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1. hibiki+(OP)[view] [source] 2025-12-04 18:51:59
I think there's a non-malicious explanation for a percentage of this.

As I grew up in the 80s, there were two kinds of gifted kids in school: The kind that would ace everything anyway, and the kind that, for a variety of reasons, lacked the regulation abilities to manage the school setting well, with the slow classes and such. A lot of very smart people just failed academically, because the system didn't work for them. Some of those improved their executive function enough as they went past their teenage years, and are now making a lot of money in difficult fields.

So what happens when we do make accomodations to them? That their peaky, gifted performance comes out, they don't get ejected by the school systems anywhere near as often as they were before, and now end up in top institutions. Because they really are both very smart and disabled at the same time.

you can even see this in tech workplaces: The percentages of workers that are neurodivergent is much higher than usual, but it's not as if tech hires them out of compassion, but because there's a big cadre or neurodivergent people that are just in the line where they are very productive workers anyway. So it should be no surprise that in instutitutions searching for performance, the number of people that qualify for affordances for certain mental disabilities just goes way up.

That's not to say that there cannot be people that are just cheating, but it doesn't take much time in a class with gifted kids to realize that no, it's not just cheating. You can find someone, say, suffering in a dialectic-centric english class, where just following the conversation is a problem, while they are outright bored with the highest difficulty technical AP classes available, because they find them very easy.

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2. lostms+U1[view] [source] 2025-12-04 19:04:07
>>hibiki+(OP)
> The percentages of workers that are neurodivergent is much higher than usual

Is it much though? 38%? I haven't seen one in 15 years across 5+ different companies.

> there's a big cadre or neurodivergent people that are just in the line where they are very productive workers anyway

Alternatively, it just became popular to label others or oneself that way. And tech elites have nothing better to do in free time. Also DEI benefits! Who else would be allowed a medical break due to a burnout and stress?

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3. mapont+s2[view] [source] 2025-12-04 19:08:01
>>hibiki+(OP)
> Because they really are both very smart and disabled at the same time.

I agree with almost everything you say here. However, I wanted to point out that you make the same mistake the articles author does. "Disabled" and "Diagnosed" are not actually the same thing, even though we do describe ADHD and the like as "learning disabilities."

Being diagnosed with a learning disability or other type of neuro-divergency does not automatically entitle someone to special treatment. The vast majority of that 38% are likely just "diagnosed" people who are asking for no special treatment at all.

That doesn't fit the authors narrative, or trigger the human animals "unfairness" detector though so it makes a far less interesting article.

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4. jfindp+L4[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:21:19
>>lostms+U1
>I haven't seen one in 15 years across 5+ different companies

How does one even know this? Do you ask everyone you meet if they are neuro-divergent? That’s awkward as hell.

5. MangoT+z5[view] [source] 2025-12-04 19:25:46
>>hibiki+(OP)
> I think there's a non-malicious explanation for a percentage of this.

What on earth is a "malicious" explanation of this?

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6. MangoT+I5[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:26:16
>>lostms+U1
> I haven't seen one in 15 years across 5+ different companies.

I'm guessing you are blind, yea? Otherwise how could you otherwise justify such a statement?

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7. swatco+V5[view] [source] 2025-12-04 19:27:21
>>hibiki+(OP)
> people that are just in the line where they are very productive workers anyway

Of course, that applies to everybody who achieves a stable career at all.

Exceedingly few people (if anyone) are competent and capable at everything, even when you're just talking about basic skills that are handy for common, everyday work.

Your doctor may be a incorrigibly terrible driver, your bus driver may pass out at the sight of blood, your Michelin chef might have been never made sense of geometry, your mechanic may need deep focus just to read through a manual, your bricklayer might go into a panic if they need to stand in front of a crowd, your bartender may never have experienced a clear thought before 11am.

Struggling with some things, even deeply struggling, is normal if not universal. But once you age past the gauntlet of general education that specifically tests all these things, the hope is that you can just sort of flow like water into a valuable enough community role that you can take care of yourself and help some people.

A lot of modern, aspiring-middle-class and online culture stirs up an idea that there must be something unusual about you if you find this thing or that thing difficult, when the reality is that everybody has a few things that they struggle with quite a lot, and that the people who seem like they don't have just succeeded at avoiding, delegating, or hiding whatever it is that's hard for them.

