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1. koolba+(OP)[view] [source] 2017-12-02 21:44:04
From the article (not all contiguous but related):

> A new frontier, uterus transplants are seen as a source of hope for women who cannot give birth because they were born without a uterus or had to have it removed because of cancer, other illness or complications from childbirth. Researchers estimate that in the United States, 50,000 women might be candidates.

> The transplants are meant to be temporary, left in place just long enough for a woman to have one or two children, and then removed so she can stop taking the immune-suppressing drugs needed to prevent organ rejection.

> The transplants are now experimental, with much of the cost covered by research funds. But they are expensive, and if they become part of medical practice, will probably cost hundreds of thousands of dollars. It is not clear that insurers will pay, and Dr. Testa acknowledged that many women who want the surgery will not be able to afford it.

While the science is amazing, why go this route rather than having a surrogate mother? I've heard the price of a surrogate is $30-50K.

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2. b4lanc+h[view] [source] 2017-12-02 21:46:26
>>koolba+(OP)
Many, many women wish to carry their own children. Some want to do that this badly.
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3. nvahal+R[view] [source] 2017-12-02 21:52:43
>>koolba+(OP)
> While the science is amazing, why go this route rather than having a surrogate mother?

Or even just adoption. Adoption is far cheaper as well.

There are plenty of reasons why people want their own biological children... but this seems like it carries a ton more risk with it. With complications from the transplant and heck even just childbirth.

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4. cutcss+X[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 21:53:12
>>b4lanc+h
"Want" as in they are biologically wired to want to do so; hormones/evolution/etc.
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5. koolba+j1[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 21:56:19
>>nvahal+R
Yes that's what I was trying to get at. The increased cost comes with significantly increased risk yet the same end result (a biological child).
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6. chiefa+T1[view] [source] 2017-12-02 22:01:23
>>koolba+(OP)
Taken a step further..why not adopt?

While impressive it feels too much like a First World Problem. Aren't there any real problems this team could have solved?

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7. creep+U1[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 22:01:33
>>cutcss+X
It may or may not be simply biological "wiring". Many women are fine with surrogates, and most surrogates are fine with carrying another woman's child without significant emotional attachment. Women who use surrogates want the child, the experience doesn't matter as much as a successful birth by any method.

I think a big factor in the cases discussed in the article is that these women were told they would never ever have their own children. Unlike women who are "infertile" (which is usually just a measure of probability, and not a binary diagnosis), women who do not have a uterus obviously understand that there isn't a probability factor for getting pregnant. But then tell a woman with such a diagnosis that there is an experimental procedure that will allow her to fully experience what she had always been told was not possible. It is more for her than just wanting a baby at that point-- the procedure offers her everything she was told she could not have in terms of giving birth to a child.

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8. chiefa+g2[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 22:05:06
>>b4lanc+h
Lucky for them there are no enforced prerequisites (i.e., test and/or license) for becoming a parent.

I don't doubt some level of that drive exists. What feels questionable is the sanity (?) of going to such extreme lengths to pursue it? As if there is a complete unawareness of the bigger picture.

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9. jrosea+y2[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 22:07:15
>>chiefa+T1
> While impressive it feels too much like a First World Problem. Aren't there any real problems this team could have solved?

Talk to any couple who has had difficulty conceiving, and the humanity of this "first world problem" gets brought into perspective.

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10. danhar+B2[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 22:07:23
>>cutcss+X
Literally all of your thoughts and feelings are biologically wired.
11. xenadu+Y4[view] [source] 2017-12-02 22:33:44
>>koolba+(OP)
Let’s say you lost your testicles due to cancer, but there’s a new procedure that can grow new ones from your stem cells. It’s experimental and will cost $150,000. Before having your cancerous testes removed you stored sperm.

Are you really surprised that some men who want to be fathers would choose to have the procedure rather than using their own previously stored sperm?

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12. anonym+25[view] [source] 2017-12-02 22:34:21
>>koolba+(OP)
Surrogate motherhood is a very traumatising experience.
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13. mberni+e5[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 22:36:30
>>jrosea+y2
Exactly. How can you not understand a person’s desire to have a child of their own flesh and blood? That instinct and desire is such a deep part of our biology. The people asking must be very young or have some strang sociopathy.
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14. ringar+P5[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 22:42:50
>>mberni+e5
Intelligence and empathy may be inversely correlated.

