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1. cyberj+(OP)[view] [source] 2015-09-07 04:49:11
The idea of divorces increasing is a good point you bring up. I have no stats, but I've heard way too many instances of this of late. Perhaps, I'm being biased. While I am all for people being happy in their marriages, I guess I'm pretty narrow minded to think that people in arranged marriages make their marriages work (culturally enforced or not). I don't believe in perfect marriages; there are always going to be problems.

In the end, I feel it's a healthier environment for the children out of the marriage. Love marraiges are a more natural, a more realistic option over the arranged marriages setup, but I think it also needs both people to be extremely mature, not greedy, and make proactive effots towards keeping the relationship stable. That is sadly something I can't think of the people I see around, in the society we live. People are way too greedy, so it's easier for them to abandon their partners and move to 'greener pastures'.

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2. visaka+Z2[view] [source] 2015-09-07 06:09:20
>>cyberj+(OP)
> Love marraiges are a more natural, a more realistic option over the arranged marriages setup

Just for fun, it's worth pointing out that marriage itself is a human-created institution and not exactly "natural". But if we explore this rabbithole we then have to start asking what natural even means, and if man-made things are natural, and so on.

But it's an interesting point to include when thinking about such things, because it's a good reminder that most of these things are constructed and actually very context-sensitive (eg- arranged marriages were probably once more realistic in older configurations where family ties played a more important role in an individual's survival).

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3. cyberj+R6[view] [source] [discussion] 2015-09-07 08:10:03
>>visaka+Z2
Haha! Yes, I know I was going to trip on that one. Let's just call it natural for convenience sake, because we've been doing it for some 30,000 years, give or take. Factually, it's not natural. It's just as natural as being civil.

Family ties are still as important today as they were back then, which is why people ought to think more about their children and their mental health when they decide to part ways for their personal greed.

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4. sridca+bx[view] [source] [discussion] 2015-09-07 17:08:37
>>visaka+Z2
>> Love marraiges are a more natural, a more realistic option over the arranged marriages setup

> Just for fun, it's worth pointing out that marriage itself is a human-created institution and not exactly "natural".

I would take it one step further and suggest that love itself is human-created.

I take "natural" to generally mean instinctual (raw emotional reaction), and as such any immediate (as opposed to a prolonged social feeling) reaction of sexual desire (lust) or pair-bonding instinct (nurture) can be categorized as "natural" - as opposed to socially sanctioned feeling-stories like love or institutions like marriage.

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