It's possible to want both.
I've gotten downvoted for comments I probably never should have made (or at least should have heavily edited), and I understand. In fact I've made comments where I later thought "that should get downvoted" and been weirdly disappointed when it got upvoted instead ("I should have done a better job with that comment for it to deserve those upvotes"). I don't ask those people to explain their downvotes. I'm not proud of everything I've posted and those downvotes improve the discourse. In fact in reading these comments, I now suspect my account has that shadow rate-limiting flag on it and deserves it.
On the other hand, I've also gotten some truly inexplicable downvotes. Downvotes that I could not imagine anyone doing in good faith. Those downvotes do not improve the discourse and the community, they're simply infuriating and foster ill will, and these guidelines are all about fostering good will. If the person even made an effort to explain why I was downvoted, sure, I might continue to argue with them, but I would also appreciate the explanation and accept and understand their downvote.