No biggie, there's a real normative undertone to the world in general too.
Norm itself means "what the majority does" or the socially (i.e. majority) accepted yardstick ("norma" in latin was a literal yardstick-like tool).
It's not about the typical person _always_ doing things in a better way, or the autistic person always doing things differently. It's about the distribution of typical vs atypical behavior. So, it's not very useful to characterize such atypical behavior better or worse based on absolute moral or technical judgement. Morality changes over time, cultures, and even social groups, to a bigger or smaller degree.
If, however, we use "degree of comformity with majority behaviors/expectations" as the measurement, autistics do perform worse on that.
Knowing the difference is important to understanding and empathizing with the person you replied to.
I 100% understand and empathize, doesn't mean I agree.
You might want to recheck the definition of normative. Yours is a non-standard usage and you will be misunderstood if you continue to use it that way.
Norm is is, Normative is ought.
> Normative: pertaining to giving directives or rules
> Synonyms: prescriptive