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I have been extremely fortuante that women have always found me very attractive and there is not a single job I've had where female co-workers didn't make comments at work which would not have been seen as extremely inappropriate the other way around. Even when I was 19 and I got my first job some 30+/40+ year old female co-workers heavily flirted with me in the most inappropriate way. I'm not gonna lie, I enjoyed it for many years and definitely have had many fond memories because of it, but equally it has shaped me of how I think of some of the outrage which is happening nowadays the other way around.

I even had married women behave extremely inapproriate, with some groping me in various places, getting me drunk at work parties and trying to get me make a first move if they felt bad about doing it themselves.

It's not like all women at work acted unprofessionally with me, but there was enough inappropriate behaviour that everyone knew about it and guess what, not a single women told another women that this behaviour was not ok.

Interestingly, after I got into a serious relationship and stopped to accept such behaviour I have had many women above me to turn on me and treat me as if I offended them by not flirting back.

All I know is that all humans are the same. Let's pay women an equal wage but please let's not pretend that women in power are any better than men.

>>throwa+(OP)
Yeah, attractive males can say bunch of "nasty" stuff to females and it is considered flirting rather then mobbing

As always, context is everything.

> after I got married and stopped to accept such behaviour

Man should never stop accepting such behavior ...

>>throwa+(OP)
Our culture and our behaviors are a really vast field. It's easy to skew the perception of things when you select and repeat only the part you want.

For example you mention wage, and that's because it's repeated over and over again. But how about life expectancy? Is is considered a major sexism problem? Can we fix that gap?

I agree with your post 100%, we are not judged equally.

>>throwa+(OP)
>I have been extremely fortunate that women have always found me very attractive and there is not a single job I've had where female co-workers didn't make comments at work which would not have been seen as extremely inappropriate the other way around

Far more men get groped than women these days.

Few know/talk about this unless they're doing the groping or an outlier in attractiveness.

>>throwa+(OP)
> Let's pay women an equal wage but please let's not pretend that women in power are any better than men.

Indeed; I couldn't agree more. Although I'd like to add a note to this which complicates things a tad, namely that almost all men are stronger than almost all women.

I have met exactly one woman in my life that's physically stronger than me. I'm not especially strong, about average, and I'm already stronger than >98% of all women out there.

The sexual harassment you experienced was, mostly, without actual physical danger. While certainly inappropriate, frustrating, and wrong if things really escalated in a way you didn't want you always had the option to just stop them from doing whatever they were doing. A lot of women on the other hand don't really have this option.