Diversity is helpful here

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15. chiefa+N6[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 22:53:32
>>mberni+e5
I'm not doubting the desire. But in the face of 7 BILLION and counting...climate change...other questions about resources...AND there are other proxy-esque options...It to me feels selfish and shallow.

You "bear" a child because you have love to give and to share. It's not about you, but about giving selflessly. I'm not judging what this is, or why. But this is not that. This is about the parents. The irony is disturbing.

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16. chiefa+n7[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 22:59:00
>>mberni+e5
So cure (?) a problem for a handful of rich Westerners is The Most Important medical problem in the world right now? Seems to me you're overlooking other, far more significant (in terms of total numbers) suffering.

The people thinking what you're thinking must be very young or have some strange sociopathy.

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17. robbro+68[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:04:56
>>xenadu+Y4
Yes I'm surprised. I'd want my testicles back for other reasons maybe, but if I had stored sperm I don't see why to have an expensive operation.
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18. wyager+98[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:05:18
>>chiefa+n7
Humans are allowed to work on more than one problem at a time.
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19. MBCook+f8[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:06:12
>>ringar+P5
Name a society on earth were people would prefer to adopt rather than go to this option if it was available to them.

I don’t think this is an issue of the “American“ perspective or something like that.

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20. icebra+g8[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:06:14
>>xenadu+Y4
Yes. In fact, much more surprised than in this case - I can at least see why would you want to have your baby grow inside you. Doing experimental surgery just so you can have fresh sperm seems absurd to me.
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21. robbro+q8[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:07:41
>>chiefa+n7
Are you suggesting that everyone in the world concentrate on one problem at a time?

Who said this was the most important problem anyway?

Are you, personally, working on solving a particularly important problem?

Most people in the world aren't solving problems anyway, other than getting money from other people's wallets into their own.

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22. astran+s8[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:07:55
>>chiefa+N6
The birth rate of most countries outside Africa is below replacement. There’s plenty of room for more children.
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23. kurthr+L8[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:11:03
>>xenadu+Y4
Well, yes I'm shocked that someone would go to great expense, risk their life, and use scarce research resources in a completely unnatural effort to do something "naturally"... but I shouldn't be.

Because rule 34... someone will get off on it.

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24. advent+O8[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:11:51
>>chiefa+N6
Since we're swimming in the realm of opinion: it's not selfish precisely because the issues you raise are all solvable and I choose to believe they will be solved. There has been no time in human history where one could not have raised equally valid issues, and then proclaim nobody should have children because of said issues.

In fact, today is the best time in history to have children (or in your phrasing, today is the least selfish time in human history to have a child). Humanity is radically more capable of supporting another baby now than at any other time. It isn't even remotely a close contest.

Questions of resources? No it's not. We're drowning in food, take a look at the massive boom in Russian wheat production as one example. Global food potential is far beyond where we're at now, likely by a magnitude. We don't know what to do with it all. And that's before we take it up another level and move to drastically more productive food output methods, including indoor farming, AI + robotics, growing meat, better information management & knowledge globally, etc; and that's while we're still acting very inefficient with our existing food (throwing vast amounts of it away). Merely developing Africa's food potential alone will feed billions more people.

Maybe you're thinking energy? Have you seen the massive boom in solar and wind? That's going to get a lot more massive yet. We're intentionally under-developing nuclear, because right now it doesn't look like we're going to need it. Renewables are making up the majority of all new energy production globally, that tilt is going to get more extreme by the year. If the world had to do it, we could collectively throw trillions of dollars at nuclear immediately, and boost global energy output substantially within a few decades.

To date, humanity is batting a thousand at not going extinct due to challenges. Climate change will be no different.

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25. ianai+Q8[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:12:24
>>chiefa+n7
Choosing this place to make a line on medical funding or even just societal preferences seems pretty absurd. The economy does not work in absolutes nor with firm regard to societal well being or even marginal valuation. There are so many other worthy critiques to make before getting to the granularity of reproduction.
26. Doreen+o9[view] [source] 2017-12-02 23:18:15
>>koolba+(OP)
While the science is amazing, why go this route rather than having a surrogate mother? I've heard the price of a surrogate is $30-50K.

That sounds rhetorical, but I'll bite anyway.

Some women really long for the experience of childbirth. This may not be entirely psychological. Giving birth has significant impact on a woman's physiology. In addition to changing the shape of the hips and often other details like that, it leaves a woman a chimera for many years. Because her blood and the blood of the baby mix, she carries cells from the baby for many years afterwards.

