The whole point of published writing is to put enough effort into one-to-many communication to be clear, concise, and expressive. Finding the right words (not the fanciest or rarest words) helps writing to better transmit intention from author to reader.
Careful revision and editing should be celebrated as expressing appreciation for readers, not sneered at as inauthentic.
The OED costs $100/year for US residents or £100/year for everyone else [0] but you can often get access through a library. The San Francisco Public Library has a proxy you can use if you have a library card there [1].
[0]: https://global.oup.com/academic/product/oxford-english-dicti...
That being said, for anything that you want to be sure your readers understand, "write like you talk". http://www.paulgraham.com/talk.html
I've always loved its definition of "éclair":
> "a cake, long in shape but short in duration"
Are you thinking, perhaps, of Mark Twain? I've never heard anyone say he was "painful to read" or "oozes pretentiousness"; you could be the first. Yet it was Twain who wrote, "the difference between the almost right word and the right word is really a large matter—’tis the difference between the lightning-bug and the lightning," which is what this "draft #4" business is all about. (He stole the phrasing from a friend of his, but the sentiment was his own, in a letter in 01888 to George Bainton: https://quoteinvestigator.com/2019/09/02/lightning/)
Sometimes you just can’t translate feelings well, even if an apparent direct translation exists. Swear words are a glaring example. You can translate motherf* either word for word or with a similar swear word, but it either won’t feel native or it won’t have the same connotation.
English itself is fine. I recently read “The Gradual Extinction of Softness” [1] and I was unable to translate it into my language and maintain the same feeling.
1: https://hippocampusmagazine.com/2021/11/the-gradual-extincti...
content and layout: http://www.websters1913.com/
http://mbork.pl/2017-01-14_I'm_now_using_the_right_dictionar...
Actually there's more than one way, of course. See the comments here:
https://longnow.org/ideas/02013/12/31/long-now-years-five-di...
-- William Faulkner, of Ernest Hemmingway
"Poor Faulkner. Does he really think big emotions come from big words? He thinks I don’t know the ten-dollar words. I know them all right. But there are older and simpler and better words, and those are the ones I use."
-- Hemmingway, of Faulkner
Direct link: https://github.com/cmod/websters-1913
You’re probably using the wrong dictionary (2014) - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19763435 - April 2019 (87 comments)
Using the wrong dictionary - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7772557 - May 2014 (138 comments)
Discovered that their 13th edition accidently left out ~500 words:
https://chambers.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/Chambers-M...
It's available at https://webster.bordum.dk/ if anyone is interested.