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It's contextually a lot different though. In this case, it's not that he didn't have an answer or a means to clarify, it's that, based on her initial reaction, he didn't have one he wasn't sure would dig a deeper hole.

I doubt anyone out there will have a similar visceral reaction to discussing code architecture.

>>BobbyJ+(OP)
I suspect anyone who could clarify that remark would have known not to open with it.

>>Jabble+V
I disagree. I can think of many ways to clarify the remark in a manner that I personally wouldn't see anything wrong with. At the same time, I can imagine a person intent on outrage finding a reason to be mad about any one of them. I generally assume that people I'm engaged with professionally aren't looking for opportunities to be mad.

>>BobbyJ+F3
Why do you not assume that the person in this story is not then?

In what way can someone disagree with you about the offensiveness of something you say, without you labelling them as "intent on outrage"?

>>Jabble+c5
Its subjective. Personally, I don't think it's reasonable to become upset by a single comment, made with good intentions, as happened in the story, certainly not upset enough to want professional consequences for the other party.

Even a single comment made with ill intent I don't think would push me all the way to pursuing professional recourse, not without me trying to 'fix' things on my own first.