I have a friend who used to have an abuser who talked like that. Every time she said or did something that hurt him, it was his fault for feeling that way, and a real man wouldn't have any problem with it.
I'm all for mindfulness and metacognition as valuable skills. They helped me realize that a bad grade every now and then didn't mean I was lazy, stupid, and didn't belong in college.
But this argument that people should indiscriminately suppress emotional pain is dangerous. It entails that people ought to tolerate abuse and misuse of themselves and of other people. And that's wrong.