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8. appare+f6[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:28:31
>>MangoT+z5
That people know they do not actually need/qualify for accommodations, but misrepresent themselves in order to get them?
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9. jfindp+C6[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:30:11
>>MangoT+z5
One example of a malicious explanation would be: people are lying about having a disability to get some sort of benefits they don’t need, likely at the expense of someone who does need those benefits.
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10. teknop+g8[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:38:09
>>jfindp+C6
What they get is amphetamines, legally.

38% of stanford kids taking or selling drugs, legally, because they are rich kids: and the poor kids get jail time for buying it off them.

Go USA.

Wierd that no-one on this thread seems aware of it.

There are two standard treatments for adhd: met & dexies midnight runners.

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11. OneDeu+H9[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:43:48
>>lostms+U1
> Is it much though? 38%? I haven't seen one in 15 years across 5+ different companies.

How do you know this?

Do you have access to their medical records?

Are you in HR and have access to any accomodations they may have filed?

Do they even have accommodations filed at work? Neither I nor many of the people I knew in university who had accommodations needed them in the workplace because the structure of an undergrad course setting is wildly different from that of an actual workplace.

I have told HR at basically every place I've worked that I had filed for accommodations during university and that I generally manage my disability well but that I may need to file for formal accommodations at some point in the future. This isn't something that I've necessarily told people I work with and it's not visible or obvious. Most disabilities aren't.

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12. LoganD+T9[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:45:01
>>lostms+U1
> > The percentages of workers that are neurodivergent is much higher than usual

> Is it much though? 38%? I haven't seen one in 15 years across 5+ different companies.

Just another anecdote, but where I work (tech startup) there are at least 7 other employees (that I know of) and I can identify every single one as autistic. Three are one type, another three are another type, and I think the one other as well as myself are the same type.

Research in the space hasn't advanced enough yet for this to be consensus, but in my opinion this preprint is exactly correct, and is what taught me that there are even subtypes to recognize at all: https://www.thetransmitter.org/spectrum/untangling-biologica...

There are, of course, plenty of non-neurodivergent tech companies. These are typically boring corporate ones, though I think there are some non-flashy ones that are perfectly respectable. I don't think Microsoft would count, though; Asperger's can look a lot like a lack of neurodivergence if you don't pay close enough attention.

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13. vl+W9[view] [source] 2025-12-04 19:45:16
>>hibiki+(OP)
Have you tried Adderall? It gives extreme competitive edge. Just to get legal and easy access to performance-enhancing drugs in elite educational (aka competitive) setting it makes sense to get "disability".

And given how loosely these conditions are defined, it's not even cheating in the true sense of the word.

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14. swiftc+va[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:47:21
>>lostms+U1
> Is it much though? 38%?

I'd say 30-40% is definitely in line with what I saw at various FAANG employers. Though it may be that other types of employer optimise less for those attributes.

> I haven't seen one in 15 years across 5+ different companies

Have you considered that you yourself may be neurodivergent?

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15. danthe+ya[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:48:03
>>MangoT+z5
Getting a diagnosis to get more time to complete tests. https://accommodations.collegeboard.org/how-accommodations-w...
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16. qazxcv+6b[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:49:33
>>swatco+V5
Well put.

> A lot of modern, aspiring-middle-class and online culture

Theres also a pernicious way of identifying with the struggle. Instead of I have trouble focusing in certain situations, so maybe I should find ways to spend my time (careers, hobbies) that work well with that. We instead go to 'I have ADHD' and my 'job' should make special accommodations for me.

Regardless of whether a job should or should not make accommodations. It's not a very helpful construct to think they should. It removes agency from the person experiencing the struggle. Which in turn puts them farther from finding a place that they would fit in well.

For the vast majority of behaviors (ADHD, attachment issues, autism, etc) they exist on a continuum and are adaptive/helpful in certain situations. By pathologizing them, we(society) loose touch for what they mean in our life. It also makes discourse hard because the (this is causing me to truly not be able to function) gets mixed in with the (this is a way that my brain behaves, but I can mostly live a life).

