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>>jger15+(OP)
Alternatively, never blow up your life! Live near your family and lifelong friends, establish hardcore roots with your community, always be surrounded by love. A road less taken by the educated elites, but a happy and fulfilling road nonetheless.

The Onion’s take: https://www.theonion.com/unambitious-loser-with-happy-fulfil...

>>monero+OX
Always wonder what people without roots are supposed to do. Where's the advice for them?

>>pizza+hq1
While it might be hard to grow roots, it is not impossible. IMO, you should start doing serious work on growing roots when you are in your late 20s. Growing roots include:

- Getting married

- Having kids

- Settling down to live in one place

- Finding out how you can participate in the local community, and the actively participate

You will find that people are remarkably open to people who willingly contribute to other's well-being. This is how friends are made, this is how roots are grown.

Edit: formatting

>>debok+lB1
I "blew my life up" twice. Both times I was looking to start over and settle, i.e. grow roots, but in a different place.

It failed both times. People are incredibly difficult to accept outsiders within their circle. I did get married, but wife wants no kids :( ... which makes the marriage a little... fragile. Without close family/friends holding me here (I am and feel like a complete stranger here, 10 years on, and my wife is not local either), it seems I could just go at any time.

However, blowing my life up a third time seems futile. It may work for some people, but after failing twice, doing it a third time seems stupid.

>>brabel+6D1
Same here. I moved to Australia from London via a 9 year stint in Dublin.

The Irish accepted me, despite the English connection. I made some very good friends but now have lost contact with all but one.

I moved to Brighton in Melbourne 10 years ago and it's a much harder nut to crack. The people here went to prep, primary, secondary school together. Probably university too. I'm an outsider looking in despite volunteering and doing all the rest.

"Blowing up" and moving back to the UK or Ireland is tempting but I would need to start it all again.

I think I'll stay. Maybe I'll crack these nuts one day and have roots.