But "reality" does not seem to be sexist, rather our biases and tribalism is sexist (and racist and plenty of other -ist). When high-quality reproducible research has observed phenomena like "stereotype threat" and "implicit bias" it is worthwhile to spend some of our idle time on thinking how to address this unfairness. Even if we do it simply so that we have a wider applicant pool from which to pick high-quality employees.
For more digestible information look around their website.
I guess it is my turn: What debunking are you talking about besides the more extremist men's rights advocates (which are different from the moderates that have very valid concerns)? "Implicit bias" is indeed only the start of a discussion, as one needs to consider its predictive value in non-test conditions, but if you are sincerely interested in pursuing this conversation, the website above is a good starting point.
This was a discussion a month ago. I'm mostly basing my opinion on it.
- the John/Jennifer study http://www.yalescientific.org/2013/02/john-vs-jennifer-a-bat...
- the chairs study http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.465...
- the police shooting armed people in VR study http://www.washington.edu/news/2003/07/08/blacks-more-likely...
- the general idea of "stereotype threat" (which becomes unrelated, not as much of an offshoot)
I am not expecting you to spend the time to vet every single of those links (and admittedly I used google, so some of the links might be overly editorialized), however I do believe these are good resources to consider for inclusion in your intellectual toolkit when you have the time.