The situation in reality is quite actually quite bad.
Given that I have a M2 Max and no nVidia cards, I've tried enough PyTorch-based ML libraries that at some point, I basically expect them to flat out show an error saying CUDA 10.x+ is required once the dependencies are installed (eg. one of them being the bitsandbytes library -- in fairness, there's apparently some effort trying to port the code to other platforms as well).
As of today, the whole field is moving too fast that it's simply not worth it for a solo dev or even a small team to even attempt getting a non-CUDA stack up and running, especially with the other major GPU vendors not (able to?) hiring people to port the hand-optimized CUDA kernels.
Hopefully the situation will change after these couple years of frenzy, but in the time being I don't see any viable way to avoid using a CUDA stack if one is serious with getting ML stuff done.