I have a genetic disorder. I have two biological sons. I was not diagnosed until they were about 12 and 14 years old, so I didn't (consciously) know about my condition at the time that I was making reproductive choices (though I did know I was always "sickly").

My first pregnancy significantly impacted how I eat. I removed a number of things from my diet to cope with my difficult pregnancy and many were never added back into my diet. I have reason to believe this did my health a lot of good. For example, it cured the chronic, sever vaginal yeast infections I had for more than two years prior that pregnancy. I never again had chronic, severe yeast infections.

I have read up a bit on pregnancy-induced chimerism and talked a bit with people online about it and talked a fair amount with my sons. I have come to think that some women long for a baby because it can have a profound impact on a woman's body in ways we don't fully understand and perhaps sometimes that longing is rooted in some subconscious awareness that going through the process of carrying a child to term may alter their body in ways that are potentially for the best.

This would be really hard to prove. We have no means to see what the biological outcome would be for the same woman with and without the pregnancy experience. But I am in remarkably good health for someone with my genetic disorder and I credit my two pregnancies with some portion of that fact.

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27. tonyhb+s9[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:18:58
>>kurthr+L8
It's not about "someone getting off on it". Having a "natural" pregnancy leads to way less issues:

Surrogate mothers have to have artificial insemination/IVF. So would the hypothetical mother in this case. These eggs don't all stick to the uterus, so the procedure normally involves sticking 3-4 fertilized eggs inside the embryo.

So if you want one kid, you need to plan to have up to 4. That's a concern.

Then there's the chance of having a chimera, where the baby uptakes the surrogate's DNA. This can cause complications (I know with a transplant this is still the case). There's also the whole "mother not carrying the baby" thing.

This isn't as crazy as it sounds.

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28. blitma+y9[view] [source] 2017-12-02 23:19:56
>>koolba+(OP)
I think it is incredibly cool that we can essentially move a uterus from one woman to several others.

Startup idea: Uterent™

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29. nordsi+ka[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:26:38
>>chiefa+N6
I think it's pretty clear that you don't actually believe in evolution.
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30. kurthr+bb[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:34:07
>>tonyhb+s9
This was about testicles not pregnancy, if you look up post.

Ignoring that (and "not as crazy as it seems" is a pretty straw argument), I'd say that the risks to mother and child of such an extreme surgery and long term use of anti-rejection drugs during child bearing raises it's own ethical issues. Adoption seems to be completely inconsidered.

That you want to argue that many people's insemination choices are driven primarily by logic seems odd to me. I think they get off on their idea of what sex, pregnancy, and childbirth are supposed to be like based on what they hear from their friends, family, and media, along with how they want to be perceived. Only a tiny portion of that is related to rational decisions to provide societal or even individual good to their child.

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31. overca+pb[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-02 23:37:26
>>xenadu+Y4
That's pretty much the worst example you could have come up with. Carrying a child inside of you, is no stretch of the imagination equivalent to impregnating someone the old fashioned way. No man in their right mind would put up $150,000 in experimental money, when they have their own stored semen. Sure, if none exists maybe, but doing all that just so you can use fresh? That's just silly. It's still your DNA, and you can still have sex.
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32. justin+ve[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 00:14:31
>>icebra+g8
Shit, I'd just want my balls back so I didn't have to take shots every few weeks.
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33. chime+Dg[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 00:49:11
>>chiefa+T1
In the US the difficulty (factoring in stress, disappointment, and costs) of various options for infertile partners in ascending order:

  * IUI
  * IVF
  * IVF with egg donor
  * IVF with donated embryo
  * Surrogacy
  * Adoption (direct, not foster)
Unfortunately "Why not adopt" is rarely the simplest option for most people.
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34. theli0+Hg[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 00:50:15
>>koolba+j1
It's not the same end result. There are huge psychological issues that can come up with being the genetic mother to your child but having someone else carry them for you. Then you also have to figure out how (if?) the surrogate is involved in the child's life at all, how you explain to the child that someone else birthed them, etc. If you ever find yourself favoring one child over another, you'll always wonder if it's because it's not "your" baby.

Basically, it's not as simple as just handing off an embryo to another person and 9 months later acting like nothing happened. There are huge ramifications to a decision like this that don't come with being the birth mother.

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35. hiram1+th[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 01:01:01
>>Doreen+o9
That is quite interesting to hear from a woman.

