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79. victor+Ru3[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-14 16:03:12
>>inglor+Fa
First of all, I think we can definitely say that certain words are bad. if somebody is saying that they want to have sex with a child, we can tell them this is something bad and that we don't agree with this.

And pretty much all countries in the world limit what we can say. You're not allowed in the US to, for example, threaten the US president with murder, even if it's just words.

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80. A4ET8a+Yq5[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-14 22:56:28
>>spruce+CA2
<< Those you would label "woke" are famously supporters of universal health care.

Here is a problem of sorts. Some of us happen to live in the real world. Our lives do not exactly depend on some imaginary future state we advocate for. As such, a threat to alter my habitat now is of bigger import as opposed to some potential future benefit. Can you understand that perspective?

And that is before I remember that 'your' ( quotation very much intended, because we both know it is not yours; you may not even know why you aligned with it ) side would not exactly be above, say, denying said universal healthcare to republicans..

<< No, wht you are doing is supporting an administration killing ~1,000,000 people << On the one hand ~1,000,000 deaths and on the other hand some people lost their jobs and you got a mean comment online?

Eh.. hyperbole will not get you far here. May I refer to you site FAQ? I can't tell if I am wasting my time with you or not.

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81. spruce+LO6[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-15 10:02:59
>>A4ET8a+Yq5
> denying said universal healthcare to republicans

How many do you claim hold that view? Can you cite some prominent examples? I want health care for all, including you.

> hyperbole

I posted https://www.cgdev.org/blog/update-lives-lost-usaid-cuts "lives lost based on the decline in outlays (current spending) may be in the range of 500,000 to 1,000,000 and potential lives lost based on the decline in obligations (commitments to future spending) are between 670,000 and 1,600,000."

and asked for data on the original "balancing out claim". You jumped in with mumblings of some unspecified number of lost jobs and vague claims about said job losers demise and then one mean online comment to you. That's where we're at, that's the tally based on the data you provided.

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82. A4ET8a+3V8[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-15 20:13:51
>>spruce+LO6
<<I posted

You posted a blog of some organization unhappy about the cuts. Not exactly a gold standard for unbiased opinions. YOu want to convince me? Do your own calculations. Show me your work. Show that you can think critically. Am I not seeing that now.

<< You jumped in with mumblings of some unspecified number of lost jobs and vague claims about said job losers demise and then one mean online comment to you.

So ... you can understand my perspective, but choose to minimize it. I guess its ok. At least you are honest about effectively saying 'anyone who complains about it is a loser'. I will admit that it does not sound like the best way to win hearts and minds, but what do I know.

I would like to say that you have achieved nothing by not convincing me, but you did manage to do something remarkable. You actually motivated me to vote for a republican this election cycle. I suppose I am no longer center.

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83. spruce+8Cd[view] [source] [discussion] 2026-01-17 09:17:00
>>A4ET8a+3V8
You suppose
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