I have written a number of replies that to me were simply neutral questions but which felt like an attack, from what I can tell, because they were harshly downvoted and I was even throttled by the mods.
I have to assume that’s on me and I have largely stopped asking for clarification because I seem to do it without sufficient empathy or something.
dang did reply thoughtfully to my inquiries about what I had done and that actually made me feel worse! I know those two are busy doing way more important things and I hate making their day worse.