Artificial wombs are coming. I was under the impression that women considered pregnancy as a burden which carries risks, is painful, causes all sorts of negative hormonal / physiological effects, etc.

I think that artificial wombs will initially be challenged by feminist and conservative groups, but will end up being accepted, first with wealthy Western women, but eventually by everyone else.

I have never considered that women might choose to carry a child, if they weren't required due to technological and scientific advances.

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36. jschwa+si[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 01:15:13
>>justin+ve
And they'd be brand new, with none of the reduced output that comes from aging.
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37. tonyhb+nj[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 01:27:47
>>kurthr+bb
IVF still applies to testicles. With frozen sperm you need it.

Logic was applied because you need to think about actually having up to 4 kids at once. That's still entirely necessary.

The "whole not carrying a baby" thing attempted to cover the idea of carrying your own flesh. I just didn't go into detail on that because I thought it was obvious. So no, I'm not arguing about logic.

Finally, "not as crazy as it seems" was a conclusion to the three of my points - not a strawman.

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38. intopi+7k[view] [source] 2017-12-03 01:38:41
>>koolba+(OP)
Countries such as France, Germany, Italy, Spain, Portugal and Bulgaria prohibit all forms of surrogacy. So, this gives women in those countries the option of having a child legally.
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39. fiblye+Hk[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 01:48:34
>>chiefa+g2
>I don't doubt some level of that drive exists.

That's one hell of an understatement. It's only the primary driving force of all successful complex lifeforms. Living things that give preference to offspring other than their own die with zero remaining trace of their existence.

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40. sumedh+Pk[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 01:51:19
>>chiefa+N6
> But in the face of 7 BILLION and counting...climate change...other questions about resources

Pretty sure most people who want to be parents dont really think about those issues when having kids. It might be important for you but its not for those new parents.

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41. cortes+Yk[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 01:53:28
>>hiram1+th
> I was under the impression that women considered pregnancy as a burden which carries risks, is painful, causes all sorts of negative hormonal / physiological effects, etc.

It does that, and is also something many women desire. Some thigns are both really hard and painful, and also very rewarding.

I really doubt you are going to get any challenges from feminists, or at least not very many. Feminism is all about empowering women to be able to do what they want, which includes having a baby using an artificial womb. Conservative groups might be against it, but it will depend on which group. Not all conservative groups are against IVF, which is similar in the sense that it allows a woman who would otherwise not be able to have a child have a child.

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42. ecopoe+yl[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 02:14:48
>>nvahal+R
Adoptions in the US cost ~$40k, a lot more then the 10-15k for pregnancy.
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43. robhun+Hl[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 02:17:55
>>tonyhb+s9
Implanting 3-4 3-day embryos is quite rare these days. Most doctors now do 5-day blastocysts, and insert only 1-2 (many insurance companies will only cover 1 at a time). The "4 babies at a time" concern is now very rare.

- Guy who has done IVF before

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44. djroom+Kl[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 02:19:30
>>hiram1+th
Are you talking about artificial wombs that are independent of humans?

I can see feminists, evangelicals, and quite a alot of people opposing humans grown in labs.

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45. dcwca+mm[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 02:33:40
>>chiefa+g2
It’s not about sanity. Desire for reproduction is a biological imperative.
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46. advent+Tm[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 02:46:10
>>cortes+Yk
> Feminism is all about empowering women to be able to do what they want, which includes having a baby using an artificial womb.

The types of feminists that you'll see negative responses from, are those that use feminism as a platform for controlling others. For example, the kinds of feminists (some people would call them fake feminists) that get upset when a woman chooses to shave her armpits, or likes to wear lipstick or heels, etc. etc. Those types always look for opportunities - no matter how absurd - to proclaim something is the latest attempt to enslave women to their biology, and so on and so forth.

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47. oh_sig+bn[view] [source] 2017-12-03 02:52:47
>>koolba+(OP)
What effect do immunosuppressors have on the fetus?
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48. thomas+1o[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 03:13:45
>>theli0+Hg
I’m always struck that people overestimate how difficult it is to explain things to children. I think people often project their own discomfort about talking about something onto the child that is hearing about whatever it is.
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49. notyou+bo[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 03:17:24
>>chiefa+g2
I'll go out on a limb and say if you aren't a female I don't think you are well positioned to judge a woman's judgement towards wanting her "own" baby versus using a surrogate or adopting. (I'm not a female so I have no point of view here.)
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50. Doreen+zo[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 03:22:49
>>advent+Tm
I am a former homemaker and full-time mom. Most self proclaimed feminists I have interacted with have been virulently hostile, disrespectful and contemptuous of me. They seem to not see full-time motherhood as a legitimate choice at all. It sometimes feels to me like they wish a man would take care of them, but they don't know how to make that work, so hating on me is de rigueur.