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17. sokolo+jb[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:50:41
>>lostms+U1
> I haven't seen one in 15 years across 5+ different companies.

Were you a solo founder of 5 companies? I literally cannot fathom that you worked at 5 even very modest-sized tech companies and never experienced a colleague with some level of what we’d call neurodivergent.

I can’t validate that the rate is 38%, but I find it hard to believe it’s under 5% and if it’s 5%, you’d be hard-pressed to avoid crossing paths across 5 companies and 15 years.

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18. paulpa+Jb[view] [source] 2025-12-04 19:52:25
>>hibiki+(OP)
where just following the conversation is a problem, while they are outright bored with the highest difficulty technical AP classes available, because they find them very easy.

Then accommodations should not be needed if they are so easy, unless I am missing something?

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19. teknop+Sb[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:52:51
>>MangoT+z5
I don't understand how yous can be ignorant of this. In the USofA you get advertised at continuously by drug companies.

Do you really think they spend that money advertising, and that you can then not buy the products?!?

Sure, you need a corrupt doctor. But the amount of advertising tells you exactly the amount of corrupt doctors that can act as drug dealers for you.

If someone is advertising something at you, it's because you can get it and you are potential market.

Not rocket science.

Somehow the whole country has collective blindness to this fact that is scarily obvious to anyone from outside the USofA that drops by.

Drugs adverts for prescription drugs should be illegal: because there is no legal justification for them.

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20. paulpa+1c[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:53:30
>>mapont+s2
This Is detail often left out of this debate . A diagnosis does not imply accommodations.
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21. footy+dc[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:54:38
>>LoganD+T9
My company is about 100 people. I regularly interact with maybe 12. I'm AuDHD and so are at least 5 others---4 that I have regular interaction with and have told me, and one who I do not have regular interaction with but told me anyway. There are also at least 3 pure ADHD people.
22. estima+bd[view] [source] 2025-12-04 19:58:13
>>hibiki+(OP)
I nearly failed high school and I flunked or dropped out of college four times. I just absolutely cannot work within the framework of modern schooling.

I say this as humbly as possible, but still I'm one of the best engineers I know and working on some pretty advanced stuff. And yes, I'm rather autistic.

The way my brain works is just fundamentally incompatible with school. Starting from fundamentals and building up just doesn't work for me. Especially when we spend six months on fundamentals that I grokked in the first three weeks. The way I learn is totally backwards. I start from the top, high-level concepts and dig down into the fundamentals when I hit something I don't understand. The tradeoff is that the way I think is so radically different from my colleagues that I can come up with novel solutions to any problem posed to me. On the other hand, solving problems is almost a compulsion.

That said, if I had the option I'd choose a normal childhood over being a smart engineer. Life has been extremely unkind to me.

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23. paulpa+md[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 19:58:58
>>qazxcv+6b
Being diagnosed with a learning disability or other type of neuro-divergency does not automatically entitle someone to special treatment. The vast majority of that 38% are likely just "diagnosed" people who are asking for no special treatment at all.

Hmm ..the irony is that jobs that require the least amount of credentials have the least accommodations. White collar jobs, especially in tech, seem to have so many accommodations or delays and extra time. Think how often employees come in late or delay work. HR exists to accommodate these requests. College, and school in general, has far fewer accommodations and flexibility than seen in most work environments, save for low-skilled jobs where puantiality is necessary.

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24. powerc+ce[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:02:47
>>mapont+s2
The article is pretty clearly someone trying to drag disability on to the stage of the culture war because it's another group that's easy to other, imo.
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25. monkey+cf[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:06:45
>>lostms+U1
> And tech elites have nothing better to do in free time

This is it exactly. Programmers believe that we are God's special autists. 'Neurodivergent' is a nonfalsifiable label just like 'queer'

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26. paulpa+cg[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:12:07
>>estima+bd
I say this as humbly as possible, but still I'm one of the best engineers I know and working on some pretty advanced stuff. And yes, I'm rather autistic.

lol...there is nothing humble about this statement. >50% of people think they're above average.

