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I agree with most of these except 28.

> Some people are profoundly broken – usually from life's harsh trials. Give yourself permission to remove them from your orbit. Their healing requires years of professional help, more than well-meaning friends and family can achieve.

If you give up on those people and cut them out, you're pretty much condemning them to continuing being broken.

This conflicts with the earlier advice of trying to be kind.

Don't let them control you but don't cut them out. Give them some of your time and some kindness. You never know how much time a "profoundly broken" person has left.

>>antist+(OP)
It's definitely a balancing act. I have a friend with whom I try gently help him fix his spiraling life. That would let me help him if he's open to it. But for my own sanity and the health of my family, I can't make it a year-long repeated ask.

>>antist+(OP)
> If you give up on those people and cut them out, you're pretty much condemning them to continuing being broken.

I've seen what happens to those who spend their lives trying to fix others.

No thanks.

>>antist+(OP)
Keep in mind the idea that "Some people are profoundly broken." There are those you can help. There are also those who you will never be able to help. Know your limit. Know when to say enough and let them live with their choices. You can't fix everyone even if you wish you could.

>>antist+(OP)
I think perhaps the author's 35th lesson¹ is that brevity can lose nuance.

I interpreted this one to be in the context where having them in your orbit is causing you (or others) harm, and it ain't something you can fix.

¹ Actually it would be the 50th lesson. For some reason tacking on fifteen "bonus" lessons annoyed me. Felt like having your alliteration and eating it too. 51st lesson: math.