If anyone knows how to fix this please let me know, I want to love my printer as well.
I print once a never, so the only answer I remember is to power cycle the little bastard.
And then I have to reboot my pc so windows 10 will find it.
There's probably a couple services I could restart instead, but reboot is fast enough I don't care.
Observation: disconnecting the printer from the network avoided the un-wake-able "deep sleep" state. Re-connecting the network made it susceptible again. I suspect it's particular network traffic that causes the printer to wedge into a sleep it cannot leave; possibly a Debian box that I've since de-commissioned. The problem no longer occurs despite having the same firmware as before and being connected to the network.