>>jger15+(OP)
I have a theory that this is the Monty hall problem effect in practice [1]. When you blow up your life you are opening an unknown door... But after you have narrowed your options, so the outcomes are likely to be better than your status quo.

[1] https://link.medium.com/N6HaHXgyAAb

>>jger15+(OP)
Alternatively, never blow up your life! Live near your family and lifelong friends, establish hardcore roots with your community, always be surrounded by love. A road less taken by the educated elites, but a happy and fulfilling road nonetheless.

The Onion’s take: https://www.theonion.com/unambitious-loser-with-happy-fulfil...

>>monero+OX
The Onion's take ten years on is a bit different:

https://www.theonion.com/women-explain-why-they-became-tradw...

>>johnea+9C
See my previous comment where I talked about blowing up my life.

>>36306966

I was in the perfect place to do it at 48. I had no dependents, a stable marriage and a wife who was excited to go along for the ride with me and I had built up assets to take chances. Now that I think about it, it really wasn’t that risky. Remote was a thing and I figured worse case, someone would hire me as a consultant.

>>laeri+s21
I was tempted to delete my previous comment about how I “blew up my life” because I realized that I really wasn’t as bold as I thought I was.

I kept my above average paying job working at BigTech where I was able to work remotely. I only officially moved one state away where I stay half the year while traveling the other half, and I had assets to fall back on.

I didn’t sell my other house, I rented out to my son and two of his friends we had known forever. I had assets. I didn’t “burn the boats”.

But I’m going to let it stand.

>>36306966

>>hayst4+Fo1
> "Always be surrounded by love..." unless you are gay. Gay, trans, atheist, feminist, brown, an opioid addict, a questioner of authority, or otherwise different.

Or a middle-aged white man. https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/

>>jger15+(OP)
Or there's Cavafy's less optimistic take: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/51295/the-city-56d22e...

>>Dowwie+ID1
"Rental revenue is shared with the management company, and owners typically pay no upfront fees for management, which includes the marketing and reservation of the units.[citation needed] Typical monthly fees for units in the rental pool include FF&E (Furniture, Fixtures and Equipment) reserve and resort fee(s). Although the revenue splits between owner and management company do vary from project to project, most hover around 50 percent."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Condo_hotel

>>svnt+px1
You’re absolutely right. I reconsidered what I wrote later.

>>36307059

>>jger15+(OP)
I have this game that I call "Coin of destiny", not sure where I heard this from or if it is widespread, but the idea is to flip a coin for dilemma when you can't decide. It also works in group. The hard part of the game is to take it seriously, in the sense that as soon as you decide to play, then the final decision is irrevocable and you must follow the destiny.

It's nice to see a link to some experiment/research about this process that seems positive - https://www.nber.org/system/files/working_papers/w22487/w224...

>>Cretin+ZP1
you might enjoy the book _The Dice Man_ [0], then.

[0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Dice_Man

>>sira04+CU1
There are no ads, no affiliate links and no “monetization”. This is strictly a personal journal.

https://digitalnomadder.micro.blog/

>>monero+OX
Agreed: https://www.jefftk.com/p/lifelong-investments

>>antist+qa2
I actually agree with you:

>>36307059

But my former home is rented to our son at a discount to its market value to help him out and it offsets most of the holding cost. But I still lose money. That’s the only thing that the extra money is going to - offset the mortgage.

Honestly, my fixed costs are actually lower than they were before I started working for BigTech when I was working as a journeyman CRUD developer making less than a returning intern got at my current company.

I was making $120K when I had my house built in the burbs in 2016 and paid 3.5% down with an FHA mortgage. I was the only one on the mortgage.

If I had still been making that, I would have sold my house that doubled in value over the past six years and paid cash for my place in Florida.

My total expenses including mortgage and all utilities is less than $3000 where I live now. I was paying more for my mortgage, utilities, maintenance.

Even without that, my 1250 square foot condo I bought in 2022 was the same price I paid to have my 3200 square foot house built in 2016.

The amount we pay for Uber or SixT is about the same as we paid for one car note + maintenance on an older car + car insurance.

>>jger15+(OP)
Related: https://www.raptitude.com/2012/07/most-lives-are-lived-by-de...

>>bmoxb+os2
It’s even more nuanced. Airlines don’t make money on main cabin for the most part. They make money from business class

https://www.zippia.com/advice/business-travel-statistics/

and selling miles to credit card companies.

https://airlinegeeks.com/2021/12/17/here-s-why-airline-loyal...

If main cabin dropped by half, they would still fly the routes.

>>Wonnk1+QE2
You can start here: https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Moral_letters_to_Lucilius

That specific quote is from letter 28 "On travel as a cure for discontent"

Seneca is always a good intro, easy to read and pretty low level, as in scenarios that you would face in your everyday life instead of more metaphysical topics.

>>jger15+(OP)
This essay seems inspired by this amazing episode of Hidden Brain, i strongly suggest take a listen if you find this subject interesting https://podcasts.apple.com/se/podcast/hidden-brain/id1028908...

>>moneyw+I72
https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Moral_letters_to_Lucilius

>>lm2846+Uy1
A comic inspired by this: https://moretothat.com/travel-is-no-cure-for-the-mind >>30235262

>>hayst4+uL3
You try to measure the levels of suffering based on sex, race and sexual orientation. That is why you will not be taken seriously by people who think.

https://www.google.com/search?q=gay+pride - that looks like there is no community for feminists, gay and trans?

You mentioning you being an atheist is just a cherry on top.