It is one of the reasons I spend so much time on Hacker News. Most men are less aggravating for me to deal with.

It is also part of why I do not self identify as a feminist.

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51. toaste+3q[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 03:58:15
>>hiram1+th
You might be surprised to learn that there is a whole segment of the population who view bringing new lives into the world as a sacred undertaking. Some women of this persuasion consider growing a new person inside of themselves to be the highest calling. Also, pregnancy and childbirth can be incredibly fulfilling experiences, for both parents. After all, modern life doesn’t have many rights of passage on the same level.
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52. toaste+aq[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 04:01:35
>>fiblye+Hk
Maybe they meant the specific drive to carry a child, which, in my experience, not all women possess, even if they possess other drives that lead to successfully promulgating the next generation.
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53. rdtsc+pr[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 04:29:31
>>Doreen+zo
> I am a former homemaker and full-time mom.

My wife who is also a homemaker and stay-at home mom. She has heard remarks from family, acquaintances and even random parents playing with kids at the park how she was throwing her university degree down the drain and how somehow she doesn't "need to stay home" and can do whatever she wants. They don't seem to understand that what she wants to do currently is to raise kids.

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54. Doreen+Ur[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 04:41:48
>>rdtsc+pr
There is some statistic showing that every dollar invested in our small children saves multiple dollars down the line for things like the prison system.

Any feminism that cannot honor, respect and support the importance of full time parenting is an ideology I want no part of. To my mind, the only good feminism is one that insists that full time parenting should be an equally legitimate choice for either parent, not just the mother.

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55. ggg999+Os[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 05:04:41
>>b4lanc+h
Sure, but I don't think any insurance should ever pay for this.
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56. sjg007+4u[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 05:37:59
>>oh_sig+bn
Probably well studied in pregnant moms with cancer or transplants. I would guess not a big impact as far as we know today. First there are cases where the maternal immune system attacks the fetus. Second the placenta generates immunosuppressants to prevent that, third, the fetus itself and the baby at birth does not have any innate immunity. In fact the baby relies on the moms immunity after birth.
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57. Dylan1+Wu[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 05:56:15
>>tonyhb+nj
> IVF still applies to testicles. With frozen sperm you need it.

Pretend there's enough sperm you don't need IVF, or something. I'm pretty sure the thought experiment is about something that only affects the man, not the woman or child.

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58. dizzys+fw[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 06:21:39
>>ecopoe+yl
If you are trying to import a baby, yes. The price can be considerably lower, if not free, for foster to adopt, especially for older children.
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59. bjz_+7x[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 06:38:46
>>Doreen+zo
I wish it didn't have to be one or the other. I guess it's human nature to tend towards thinking that choices have to be binary - I've often been guilty of it myself. Whenever somebody makes a choice that is different to our own we fear that it might dilute the possibility of us making our own choices, and so we become hostile. But it's important we work against this tendency.

I'm hoping that we'll be able to work towards a world have a world where stay-at home dads, stay-at home mums, surrogate pregnancies, same-sex parents, dual parental leave, etc, are all valid choices for bringing up children.

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60. Koromi+wx[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 06:47:13
>>advent+O8
Where the hell do you get your news from? The "massive wind and solar boom" exists only in the media. There's a rule of thumb you can follow here: the importance of a technology / energy source / whatever is inversely proportional to the number of articles about it in the general media (and on HN for that matter).

Geothermal, wind, solar, heat, tide, etc. currently amount to a staggering 1.5% of the total primary energy supply of the world. Coil is at 28%, oil is at 31%, natural gas at 22% (and climbing), nuclear at 5%, etc. CO2 emissions continue climbing year after year, and we should have started going down more than twenty years ago.

Our agricultural system is completely dependent on fossil fuels (oil). Because of that it is mostly unsustainable, and also because it tends to destroy fertile lands (topsoil loss is kind of a big issue).

You are kind of right that the current system can support a lot of people. Unfortunately, almost none of it is sustainable. So making more people is really not a good idea at the moment, because the situation will change drastically over the next 80 years.