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27. antupi+Tg[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:15:10
>>vl+W9
If you have ADHD, for neurotypical people it might feel that you are performing better but results will not improve https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/smart-drugs-can-decrease...
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28. pessim+8h[view] [source] 2025-12-04 20:16:09
>>hibiki+(OP)
> As I grew up in the 80s, there were two kinds of gifted kids in school: The kind that would ace everything anyway, and the kind that, for a variety of reasons, lacked the regulation abilities to manage the school setting well, with the slow classes and such. A lot of very smart people just failed academically, because the system didn't work for them. Some of those improved their executive function enough as they went past their teenage years, and are now making a lot of money in difficult fields.

Somehow it is impossible for people to blame the system, but instead they diagnose physical deficits in children based on their inability to adjust to the system.

Maybe the random way we chose to mass educate children a couple hundred years ago isn't perfect, and children are not broken?

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29. IAmBro+Pi[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:23:12
>>lostms+U1
> Also DEI benefits!

Ah, you accidentally showed your hand there. DEI does not provide benefits; it seeks to prevent continued, assumedly unfair, selection processes. Whether or not that is appropriate, or if the system was unfair, is arguable; fictitious "benefits" are not.

No one gets a DEI check from the government. But since you don't even see that others around you have disabilities, we can't really expect you to know much more than Fox tells you.

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30. barcha+Zi[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:23:36
>>qazxcv+6b
I don't see how you spending time in ways that work well with your challenges is different from your job providing accomodations, except that if your employer is willing to work with you then you don't have to randomly roll the dice until you come up with an employer where things happen to work in whatever way you wanted.

It's not like one of the accomodations on the table is "not doing your job"

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31. IAmBro+ij[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:24:48
>>sokolo+jb
That's unfair. Even a founder of a company wouldn't have any legal means of knowing for certain the disabled status of their employees.
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32. IshKeb+2k[view] [source] 2025-12-04 20:27:41
>>hibiki+(OP)
> The percentages of workers that are neurodivergent is much higher than usual, but it's not as if tech hires them out of compassion, but because there's a big cadre or neurodivergent people that are just in the line where they are very productive workers anyway.

There are certainly way more neurodivergent people in tech. But 38%?? I don't think so. And I think you're conflating HN nerdery with actual medical issues that mean you need extra time on tests. I'd believe that e.g. 30% of HN are pretty weird nerds, but there's absolutely no way that means they all need extra time on tests.

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33. bigfis+Dk[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:30:22
>>teknop+g8
Taking the drugs legally, maybe; it is very much illegal to sell the kind of amphetamines used to treat ADHD. Ritalin, for instance, is a schedule II drug, and it is a felony to sell without a prescription.
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34. barcha+Kk[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:30:57
>>vl+W9
They really don't, and if they did then would it be so bad if people who didn't "need" them took them?

Obviously if there's safety issues but for stimulants unsafe doses will 100% always decrease performance, because they'll affect sleep.

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35. Hizonn+Nk[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:31:13
>>swatco+V5
> But once you age past the gauntlet of general education that specifically tests all these things, the hope is that you can just sort of flow like water into a valuable enough community role that you can take care of yourself and help some people.

... provided that that gauntlet hasn't stuck a label on you that makes everybody think you're unsuitable for any role, and provided that it's bothered to develop the abilities you do have, and provided that other people aren't being unnecessarily rigid about what roles they'll allow to exist.

Sure, maybe it's stupid to frame it as "THIS counts as being disabled and THAT doesn't"... but we have a world where many systems have decided to do that, and may act slightly less insanely inflexible if they've put you in the "disabled" bucket.

If everybody has some limitations, maybe everybody should get some accommodations. You know, so that they can actually contribute using their strengths. But I'm not holding my breath.

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36. op00to+gl[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:33:20
>>paulpa+cg
And pointing this out adds to the discourse here how?
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37. swatco+ml[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:33:52
>>barcha+Zi
The difference reduces to:

1. The career I would like to have, and the life I desire to live, is my free choice. Once I've made that choice, the community's responsibility is to give me whatever I need so that I can apply myself to that career and live the life I imagine for myself.

vs

2. I have certain capabilities and limitations. The community has certain needs. If there's any way for me to do so, it's my responsibility to figure out how my capabilities can service the community's needs, respecting my limitations, and it's the community's reciprocal responsibility to make sure my contribution is fairly acknowledged so that I can live a secure and constructive life. I'll figure out the rest from there.

