And I am calling that fear bullshit. If you cannot articulate the differences, then why are you making the suggestion? A "gut feeling"? Well, then that might be sexist and deserve being called out as BS. And if everything was fine between those 3 people...just clarify things on twitter?
The fear of a hypothetical "someone" taking something "totally reasonable" out of context is, in my experience, held mainly by people who have a private definition of "totally reasonable" not held by the majority and who'd like to continue holding it without consequences.