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1. whymau+(OP)[view] [source] 2020-06-13 01:37:36
But do you actually acknowledge them? I think this is fine if you're taking it to heart and actually internalizing the discussion a bit. Otherwise, it's disingenuous.

Edit: this is very basic EQ and active listening, not sure why it's controversial to have good social skills.

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2. austhr+O[view] [source] 2020-06-13 01:43:56
>>whymau+(OP)
If you want genuine don't ask people questions where the answer can give them negative backlash at work.

Getting upset when someone wont be truthful on things with you on touchy subjects at work is like being upset when someone wont be truthful with you on touchy subjects when you're pointing a gun at them.

3. dvtrn+B1[view] [source] 2020-06-13 01:49:30
>>whymau+(OP)
Acknowleding someone’s opinions and feelings can be as simple as being quiet, letting them speak, giving them room to express themselves without interruption, objection objection or reprisal. You don’t need to automatically alter your course of action just to merely recognize and acknowledge something someone’s said, sometimes just shutting up and being deferential is enough.

“Thank you for your opinion but I’m going another way” is no more of a failure than establishing any other decent and respectable boundaries between peoples.

Manners maketh the man (or woman, or however an individual chooses to self-identify).

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4. whymau+42[view] [source] [discussion] 2020-06-13 01:54:24
>>dvtrn+B1
OK, I think I'm getting this a bit more. I believe this is a healthy way to think about these topics. I just wasn't sure if you were encouraging people to participate in active listening or passive-aggressiveness. It's clear you're focused on the former which I find commendable.
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5. dvtrn+Kc[view] [source] [discussion] 2020-06-13 04:10:43
>>whymau+42
I encourage seeking clarity and being secure in one's own emotional intelligence to ask questions when things are ambiguous, so I appreciate your asking. Happy to have helped find a mutual understanding. Sorry your comments were so negatively reacted to here.
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