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That's an interesting parallel. It's self-victimisation, and as a result, it's also self-sabotage.

Incels badly want attention from women, but the way they act basically guarantees they will never have what they want. No self-respecting woman would ever want someone who blames them for all their suffering.

Radical, toxic feminists badly want success, but the toxic behavior they display will ensure that anyone successful and smart will do their best to stay away. No self-respecting businessperson would want to do business with someone who, given criticism they don't like, might turn on a dime and call them a horrible, sexist, patriarchal monster.

You can't have it both ways IMO. You can't say I'm a strong, independent woman, in control of my life, but any time things don't turn out the way I want, it's the fault of sexist cis-white-men. The world is not a fair place, you don't always get what you want when you want it, and sometimes, that's nobody's fault.

>>tachyo+(OP)
I know someone who works in the arts and for them the patriarchy or racism (or some kind of oppression) is the cause of every problem because that’s the current culture of the arts. But if it’s the answer to every question, it isn’t the answer to any question. We would be better off just assuming that, discarding it, and looking for some other cause