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1. ern+sw[view] [source] 2015-09-07 01:53:38
>>jimsoj+(OP)
I wonder what the effect of this phenomenon will be on India's famously low divorce rate. And if the divorce rate does increase, will it increase for both arranged and non-arranged marriages at the same pace?

Can young people make better choices than their parents? Or has the divorce rate been so low because parents had a bigger stake in mediating to save face?

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2. cyberj+xB[view] [source] 2015-09-07 04:49:11
>>ern+sw
The idea of divorces increasing is a good point you bring up. I have no stats, but I've heard way too many instances of this of late. Perhaps, I'm being biased. While I am all for people being happy in their marriages, I guess I'm pretty narrow minded to think that people in arranged marriages make their marriages work (culturally enforced or not). I don't believe in perfect marriages; there are always going to be problems.

In the end, I feel it's a healthier environment for the children out of the marriage. Love marraiges are a more natural, a more realistic option over the arranged marriages setup, but I think it also needs both people to be extremely mature, not greedy, and make proactive effots towards keeping the relationship stable. That is sadly something I can't think of the people I see around, in the society we live. People are way too greedy, so it's easier for them to abandon their partners and move to 'greener pastures'.

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3. visaka+wE[view] [source] 2015-09-07 06:09:20
>>cyberj+xB
> Love marraiges are a more natural, a more realistic option over the arranged marriages setup

Just for fun, it's worth pointing out that marriage itself is a human-created institution and not exactly "natural". But if we explore this rabbithole we then have to start asking what natural even means, and if man-made things are natural, and so on.

But it's an interesting point to include when thinking about such things, because it's a good reminder that most of these things are constructed and actually very context-sensitive (eg- arranged marriages were probably once more realistic in older configurations where family ties played a more important role in an individual's survival).

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