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Both presentations can manifest in either gender, but girls are more likely to have the inattentive presentation than the hyperactive one.

Inattentive is a bit of a misnomer, too—it's not that they can't hold attention on something, it's that they have a hard time controlling where their attention goes. This is another reason why this presentation often flies under the radar: "my {daughter/son} can't have ADHD, {she/he} can stay focused on {favorite activity here} for hours!"

>>lolind+(OP)
That dysregulation of focus leads to shame spiraling. Both from parents and self inflicted.