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38. fooker+yl[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:34:43
>>lostms+U1
> I haven't seen one in 15 years across 5+ different companies.

Hmm, have you looked in the mirror perhaps?

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39. Aurorn+Ul[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:35:59
>>mapont+s2
The original article is more enlightening: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/2026/01/elite-universit... (Gift link taken from the linked article, not my own)

The stats are thin because not everything from private universities (where the disability numbers are highest) is reported. However they did get this:

> L. Scott Lissner, the ADA coordinator at Ohio State University, told me that 36 percent of the students registered with OSU’s disability office have accommodations for mental-health issues

Note that's only accommodations for mental health issues, so exclusive of the numerous other disability types.

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40. Aurorn+pm[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:39:04
>>vl+W9
> Have you tried Adderall? It gives extreme competitive edge.

Before readers rush out to acquire Adderall, note that "trying" it does not give an accurate picture of what it's like to take it long-term. It has a high discontinuation rate because people read comments like this online or borrow a dose from their friend and think they're going to be running around like Bradley Cooper in Limitless for the rest of their career.

A new patient who tries Adderall will feel a sense of euphoria, energy, and motivation that is temporary. This effect does not last. This is why the Reddit ADHD forums are full of people posting "I just took my first dose and I'm so happy I could cry" followed a few weeks later by "Why did my Adderall stop working?". The focus part is still mostly working, but no drug is going to make you feel happy, energized, and euphoric for very long.

> Just to get legal and easy access to performance-enhancing drugs in elite educational (aka competitive) setting it makes sense to get "disability".

You're confusing two different things. Registering with the school's disability office is orthogonal to getting a prescription for anything.

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41. mrgold+Am[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:40:02
>>MangoT+z5
Cheating is the malicious interpretation, same way steroids are considered cheating in other competitions. (college admission is a competition, there are fixed number of seats and you cheating to get a seat hurts someone else.)
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42. eighty+7n[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:42:11
>>paulpa+Jb
Accommodations don't have to be used in all classes. They might need accommodations in an English class and no accommodations in the scientific or math classes. Usually this isn't evaluated per class, it's evaluated per student and then it's up to the student to use or not use the accommodations for the various classes they take.
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43. jnovek+po[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:49:11
>>mapont+s2
You are actually landed on the difference between “impairment” and “disability”! They’re often used interchangeably (along with “handicapped”), but they have specific meanings.

https://med.emory.edu/departments/pediatrics/divisions/neona...

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44. phaino+Ho[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:50:31
>>antupi+Tg
It's a small study and the "knapsack task" probably does not generalize to writing a paper or coding or something. Far from dispositive.
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45. hamdin+0q[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 20:56:11
>>qazxcv+6b
> maybe I should find ways to spend my time (careers, hobbies) that work well with that

You're really close to getting it.

Students in school do not have this flexibility. They are required to be there, an 8th grader has no control and little influence over how their time is spent, or whether their tasks are a good match for their abilities.

So the only option in school is accommodation. There are some who continue to expect that into adulthood, but the vast majority of kids diagnosed with ADHD do not seek accommodation in their professional life.

Why? Because they do exactly what you propose. They find careers that match their disposition.

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46. jjmarr+nr[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 21:02:44
>>IAmBro+ij
Federal contractors are required to track the percentage of self-identified disabled employees for reporting to the government.

https://www.ecfr.gov/current/title-41/section-60-741.42

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47. Aloisi+7s[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 21:06:39
>>mapont+s2
A majority of the 38% are receiving accommodations:

> This year, 38 percent of Stanford undergraduates are registered as having a disability; in the fall quarter, 24 percent of undergraduates were receiving academic or housing accommodations.

Mind, the disability rate for 18-34 year olds is 8.3% in the US, so even 24% is shockingly high. That's the same disability rate as 65-74 year olds.

