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1. roboca+(OP)[view] [source] 2022-05-24 01:33:37
You really are not helping that cause.

As a foreigner[], your point confused me anyway, and doing a Google for cultural stuff usually gets variable results. But I did laugh at many of the comments here https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/comments/ufy2k4/why_...

[] probably, New Zealand, although foreigner is relative

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2. ChadNa+ub[view] [source] 2022-05-24 03:43:06
>>roboca+(OP)
Haha. I've got some personal experience with that one. I used to live in a house with many other people, and one girl was rastafarian and from jamacia and had dreadlocks, and another girl in the house (who wasn't black) thought that her hairstyle was very offensive. We had to have several conflict resolution meetings about it.

As silly as it seemed, I do think everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I respect the anti-dreadlocks girl for standing up for what she believed in even when most people were against her.

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3. roboca+jr3[view] [source] [discussion] 2022-05-25 03:22:57
>>ChadNa+ub
> thought that her hairstyle was very offensive

Telling others they don’t like how others look is right near the top on the scale of offensiveness. I had a partner who had had dreads for 25 years. I’m wasn’t a huge fan of her dreads because although I like the look, hers were somewhat annoying for me (scratchy, dread babies, me getting tangled). That said, I would hope I never tell any other person how to look. Hilarious when she was working, and someone would treat her badly due to their assumptions or prejudices, only to discover to their detriment she was very senior staff!

Dreadlocks are usually called dreads in NZ. My previous link mentions that some people call them locks, which seems inapproprate to me: kind of a confusing whitewashing denial of history.

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