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61. anamea+dy[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 07:01:36
>>Doreen+o9
> Because her blood and the blood of the baby mix, she carries cells from the baby for many years afterwards.

This is not true. If the baby had AB blood and the mother had A, then the baby's blood cells would be attacked by the mother's.

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62. juicyf+ky[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 07:02:45
>>b4lanc+h
And they will petition the government to tax you enough to make it happen. They are doing soon.
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63. yorwba+wy[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 07:06:48
>>anamea+dy
It does happen. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hemolytic_disease_of_the_newbo...
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64. newfou+UA[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 08:02:24
>>Doreen+zo
It's obviously hard to be feminist if you think women are worse than men.

Your experience of self proclaimed feminists and full time motherhood is very different to mine, and it's not just a generation gap because my mother was a full time parent and a feminist (still feminist, but spends less time parenting these days) and my sister is both as well.

I am also pretty skeptical of the interpersonal understanding and self awareness of women who explain that they just never get on with other women because of the issues those other women have, and men are just so much nicer - it's usually as much about their issues as anyone else's.

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65. khedor+pC[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 08:35:39
>>hiram1+th
Some women hate it. Some feel a sense of wonder (my mother was like that, when carrying my younger brother). Some face it with resignation (that was more like my wife). My wife's biggest issues involved her blood pressure and fear about actually giving birth. One friend I have no doubt would still have carried her child naturally, even given another option. Another friend, I'm not sure about.

Carrying a child is often a very emotional experience, and it makes sense that reactions to those emotions would vary pretty wildly between different people.

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66. anon57+sE[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 09:24:14
>>yorwba+wy
I don't know about cells of the baby remaining in the body of the mother, but in the link you posted it says that HDN is caused (a) in the baby (b) by IgG antibodies (not cells).
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67. pessim+NG[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 10:15:14
>>MBCook+f8
I'd bet most of them. People don't adopt because it is extremely difficult for some reason. Adopting probably costs more than an artificial uterus.
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68. astura+kI[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 10:45:24
>>hiram1+th
Why exactly do you believe feminism would be against artificial wombs? (which, btw, is not even what we are talking about - these are transplanted natural wombs not artificial).

Feminism is about empowering women to make their own reproductive choices. Giving them MORE choices is a positive not a negative for feminism.

69. astura+BJ[view] [source] 2017-12-03 11:15:42
>>koolba+(OP)
Can you harvest(1) eggs from a woman without a uterus? I don't see how you would. To get to the ovaries of a woman without a uterus you'd need to cut her open.

(1) is that the correct terminology?

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70. astura+NJ[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 11:20:54
>>rdtsc+pr
There's impolite people everywhere. If your wife worked outside the home she'd get impolite comments from family, acquaintances, and random strangers about working outside the home instead of being home with the kids.

Women who work outside the home get rude comments, women who stay at home get rude comments and you can't even avoid it by opting out of childbearing entirely, those women get rude comments too.

I fail to understand what that has to do with feminism or much anything else.

BTW, staying at home is the more socially acceptable choice.[1]

[1] http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/04/08/after-decades-of-d...

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71. astura+AK[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 11:36:07
>>fiblye+Hk
Drive to go through pregnancy and childbirth, not drive to reproduce.
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72. pvalde+pL[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 11:56:23
>>nvahal+R
Surrogacy is illegal in some places and countries.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Surrogacy_laws_by_country

Adoption on the other hand can be a risky path, leading to a different kind of problems, and some are very hard for parents. Everybody wants their sons being healthy and able to have a normal life but this is not always guaranteed with adoption. Some countries use shady practices and lie to the parents to obtain an emotional (not logical) choice. The cheaper the worst. Systematic racketeering is the minor of them. "Forgetting" about some important condition or omiting relevant medical information is much worse.

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73. astura+CL[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 12:01:21
>>MBCook+f8
Shakers https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shakers
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74. Doreen+YL[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 12:06:22
>>anon57+sE
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/09/15/science/a-pregnancy-souve...
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75. rimliu+qS[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 14:19:36
>>Koromi+wx
Population will stop growing much sooner than 80 years. You can look up Hans Rosling's talks on the subject.
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76. NetOpW+OS[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 14:28:11
>>Doreen+o9
Wow, that sounds intense/neat. Thanks for sharing.
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77. orsent+cT[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 14:35:59
>>Doreen+Ur
"To my mind, the only good feminism is one that insists that full-time parenting should be an equally legitimate choice for either parent, not just the mother."