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48. bluGil+is[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 21:07:28
>>pessim+8h
Blame the system is only useful if there is a different/changed system that would be better. The current system isn't perfect, but if you can't handle it I'm not aware of any change that would be worth it - there are a lot of changes that would get worse results (sometimes for everyone, sometimes for a different subgroup of people). Remember results is not how well you do in school, it is how well you do in life after school that counts. (economics is only one measure of this, it is important because wealth is a good proxy for a lot of useful things like enough food)
49. cryzin+xs[view] [source] 2025-12-04 21:08:55
>>hibiki+(OP)
> Because they really are both very smart and disabled at the same time.

There's a term for exactly this: "twice exceptional"!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twice_exceptional

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50. quickt+uu[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 21:18:35
>>lostms+U1
Have you considered the fact that you may be neurodivergent? Your assumption that you’ve never met a neurodivergent co-worker is surprising.

From what I understand, some autistic people assume everyone has the same worldview and agenda as they do, they lack a theory of mind. I’m not making this accusation about you, I’m bringing it up because I find it surprising that everyone you’ve worked with is neurotypical.

I can usually tell if someone is neurodivergent or not within the first minute of meeting them, usually just from eye contact and body language.

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51. fwip+Ev[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 21:24:35
>>pessim+8h
If you're not familiar, you might like reading about the social model of disability: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_model_of_disability

TL;DR: Disability is not inherent in difference, but rather a combination of the difference and an environment in which that difference is not well-supported. For an analogy - a deep-sea fish is blind, but not disabled by their blindness. Similarly, a kid who "can't sit still" isn't disabled unless we put them in an environment where they have to.

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52. skeete+2B[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 21:53:56
>>powerc+ce
This is the common gag reflex, but multiple things can be true at the same time; there can be a greater need for support of disabled persons AND a shocking abuse of the systems by priviledged students. Ditto for the need to support women & minorities at the same time as white males are doing poorly and need help.
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53. skeete+PB[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 21:58:42
>>cryzin+xs
Not only is this such a cringe term (we may describe poor aptitude in an area as an exception but exceptional?) it's also not accurate. If you want a milquetoast label call them "spikey" to denote the array of dimensions and the variance, or multimodal or similar.
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54. skeete+3C[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 21:59:47
>>vl+W9
Steriods will give you a massive physical advantage too. If you're not doing something with a governing body and get them prescribed you're golden.
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55. qazxcv+HD[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 22:08:23
>>hamdin+0q
This is an important distinction. Indeed, many behaviors (ie attachment issues) that are maladaptive for an adult can be adaptive to a child and it is important to not change those without taking into account the environment a child is in.

An 8th grader may not have control over how their time is spent, but an attuned response from the people around them will help the child adapt.

A child experiencing: 'everyone around me can take this test, but i cannot, I must be dumb'

vs

A child experiencing: 'everyone around me can take this test, but i cannot, I must be dumb' and a caring figure in their life explaining to them 'you show traits of ADHD, this commonly makes it harder for you to focus on things like a math test. it really hurts when you fail the test and you wanted to get an A. Why don't you try again at the same problem at home, I believe in you. And maybe I will talk to your teacher about some extra time for the next test. We can't always get this, and even if you don't pass the test it's ok.'

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56. Alexan+ZD[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 22:09:58
>>powerc+ce
Do you think the disabled are being helped by letting bad actors trying to get a leg up over their peers abuse accommodations meant for them?

On pretty much every "culture war" issue the "left" fails to adequately grapple with bad actors and those that abuse empathetic policies to harm others or unfairly advance themselves. Long term this will be to the great detriment of marginalized groups because societal support for these accommodations will erode. It's really frustrating to watch.

Edit: If you want a recent example of this coming full circle, take a look at service animals. Sometime around 2021-2023 there was a wave of people claiming their pets as "service animals" or "emotional support animals" and bringing them everywhere in public. At first this was tolerated or even welcomed by businesses but increasingly animals are being banned from these spaces because of badly behaved pets. Those with genuine need for a service animal are caught in the crossfire.

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57. greygo+uH[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 22:27:01
>>antupi+Tg
Utter bullshit engineered to convince students not to do drugs. Adderall doesn't make you magically better at solving the knapsack problem, it's not NZT-48 from Limitless. That's not why anyone takes it.
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58. qazxcv+DH[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 22:27:36
>>barcha+Zi
The difference is how you relate to the job providing accommodations. If you know certain employers are more willing and able to provide accommodations then you can consciously weigh that piece of information when considering a job/career field.

