This is your domain, and your rules go. If you say I was flame warring, then I was flame warring. But I don't think "the majority of this site would agree", and I think it's weird you think that.
If you can point out what exactly was so egregious - something which tptacek didn't do worse in the same thread - I'll endeavour to make sure it never happens again, you have my word.
> Kindly take your gaslighting and passive aggression somewhere else
That's aggressive name-calling and flamebait.
> I'm allowed to "yell" and write how I like. I haven't taken any personal shots at anyone - unlike yourself.
That's flamewar fodder which adds no information.
> Even if shrill is "gendered" (The Google says it "hints" at gendered language, btw), *so fucking what*.
"So fucking what" is gratuitous, aggressive flamebait.
> The implication in GPs comment is that this justifies Newspeak-ification... It doesn't.
That's an on-topic statement! but a shallow one. This part could have been the kernel of a good comment if you had expanded on your argument instead of just saying "It doesn't."
> And neither does referencing less "agreeable" authors, such as Joseph Conrad.
That's fine, but again would have been much better with more information.
> I mean, wow dude. Talk about the worst possible takes.
That's more name-calling and flamebait.
I don't know how to read that comment except as exactly the sort of flamewar that we don't want on HN. And you broke the site guidelines repeatedly in other comments in that same thread:
I re-read tptacek's comments in the same thread and your comments were far, far more aggressive and flamewarrish than his. It's not close. I realize it doesn't feel this way because it always feels like the other person started it and did worse. But this is an illusion we all suffer from when we get into those sorts of conflicts. (The solution is to cultivate the habit of responding less in kind, not more; if one does that enough, it can partially correct for that bias.)
All that said, I could probably have warned you rather than banned you at that point. I don't understand why I wrote "we just asked you to stop" - assuming you weren't using multiple accounts to post, it's possible I simply mistook you for someone else that I had recently scolded, and if so, that could have tipped me in the direction of banning you.
If you want to commit to editing out flamebait and name-calling from your posts and not being aggressive in HN comments in the future, I'd be happy to unban you. Please make sure you're up on the guidelines at https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html because those set the parameters of how we interpret these things.
I will commit to avoiding "flamebait" and name-calling in posts, and being, at worst, genially aggressive in HN comments.
Still, we don't come close to seeing everything and I understand the sensitivities people feel around elitism (real or perceived). If you or anyone see a post by any user that you think I would normally give a moderation scolding to, you're welcome to bring it to our attention at hn@ycombinator.com. I'll normally either post a moderation reply and thank you for bringing it to our attention; or, if not, at least let you know that I don't think it broke the guidelines badly enough to do so. And I can promise you that it's our intention to treat everyone equally.
(p.s. there are actually difficult cases of users who break the site guidelines a lot and also post a lot of valuable comments, but tptacek is nowhere near being one of those).