As a trans woman living in a conservative area, I get where you're coming from but I seriously disagree. The hardest pill for me to swallow through all of this has been realizing that some people will never change no matter how much you engage them. The only way I maintain my sanity is to do whatever I can to reduce my exposure to that kind of thing so I don't end up engaging with it.. because it just never goes well.
I realize it's a complicated issue, and I'm never a fan of banning speech. But not all speech deserves a response.