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1. jstarf+(OP)[view] [source] 2023-07-01 21:16:50
> Even if you miss these signs, the worst thing that is going to happen is that you are turned down and they wasted 5 minutes.

I'm not at all in the same camp as the other commenter (it's clear where their allegiances lie) but you really are in the wrong here.

You have no idea how frequently these seeming-innocuous conversations turn verbally or physically violent when the initiator feels spurned.

This is provable! Try it sometime-- play catfish on a dating app and see for yourself.

> "Hey, can I have a second of your time?"

> "No, sorry, I'm in a hurry." [Or just don't respond.]

> "Fucking worthless bitch..."

There's no need for it. That's not interrupting someone's precious time. If in-person, the woman is going to see this guy again in some context, knowing she pissed him off. She sees him as a threat, and he sees her as a source of humiliation. This creates a hostile situation for both.

I've directly investigated enough histrionic cases to believe "you were asking for it" is absolutely a thing for cluster-B types (sometimes even literally, in fucking print), but am telling you the makeup, clothing and demeanor are not deterrents. Women could look like aloof genderless homeless blobs and still get harassed. It's just a hostile world out there.

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2. wonder+in[view] [source] 2023-07-02 00:16:59
>>jstarf+(OP)
just out of curiosity, where do my allegiances lie? Interested to see how I come off?
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3. hospit+Qx1[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-07-02 13:23:29
>>wonder+in
Introvert and bachelor
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4. wonder+rq2[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-07-02 19:12:44
>>hospit+Qx1
Vs serial sexual harasser, I'll take it. Sorry you got so worked up over being called out amigo, you can still work on respecting other people though and better yourself. Good luck, me and all the women you think are asking for it, are pulling for you.
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