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1. RHSman+(OP)[view] [source] 2023-10-13 06:38:40
When we only work for a salary we’ve lost sight of what it means to be alive. Move on, go somewhere you deserve to be. Find your people.
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2. rawber+t4[view] [source] 2023-10-13 07:19:59
>>RHSman+(OP)
This is just wrong if you despise the concept of paid work at all. I spend these 8 hours a day because I am forced to. I need to pay for food and shelter, for my kids education and all the other stuff. If this wasn't the case I would give a fuck and spent all the time with my family, play video games and just live from day to day.

Choosing an IT-career is just the least evil for me.

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3. epups+4d[view] [source] 2023-10-13 08:41:07
>>RHSman+(OP)
Let me ask you something honestly, where do you find your people? Is there really such a place that operates differently? I find myself in a very similar situation as the GP, but I agree with your sentiment, so I would prefer to taks your advice. In my experience, every work place has the exact same problems as they described. I just want to know whether there are indeed better options, and what to do to find them.
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4. RHSman+pj[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 09:41:40
>>epups+4d
You search. Through experience after experience you realize what are the values that are important to you and you need to be around those that share it (and also an organization that has quality values) It may mean you will move from job to job but work is not life. This also applies in many aspects too. We are tribes.
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5. RHSman+Jj[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 09:43:58
>>rawber+t4
This isn’t wrong or right. It is an opinion on how to live.

You aren’t forced too. You need to look up what ’forced’ really means. I’m not saying it isn’t hard though.

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6. RHSman+Bk[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 09:50:30
>>epups+4d
As another note: there are times when you on the wave, part of something and there are good things happening. This only lasts so long. Again, applies in work and outside. Form your own view but be aware of cynicism (in others and yourself). This comes from broad experience of humanity. We are in the shit but there really are groups of incredible people that merged together, do amazing things. Find that.
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7. dagw+Xk[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 09:52:57
>>epups+4d
One option is to work at a place with longer development horizons and where the top priority isn't getting the latest feature into production by end of day Friday. Research institutes and R&D departments at huge companies (possibly even companies outside the software engineering sphere) for example operate very differently than companies/departments that directly ship software. Of course these places have other problems and they may not necessarily be 'better', but it is at least they are different problems in my experience, and personally I've found them preferable.
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8. pdimit+5B[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 12:20:24
>>dagw+Xk
Getting into these I found pretty difficult for many reasons, and usually you take a significant pay cut.
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9. pdimit+nB[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 12:22:50
>>RHSman+Jj
Going "actually!" on people and acting like a dictionary is making me wonder if you are arguing in good faith.

Yes we are forced to work. If I stop paying for stuff I'll starve, nevermind the fact that I'll have to live outside.

And yes we can live in the woods, theoretically. But we don't want to.

And no, before you say it, this being "the price to pay for living in civilization" is NOT a given. It's a local maxima that many people agreed to never revisit. Not very impressive, and not a good outlook for our race.

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10. Salgat+7E[view] [source] 2023-10-13 12:45:56
>>RHSman+(OP)
You don't need to tie your job to your sense of self worth and happiness.
11. addict+pK[view] [source] 2023-10-13 13:28:02
>>RHSman+(OP)
You do realize the entirety of human existence people have “worked for their salary” where “worked for their salary” basically means putting food on the table and spending all day and 7 days a week doing so?

It’s only in the last few decades for a small fraction of the world, and a few centuries for an even tinier fraction of the world, we’ve been able to “work for our salary” where salary even includes leisure.

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12. deprec+9L[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 13:31:43
>>RHSman+Jj
So, where can I live a decent life for free? Nowhere? Then I can either end things or work. Working because the alternative is death is not really a choice.
13. popcor+6N[view] [source] 2023-10-13 13:43:07
>>RHSman+(OP)
And let them eat cake.
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14. sfn42+yl1[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 16:49:18
>>pdimit+nB
Problem is you want to live in society. You want to have your cake and eat it too. You want utilities, roads, healthcare, all kinds of shit.

That requires money, so you need a way to generate money. But you don't have to partake in society. If you want to I'm sure you can grab an axe and go build a log cabin in bumfuck nowhere.

And then you can work all day to make sure you have housing and food and firewood and whatever else you need.

Personally I'd rather sit on my ass in a comfortable office and get paid to think and press some buttons so that I can get electricity and food and all the shit I need. But nobody's forcing us.

I don't think you want what you think you want. You like modern society, certainly beats fighting mountain lions for days-old dead deer and dying of a treatable infection. If you want the benefits of society you have to contribute.

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15. pdimit+pn1[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 16:56:59
>>sfn42+yl1
> Personally I'd rather sit on my ass in a comfortable office and get paid to think and press some buttons so that I can get electricity and food and all the shit I need.

Me too, but I am arguing the degree of it here, and that nuance is sadly lost on many. They always jump on "go live in the woods then" which obviously is not what the argument is about.

If the costs of living drop a little and if housing becomes actually affordable then I'll very likely never open my mouth criticizing civilization again.

And I will not agree that the current world economical situation is inevitable. I think many of us are quite aware that the world elite is playing dangerous games at the expense of everyone else but themselves.

It does not have to be this way. It can be better. But that's a huge -- and different -- topic.

> But nobody's forcing us.

Hard disagree and I'll leave it at that, you are chasing a dictionary definition here much like my previous parent poster did, and that's not moving any discussion forward.

> I don't think you want what you think you want.

Disrespect will get you nowhere in any discussion.

> You like modern society, certainly beats fighting mountain lions for days-old dead deer and dying of a treatable infection. If you want the benefits of society you have to contribute.

Sure, and again -- degrees. It's not an all or nothing and it's very puzzling why you and many others are framing it that way.

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16. Red_Le+xp1[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 17:08:53
>>RHSman+Jj
Is coerced pedantically correct enough?
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17. RHSman+4N1[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-13 19:13:36
>>Red_Le+xp1
Tricked
18. angarg+ia2[view] [source] 2023-10-13 21:24:24
>>RHSman+(OP)
Nah, I already did the "do what you love" shtick during the first half of my career working as a researcher living paycheck to paycheck. After I got my first job in the private sector I figured out that, you know what? actually I like being able to pay bills, buy stuff, go out for dinner, and generally lead a comfortable middle class lifestyle.

In any event I'm not exactly nihilistic. I believe better places to work exist, but my visa prevents me from changing employers. When the time comes we'll see if the grass is greener.

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19. RHSman+2X2[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-14 07:53:41
>>angarg+ia2
This isn’t binary. Either or. You can find people and companies you like to work with and it not be the ‘do what you love’.
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20. RHSman+HX2[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-14 08:03:34
>>pdimit+nB
I don’t argue. I am just portraying my view on what is possible in life. That maybe different to yours. That’s ok right? I recommend reading ‘Man’s search for meaning’ by Viktor Frankl. It is a landmark book.

We do have choice and most do take the lesser evil of IT and but if you really want, you can go look to see what else is out there.

It is not without risk though.

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21. dagw+S64[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-14 19:06:51
>>pdimit+5B
Getting hired isn't that hard I've found, if you can show passion and interest for the area. The pay point is however correct. Although personally I've found the pay cut worth it in exchange for getting to work on genuinely interesting problems in a much more relaxed environment with a much better work-life balance. YMMV
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22. pdimit+s74[view] [source] [discussion] 2023-10-14 19:11:28
>>dagw+S64
Well if "much more relaxed" environment also fairly translates to less hours (to compensate for the less payment) then I'd be okay with it but I suspect it does not.
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