I love this quote.

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78. norlys+hX[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 15:24:04
>>Doreen+o9
It's not only about the woman and her body. It's also about the child and the relationship between woman and child. Our lives don't start when we leave the womb. Our first experiences are inside of it, when we are immensely close with the mother - hell, we are inside of her body. So... It's also about sharing this first experiences and about bonding with the child. Something that is not possible with a surrogate mother. Or rather, something that happens to the surrogate mother instead. I don't think that 'handing the baby over' can ever be easy for that reason.
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79. ecopoe+oZ[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 15:54:10
>>dizzys+fw
Domestic adoption costs a lot too. Source: I adopted a baby from Virginia and it cost over $50,000. It is a very broken system.
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80. ryanma+401[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 16:04:03
>>Doreen+o9
Do you feel it’s fair to say that women generally long for childbirth because that’s what selection pressures in the environment left us with?
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81. ryanma+f01[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 16:07:39
>>Doreen+zo
My wife has said the same. In addition feminists have been hostile to me over the fact that my wife is a SAHM as if she’s my prisoner in some sort of Handmaid’s Tale conservative dystopian fantasy.
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82. ryanma+s01[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 16:09:48
>>astura+NJ
If your wife worked outside the home she'd get impolite comments from family, acquaintances, and random strangers about working outside the home instead of being home with the kids.

In this day and age? Does that still happen? Asking because honestly that’s so far from my personal experience.

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83. golden+S01[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 16:16:06
>>norlys+hX
Theres a good episode of Law and Order that deals with that issue. The plot is a surrogate mother keeping the child because she became attached to it.
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84. xahrep+T31[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 16:55:26
>>norlys+hX
The mental state of the mother while she's pregnant has a significant effect on the baby. For example if the mother has a lot of stress the baby will have symptoms of that stress years later.

Imo: that goes to show that mother and baby share feelings during the childbearing process. If negative feelings are pushed down to the baby. Then it would make sense that positive feelings are too.

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85. jansho+o41[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 17:04:23
>>Doreen+zo
There are many shades of feminism. Some women believe that modest clothing such as headscarves are empowering, shifting the focus on character rather than physical appearance, while other feminists will strongly disagree. For me it’s easier to accept that feminism is just an umbrella term for women’s right to do anything as she pleases just as easily as men can.

Plus it’s always in continuous change. Example: currently in the U.K. there’s a hot debate between (some) feminists and trans women [1] but who knows in the future, it would be 100% feminist to accept all self-identifying females as valid females.

Slightly off topic: Feminisim is a bit of a messy subject (imo), I wonder if one can have a clearer picture if it’s expressed in logical terms :o

[1] https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/nov/26/transgender-...

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86. dwaltr+151[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 17:12:01
>>Koromi+wx
The US has hit the milestone of generating 10% of its electricity via wind and solar, a huge increase from the 1% number of less than a decade ago. Sounds like a pretty big deal to me.

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/u-s-reports-a-maj...

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87. Noos+191[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 18:13:31
>>xenadu+Y4
I'd probably be very wary at that point of going into the hospital any more than I have to, especially for experimental treatments. I'm surprised everyone is so sanguine about things like that; you're enduring invasive surgery, and experimental methods that could easily fail and cause serious side effects. I'd only take it if the situation was dire and there was no other option.

Using it for non life-threatening issues would be putting a lot of stress and risk on myself and my body for little reason.

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88. vkou+591[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 18:13:43
>>astran+s8
Our current rate of resource usage is not sustainable. Africa may have a high population growth rate, but its carbon footprint is minuscule.

The problem isn't Africa. The problem is billions of people living a middle-class lifestyle - even with growth rates at or slightly below replacement.

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89. dcre+qa1[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 18:32:13
>>ryanma+401
Even if this question was interesting (it is not) there is no reason to think the experience of motherhood would give someone particular insight into the answer.
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90. Doreen+lb1[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 18:43:25
>>ryanma+401
I mostly think nature designed sex to feel good as a way of tricking people into getting pregnant. Most pregnancies are not planned. Two people were just trying to have a good time. You have to actively work at not getting pregnant if you want a sex life, but don't want children.

The question of longing for a baby is mostly a first world problem. In most parts of the world, they still have more traditional issues, like shot gun weddings for out-of-wedlock pregnancies.

