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Its not the initiator I am talking about, its the person getting hit on. Imagine having to deal with that all the time. I liken it to telemarketers. I get 4 a day sometimes, eventually I just tell them to F off in my moment of weakness because I am trying to just have focus time. Eventually the person being hit on every day will hit a breaking point and be rude, then she is labeled a bitch by that person and every time she goes to the gym she feels awkward because the dude she snapped at glares at her. Sometimes people just want to be left alone 95% of the time people at the gym want to be left alone.

When I am out I have zero interest in talking to people. Nothing worse than being in the mall and a person walks up trying to sell me something. That's what people who hit on others in public are doing, trying to sell something, themselves in this case.

>>wonder+(OP)
This is almost entirely in your head.

Just to be clear, I'm not saying to interrupt someone mid-run or talk to someone focused with ear-buds in.

If someone is leaving the gym, you can say 'hey got a sec?', If they answer 'no', that is their answer.

(Also, people who put makeup and tight pants on for the gym, are looking to be hit on. The people trying to be ignored, will put 0 effort into their appearance and will have a stare 100 ft in front of them. Even if you miss these signs, the worst thing that is going to happen is that you are turned down and they wasted 5 minutes. I'm sure the married people ITT had no issue interrupting these beautiful people's precious time. )

EDIT: If you need to, have a bonus reason for talking to someone: "I'm trying to find someone who knows nutrition for a nonprofit" or "I'm looking for a mechanical engineer for a product I'm thinking about".

>>hospit+i1
"Also, people who put makeup and tight pants on for the gym, are looking to be hit on" This is very ignorant, and dangerously similar to saying people that are raped were asking for it because of the way they are dressed. Not at that level but very much victim blaming. So if someone does not want to be hit on they should do their best to look unattractive and unappealing otherwise they are asking for it? They should have to affect a 1000 yard stare as a signal not to get hit on, they cant just act normally? I am going to assume you are very young and have limited life experience. People like to look nice, for themselves. People should not have to live a certain way and dress a certain way to just be able to go into the world unmolested and unbothered. Ending this conversation now as I don't like your attitude towards women.

>>wonder+c3
This is incredibly ignorant bud. Hope you are just white knight virtue signaling for upvotes.

There might be a few people that put make up on and never leave the house, but that is a minority. People wear makeup so they look good for other people.

Nope, people can't just act 'normal' and be avoided. Normal people have conversations.

Anyway, remember its that you can't have a conversation. The rest of the world has no problem.

You've built up having a 5 minute conversation to thinking you are a telemarketer.

>>hospit+i1
> Even if you miss these signs, the worst thing that is going to happen is that you are turned down and they wasted 5 minutes.

I'm not at all in the same camp as the other commenter (it's clear where their allegiances lie) but you really are in the wrong here.

You have no idea how frequently these seeming-innocuous conversations turn verbally or physically violent when the initiator feels spurned.

This is provable! Try it sometime-- play catfish on a dating app and see for yourself.

> "Hey, can I have a second of your time?"

> "No, sorry, I'm in a hurry." [Or just don't respond.]

> "Fucking worthless bitch..."

There's no need for it. That's not interrupting someone's precious time. If in-person, the woman is going to see this guy again in some context, knowing she pissed him off. She sees him as a threat, and he sees her as a source of humiliation. This creates a hostile situation for both.

I've directly investigated enough histrionic cases to believe "you were asking for it" is absolutely a thing for cluster-B types (sometimes even literally, in fucking print), but am telling you the makeup, clothing and demeanor are not deterrents. Women could look like aloof genderless homeless blobs and still get harassed. It's just a hostile world out there.

>>jstarf+B31
just out of curiosity, where do my allegiances lie? Interested to see how I come off?

>>wonder+Tq1
Introvert and bachelor

>>hospit+rB2
Vs serial sexual harasser, I'll take it. Sorry you got so worked up over being called out amigo, you can still work on respecting other people though and better yourself. Good luck, me and all the women you think are asking for it, are pulling for you.