Regarding "exhausting 2-day brute-force grind": is/was this just how you like to get things done, or was there external pressure of the "don't work on anything else" sort? I've never worked at a large company, and lots of descriptions of the way things get done are pretty foreign to me :). I am also used to being able to say "this isn't getting figured out today; probably going to be best if I work on something else for a bit, and sleep on it, too".
Our team also had a very grindy culture, so "I'm going to put in extra hours focusing exclusively on our top crash" was a pretty normalized behavior. After I left that team (and Google), most of my future teams have been more forgiving on pace for non-outages.
(And thanks for the war story!)