By consciously accepting who you are and how you work with the world, it lets you navigate better in it. For some people that is just feeling it out and ending up in a career that fits them. For some people, it might be getting a diagnosis. The end result might be the same.

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59. DaSHac+RH[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 22:29:05
>>IAmBro+Pi
> DEI does not provide benefits; it seeks to prevent continued, assumedly unfair, selection processes.

So it is not a benefit to be hired for a role over your peers because you satisfy an ethnic requirement needed for an arbitrary quota? I dont know about you, I'd sure love to have that on my side.

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60. mapont+aI[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 22:31:03
>>Alexan+ZD
> Do you think the disabled are being helped by letting bad actors trying to get a leg up over their peers abuse accommodations meant for them?

Of course it's terrible for the genuinley disabled. That said, I would rather accidently assist an able person than accidently fail to provide the required accommodations for a genuinely disabled person. The default should be acceptance.

Those who abuse these systems should be given an all expense paid trip to the surface of the sun. Ripping off the disabled is about as low as a person can get, and that is what they are doing.

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61. brails+jI[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 22:31:45
>>swatco+V5
> Of course, that applies to everybody who achieves a stable career at all.

This stuck out to me, because even in tech, especially after being diagnosed with ADHD (out of desperately failing to adapt, despite technically being reasonably competent) my career and statistically that of many others is normally anything but stable. An overwhelming percentage of jobs and disciplines do not have any real affordances for just a little variation from the norm, and people broadly still do not believe the condition presents anything but hilarious superficial differences, but that otherwise if the person shares one skill with other employees they should be capable of being an arbitrary cog like any other.

"Other people are capable of showing up on time, why can't you!?"

"Well, I have ADHD, I have to take medication to regulate my dopamine levels and struggle with time blindless, it's a real problem that I wish I didn't have, but I do my best given regularly switching contexts and priorities"

"Ya, great, that's cute but show up on time, are we on the same page?"

"No, but I'll say yes because you can't understand, I have no choice, and I'll continue doing what I'm doing until you fire me for not meeting your expectations, even if they have nothing to do with the skill I do actually have and gravitate towards, and would like to continue applying in service of company growth or whatever"

"Great, then we're on the same page, and I'll just start checking in on you more frequently because clearly you're retarded, thanks"

----

The only people who do realistically get accomodations are either in super niche fields, are absolutely exceptional in their niche field, or are just on their own or in industries that require none of the normal things associated with their discipline.

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62. ThrowM+JI[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 22:34:03
>>teknop+Sb
>If someone is advertising something at you, it's because you can get it and you are potential market.

>Not rocket science.

Yep. I see adverts for Psoriasis and so, of course, I developed Psoriasis although I never had it before I saw the adverts. I see adverts for Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD) and, of course, then developed it because I am a "potential market."

Even better, I see adverts for tampons, sanitary pads and "feminine' deodorants. As such, I underwent gender reassignment surgery so I could then purchase said products because I'm a "potential market."

Yes, the above is satirical. And no, I don't purchase products because " they spend that money advertising"

If I show you an advert for brassieres, are you then forced to purchase them because of all the money spent on such adverts? Are you even slightly tempted to do so?

If I show you an advert for literal snake oil as a cure-all, are you then powerless to stop yourself from purchasing it?

I hate to break it to you, but we Americans aren't slaves to, or required to spend money based on, consumer advertising.

Heck, I don't drink Coca-Cola or Budweiser. If what you say were true, I'd literally be drowning in that garbage.

Please take your ridiculous stereotypes elsewhere.

Edit: Fixed typos.

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63. LoganD+PI[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 22:34:25
>>quickt+uu
> Have you considered the fact that you may be neurodivergent?

I scrolled through some of their Reddit comment history (it's linked on their profile) and I think I would peg them as probably autistic. Their patterns of emphasis, placements of sentence breaks, certain turns of phrases and pattern of emotional expression seem to closely match a few autistic friends I have & a few autistic coworkers. Research on this hasn't fully developed though so I can't really offer references (other than the preprint that inspired me, https://www.thetransmitter.org/spectrum/untangling-biologica...)... I still don't really have a non-ambiguous way to call the different types.