It is sort of like saying "we crave oxygen." You only are aware of that in its absence. Otherwise, you breathe because that's what you do, not because you sit around writing odes to the wonderfulness of oxygen, oh, how I long for thee.

This is part of why people are weirded out. The default state is that women are trying like hell to not get pregnant most of the time. Then you have some weird edge case where they can't just get pregnant, you discover this matters enough to them to be willing to go to rather drastic lengths to achieve it and it flies in the face of our expectations.

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91. astura+1e1[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 19:22:17
>>ryanma+s01
Yes, absolutely, it happens a ton. The Duggars even turn it into "wholesome family TV."
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92. b4lanc+ee1[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 19:23:49
>>ggg999+Os
This is an amazing story of progress, technology, and hope. Do you need to make it about what it costs to you, or can that discussion maybe wait for another context?
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93. astura+8m1[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 20:44:29
>>ryanma+f01
Once again, people being rude has nothing to do with feminism and why do you assume people making rude comments are "feminists" rather than just "assholes?"

Feminism is all about empowering women to make choices that are right for them, especially with regards to reproduction and childrearing.

If your wife wasn't a stay at home mom she'd get rude comments about working outside the home - it's called the "Mommy Wars"- ever single childrearing choice gets criticized by someone.

I get a massive amount of criticism and nasty comments, from everyone including strangers, for my reproductive choices as well, even though they are firmly "progressive" - I'm a married woman whose voluntarily opted out of childbearing. I also get nasty comments about not taking my husband's name.

It's become fashionable, in the Trump era, to use feminism and liberalism for some sort of scapegoat, or reason for bad things, no matter how absurd. I was at a BBQ and one kid hit another kid and, very seriously, the mom blamed feminism. Yep, feminism caused a minor dispute between siblings.

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94. ggg999+ms1[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 22:00:31
>>b4lanc+ee1
It can't really wait, because I bet someone wants this now, and shouldn't get it from public coffers.
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95. snegu+tu1[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-03 22:23:38
>>ryanma+s01
Ha! Yes, of course. I get this all the time. Shocked reactions from people when I tell them our baby is in daycare. Sometimes it's more subtle and framed as "oh, it's too bad you can't afford to stay home with him," as if it couldn't possibly have been my choice.

Which is to say, I have the highest respect for SAHM moms because it's a damned difficult job.

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96. solids+RQ1[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-04 04:10:21
>>cutcss+X
So many wants are biologically wired...
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97. nostro+Oe2[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-04 10:24:50
>>cutcss+X
By the same token, you can just lay off having sex, since you are just wired biologically to want it ;-)
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98. nostro+df2[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-04 10:33:06
>>hiram1+th
I'm a woman, and I absolutely agree with the OP. There is nothing in the world like the mother-child bond!

Sure it's risky and is painful and it makes me scared sometimes, but the thought of some artificial womb producing my baby gives me the shudders.

Would it even be "my" baby, if I didn't carry it? Similarly, I don't think I could have the same kind of love for an adopted child as for my biological. I'm sure you can love it just as much, but differently.

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99. sbmtha+A74[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-05 06:13:35
>>Doreen+o9
This reminds me of a peculiar condition my mother was suffering from. She had to consume this particular tablet everyday to keep her cough and cold at bay. When she began carrying my sister, she was told by the Gynac that she had to stop consuming the tablet as it would harm the baby. She stopped the tablet and after 3-4 days of trouble, her cough and cold problem simply disappeared. Ever since, she never had to consume the tablet again.
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100. chiefa+IFg[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-11 17:06:20
>>sumedh+Pk
Yes. And thus my original comment about the lack of the need for a license, etc.

Short-sighted people with more money than awareness doesn't feel like a great way to describe a future parent(s).

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101. chiefa+QFg[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-11 17:07:34
>>robbro+q8
> Are you suggesting that everyone in the world concentrate on one problem at a time?

Not at all. If I'm supposing anything is that the word priorities is a word most people don't know but should.

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102. sumedh+WJh[view] [source] [discussion] 2017-12-12 01:55:51
>>chiefa+IFg
You accuse others of being short sighted when you first need to look in the mirror.

> Short-sighted people with more money

Turns out people with money (aka developed countries) the birth rate is falling (or already has fallen) below replacement.

Population is not the problem, population with an American lifestyle is a problem.

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