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1. trow23+(OP)[view] [source] 2025-12-04 23:50:50
Some people have harder lifes than others.

Saying everybody has a few things that they struggle is kind of offensive.

I struggle because my parents were drug addicts and my father tried to kill us all when I was 5.

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2. snapde+I[view] [source] 2025-12-04 23:54:36
>>trow23+(OP)
Somebody ALWAYS has a harder life than you.
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3. dotanc+RJ[view] [source] 2025-12-05 07:53:20
>>trow23+(OP)
And my children grew up with rockets regularly targeting us, and our home has sustained damage, and we have had friends killed. Yet my oldest has succeeded in gifted children's organisations her entire time at school.

And at the gifted children's organisations I've seen families who have it much harder than we ever did. Children in those families grew up to be resilient, face danger, and overcome obstacles direct and obstacles covert. Some of them with physical disabilities too.

Somebody is always suffering worse than we are.

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4. Yeask+ok1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 11:54:45
>>snapde+I
Those are not mutually exclusive.

You can have a life harder than most and at the same time not having the worst life in the world.

17% of children experience violence at home. The fact that 5000k away there are other kids dying in wars is the consolation you think it is.

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5. hnfong+Yf2[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 16:36:30
>>dotanc+RJ
I think you're misreading GP's point, which I think is probably also your point.

The comment they replied to was apparently suggesting that everyone struggles in some areas, so it's meaningless to highlight one group's struggle over another given that they all have reached a certain stable career.

GP main point (as I understand it) is: no, some people actually do struggle harder than others to make it.

I don't know why people get triggered and start comparing traumas but let's avoid doing it here.

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6. dotanc+Ir2[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 17:26:45
>>hnfong+Yf2
Yes, I understood both their points. I added another data point for a struggle that I assume is not common for HNers, and demonstrated that people can overcome such a struggle.

I certainly don't want to compare traumas and I don't consider my family to be traumatised. I'm certain that some HNers could describe further personal experiences that they've overcome. Have we any Sudanese? People from east Ukraine? Yeminites?

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