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I'm of two minds (I often am). I agree that humor is a bonding device. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. And to top it off, it's more fun.

But, what if there was a person in your group that was actually offended? And couldn't say so because they'd be out of the group? Does it matter? (To me, yes). Does it matter enough to change the group's behavior? (Maybe). Does it matter enough to change the entire world's behavior?

>>darker+(OP)
These are all wonderful questions, and my only answer to them is that grace, patience, bearing with one another, and the courage & honesty to confront what doesn't feel right have all been made high virtues throughout time for a reason! :)

It's through these that we may move away from disproportionate responses to what feels uncomfortable and find common understanding with each other, but alas, never perfectly.