You’re making a value judgement based on skin color. That’s racism. Even if you don’t have bad intentions, the black person in your example suffers because of it.
>>Justin+(OP)
That's newspeak.
Racism is treating people based on their skin color intentionally and hierarchizing them based on their race.
There is an intention.
What a person feels is subjective and has nothing to do with what the other person intended to do.
As you can't be in other people's head (except if you have that pretension ?) the only thing that matters is what your intention were.