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It's true that companies also do toxic things sometimes, but I feel you're critically missing the point here. Effectiveness is not the appropriate metric. You generally should be reasonable even if it's not effective at getting your way.

>>SpicyL+(OP)
It's okay to burn bridges that lead to nowhere. Be reasonable if it helps your cause or improves the odds of arriving at your desired outcome; if not (and you have the leverage), be unreasonable. Winning > being polite.

>>toomuc+h1
I dunno what to tell you. Most people learn in early childhood that it's not okay to get what you want by throwing tantrums. If you missed that lesson, I'm unfortunately not sure how to guide you through it. But I'd recommend trying to find a way to learn; you should be aware that you're hurting both your organization and your personal reputation when you throw one.

>>SpicyL+72
You choose the language you want to use. One person's tantrum is another person's negotiation. If it accomplishes your goal, that's all that matters. Objective success metrics will always trump feelings.

Don't trust internet randos, of course, but I preach what I practice and it has served me well in life.

>>toomuc+h1
This is such a terrible, terrible attitude to have and is exactly why many have started describing recent cultural shifts as "toxic". This attitude is very reminiscent of the GOP/Trump's tactics during his presidency, and is almost a direct endorsement of such actions.

>>tidepo+V2
I wish politeness counted for something (truly; I'm mostly a very polite person, too polite even). Looking back through history at those conquered, not so much. I'm unsure how to reconcile the need for politeness when the system (whether that be a political or societal environment) doesn't attribute weight to it. It doesn't count for much with a boot on your neck. "Do no harm but take no shit".

How much should one be willing to sacrifice for the high road? Everything?

>>toomuc+G2
Sure, you do you. But again, you should understand that many people will not listen to you because of the strategies you’re using. I try my hardest not to work with people who conduct themselves that way, and I don’t listen to anything they have to say because I can’t trust that they’re being honest.

>>SpicyL+a4
Which is why you should only use these strategies if you have the leverage necessary. If you don't (or if the situation doesn't dictate the need), you would opt for alternatives. Operating in such a fashion (if my comments did not make it clear above) is a last resort and calculated risk.