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1. mychae+(OP)[view] [source] 2018-01-16 18:52:50
Can someone help me understand how this site is not sexist and discriminatory against men?
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2. rev_bi+y1[view] [source] 2018-01-16 19:00:14
>>mychae+(OP)
You know how right now you're offended, and feeling left out just because of your gender? That's how some women in tech feel all the time.

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16160940

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3. jjeaff+U1[view] [source] 2018-01-16 19:02:10
>>mychae+(OP)
Do you also consider separate men and women's bathrooms prejudicial and sexist?
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4. chrisl+M4[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-16 19:15:15
>>jjeaff+U1
As defined by merriam-webster.com I certainly do. Why do we consider all sexism bad?
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5. rev_bi+T6[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-16 19:27:18
>>chrisl+M4
That's not the real question, you're pretending context doesn't matter. What's your argument? Women say "I enjoy having a place to communicate with other women in a place that feels safe from male interference," and your response is "Let me into the women's bathroom"?
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6. spodek+17[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-16 19:27:45
>>rev_bi+y1
That poster didn't seem offended to me. More curious. It's not obvious if the person is male or female or feeling left out.

If some women feel that way anyway, are you suggesting that making more people feel that way helps or makes it not sexist?

Tech pushes many people out, male and female. Even if the men in tech are the same, what about the men who would like to be in tech but were pushed out? Or are all men the same?

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7. oh_sig+27[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-16 19:27:58
>>rev_bi+y1
...therefore the answer is to increase gender division?

Should we also end racial violence by increasing racial violence?

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8. mrtron+f8[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-16 19:34:18
>>jjeaff+U1
Yes, if either option was exclusively provided.
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9. rev_bi+I8[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-16 19:37:08
>>spodek+17
>Tech pushes many people out, male and female. Even if the men in tech are the same, what about the men who would like to be in tech but were pushed out? Or are all men the same?

I'd wager most men "pushed out" of tech weren't fleeing sexism and gender-based isolation. This whole thing seems like looking at a team of 10 -- nine men and one woman -- and, when the woman says, "Gee, it'd be nice to have another woman to talk to," responding by saying "Well how about you just talk to us nine guys instead? Wouldn't that be just as good?"

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10. rev_bi+g9[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-16 19:40:40
>>oh_sig+27
This is nonsense, you're comparing "let's chat with each other" with lynchings.

Problem: Women feel they don't have anyone to talk to about their experiences as a woman in tech.

Solution: Increase their access to people they can talk to about their experiences as a woman in tech. Like, say, an online community.

11. Doreen+0b[view] [source] 2018-01-16 19:49:51
>>mychae+(OP)
There is reason to believe that letting oppressed minorities connect in the absence of the majority group is a peaceful, effective path forward that makes them more able to put their baggage down, turn the other cheek and participate constructively in the main group.

If you are interested in assessing this through some idealized, absolutist lens, it is totally sexist and discriminatory against men. If you are interested in pragmatic solutions that help genuinely reduce the sexist drama in the world, this model has a track record of success.

So you need to pick one. Do you want to double down on abstract ideals? Or are you interested in what works?

Women who are interested in the latter can potentially find benefit in seeking out a sisterhood and turning a deaf ear to the accusations of "reverse sexism" that inevitably get leveled, typically by people who have no constructive alternative to offer and who aren't actually interested in being supportive and inclusive of women.

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12. chrisl+kg[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-16 20:16:17
>>rev_bi+T6
No. Having separate bathrooms for men and women is sexist, by definition. What I hoped for was discussion on whether all sexism is bad.
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13. belorn+uC[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-16 22:29:06
>>jjeaff+U1
Here in Sweden I have seen the use of unisex bathrooms to become more common, and left-block politicians have argued in favor of unisex bathrooms as being more inclusive towards transgenders. All office buildings I have been in has had unisex bathrooms that consisted of small rooms with a single toilet and sink. No need to separate people if only one person will be in there at a time.
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14. jjeaff+j13[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-17 22:22:00
>>chrisl+kg
No, having separate bathrooms is not sexist. Because the term sexism refers to negative issues only. Webster's uses the word "discrimination". Which I assume you are being pedantic and interpreting in a broader context like "discriminating between the colors blue and teal".

But lookup discriminate and it has a few meanings. One of which refers to prejudicial or unfair treatment. That is the definition implied when referring sexist discrimination.

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15. chrisl+ip3[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-18 02:11:40
>>jjeaff+j13
I don't agree. If sexism refers to the negative issues only then what is the word for the positive issues of dividing people up by sex?
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16. jjeaff+Zbd[view] [source] [discussion] 2018-01-23 07:22:47
>>chrisl+ip3
Gender distinction, gender separation

Every major dictionary specifically uses terms like "prejudice", "discrimination against", "stereotype". There is obviously a consensus that it is referring to negative/unequal treatment.

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