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1. tgv+(OP)[view] [source] 2025-10-08 16:02:53
Cultural issue, perhaps? Americans can say "we must have diner sometimes," while meaning "let's not meet again."
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2. theodr+Q4[view] [source] 2025-10-08 16:27:23
>>tgv+(OP)
Well, I'm American, although I've been in W. Europe longer than I lived in the USA at this point. Regardless, I don't see the value in lying about your intentions while framing it as performing a social good. Deceive someone into thinking you might be a friend, or friendly, but then ghost them if they attempt to engage. For whose benefit? In that case, just leave me alone. I will figure out the next steps on my own without having to take on the burden of trying to decide if the person messaging me is worth caring about.
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3. tgv+TD[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-10-08 20:14:08
>>theodr+Q4
I don't see it either when taking it literally. So that made me think: perhaps there's some cultural signal I'm not getting. Something that cannot be said out aloud.
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