I feel the same way. I now have around 7 projects hosted on a home server with Coolify + Cloudflare. Always worry about security and I have seen many posts related to self hosting on HN trending recently
>>bicepj+(OP)
For security just don't expose the server to the internet. Either set up wireguard or tailscale. You can set it up in a split tunnel config so your phone only uses the VPN for LAN requests.
>>Schema+Ic
I am expecting Cloudflare Tunnel to take care of security. In fact, that is the only reason I am okay hosting from home. Are you talking about something more on top of Cloudflare Tunnel or extra security features or a replacement?