But for those not willing to make the tradeoffs that GrapheneOS requires, Apple is probably the better choice IF you happen to trust Apple, or phrased differently - if you want Apple to be the only one spying on you vs. any number of third parties on Android, depending on which apps you install.
As for me, I have no particular love for Apple, despite being entirely in their ecosystem of devices, but I cba to play sysadmin at home and until Google/Android offers the equivalent level of E2EE as Apple's advanced data protection, I'm sticking with iPhone. I could piece together the equivalent myself, but there's something to be said of just having it offered OOTB.