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>>jger15+(OP)
I don't entirely disagree, but the first thing that this article brought to mind is the old cliche "wherever you go, there you are". I'm 34, lots of ex girlfriends and lots of past cities. There's a fine line between breaking out of the status quo hamster wheel and running away from your baggage.

Moving cities, or relationships, or jobs isn't worth as much if you aren't simultaneously working on yourself

>>Wonnk1+ec
It's as old as humanity

> Do you suppose that you alone have had this experience? Are you surprised, as if it were a novelty, that after such long travel and so many changes of scene you have not been able to shake off the gloom and heaviness of your mind? You need a change of soul rather than a change of climate.

Seneca, 2000 years ago

More people should read the classics, lots of wisdom you can speed run instead of discovering you fucked up the better part of your youth chasing ghosts

>>lm2846+Uy1
At the same time it’s hard to understand something before you experienced it yourself. Something like a limitation of written communication.

>>hcks+DG1
It seems fairly straightforward and real wisdom is learning from others mistakes

>>max68+0I1
It seems real wisdom has a prerequisite: actually seeing/witnessing other people's mistakes.

It is hard to see other people's real mistakes, both clearly and with all the context.

I remember reading about one common parenting mistake: fighting with their spouse quietly away from their kids. Or maybe fighting happens, but resolving does not.

The idea is that kids can't learn how their parents fight, discuss and then resolve issues because they don't ever see everything start to finish.