Knowing the difference is important to understanding and empathizing with the person you replied to.
I 100% understand and empathize, doesn't mean I agree.
You might want to recheck the definition of normative. Yours is a non-standard usage and you will be misunderstood if you continue to use it that way.
Norm is is, Normative is ought.
> Normative: pertaining to giving directives or rules
> Synonyms: prescriptive