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>25% of 40 year olds are not financially attractive mates.

Is this a peculiarity of the US? Income was never an issue when i got the hots for someone...especially when things turned into long-term commitment. In fact, quite the opposite.

>>InCity+(OP)
Having the hots and marriage are totally different things for most people, I think.

>>InCity+(OP)
You're probably a man. Women care a lot about income.

>>tallda+82
And status. Which income is a component of.

>>InCity+(OP)
How many times have you married that person you "had the hots for" assuming you are a woman?

>>tallda+82
In my experience, women care a lot about income when their partners can’t keep a job and they are the only ones working. I’ve seen relationships end over that. But I’m guessing that’s not what you mean.

>>amanap+c9
That's the most extreme example, sure. You don't see the other common examples, of a woman struggling to stay attracted to her bf or husband that consistently makes 1/2 of what she does.. because it doesn't happen very often (outside of extremes like very high earning women).

>>InCity+(OP)
Class and income are extremely important when it comes to marriage. It’s more important for women because they are looking for stability and safety for raising kids. It’s less important for men because they are the ones expected to provide. It’s common relationship stress when the woman earns more than the man.

Of course these are generalities, but they also fall out of the game theory of dating. For a woman, choosing a partner is extremely high risk as she will bear the children, will redirect energy away from her career to raise them, and will, most of the time, end up raising the children alone if the marriage breaks up. Men don’t really have any of those concerns because there’s not the same expectation they would raise the children on their own without help. I’ve known plenty of guys who ran out on the kids and zero women who left the kids with the guy.