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64. Aurorn+YJ[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 22:40:42
>>skeete+3C
This is actually another growing problem: TRT clinics will prescribe testosterone to virtually anyone who requests it. Among new TRT patients, a large number of them didn't even have bloodwork drawn before receiving their first prescription.

Many of the TRT clinics also hide the fact that going on TRT results in testicular atrophy and lifelong dependence. The forums and Reddits are full of people who decided that injecting testosterone every couple days for the rest of their life isn't all it's cracked up to be are realizing that it's not so simple for everyone to get off of it, even with all the HCG, SERMs, and PCT in the world.

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65. powerc+IN[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 23:00:49
>>skeete+2B
I don't think I disagree, and I don't think I suggested that couldn't be the case.
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66. HDThor+rS[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 23:26:14
>>Aurorn+pm
Abusing adderall can obviously go wrong, but if you do it right you take it once every month or so and have minimal long term effects. Stanford students arent using it for the euphoria, theyre using it so they can study all night without getting distracted. Its also not a miracle drug, you have to be in the right mindset for it to work and a lot of the people who use it dont understand that.
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67. vl+xS[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 23:27:06
>>Aurorn+pm
Everything can be abused or used incorrectly. If you drink too much water you remove salts from your body and get sick.

With Adderall (or Vyvanse) good protocol is to get small dose, like 5-10mg early morning once every one or two weeks. Then you’ll get boost when really needed and feel uplifting for few more days.

Taking it every day is insane, ADHD or not.

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68. anon84+tU[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 23:36:46
>>vl+W9
My third time sharing this link in this post because it's just so relevant. A Slate Star Codex classic:

https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/12/28/adderall-risks-much-mo...

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69. vl+wU[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 23:36:54
>>Aurorn+YJ
TRT is one of those things which requires precise and active management. But it also increases quality of life and well-being so much for 45yo and beyond that it’s insane not to use it. (And same thing with HRT for women).

Your choice is to die chronically ill, weak and depressed for decades, or feeling great and enjoying your later years.

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70. vl+GU[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 23:38:25
>>skeete+3C
If you have enough your own testosterone then doing TRT is more harm than good. But once you get older and don’t anymore - TRT is golden.
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71. trow23+AW[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 23:50:50
>>swatco+V5
Some people have harder lifes than others.

Saying everybody has a few things that they struggle is kind of offensive.

I struggle because my parents were drug addicts and my father tried to kill us all when I was 5.

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72. snapde+WW[view] [source] 2025-12-04 23:52:31
>>hibiki+(OP)
“Smart kid” who did “poorly at school” is a fascinating doublespeak. School is where you demonstrate you are smart. Skilled is different from smart btw. Not being able to do an integral but being able to tune a holly four barrel carb are not the same thing. It’s just baffling that you would make this claim.
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73. snapde+iX[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 23:54:36
>>trow23+AW
Somebody ALWAYS has a harder life than you.
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74. astran+zX[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 23:56:05
>>greygo+uH
> it's not NZT-48 from Limitless

Yeah, that's modafinil.

(Or for social situations, bromantane.)

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75. astran+FX[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-04 23:57:04
>>teknop+g8
There are non-stimulant ADHD medications. Maybe they should try going on Intuniv instead.

(That one reduces anxiety a lot, which would be good for students, but it also kinda kills your sex drive.)

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76. jtr1+1Z[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 00:06:46
>>qazxcv+DH
What is your personal experience here?
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77. MangoT+b11[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 00:23:41
>>MangoT+I5
> Alternatively, it just became popular to label others or oneself that way. And tech elites have nothing better to do in free time. Also DEI benefits! Who else would be allowed a medical break due to a burnout and stress?

The person is clearly retarded themselves. Let's not judge too harshly

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78. stuffn+D51[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 00:55:56
>>vl+GU
The issue of course is "medical science" has continually lowered what is normal. Men 50 years ago had significantly higher testosterone than today. The blood work normal CI reflects this decrease. In reality, any man lower than 600 should probably be supplementing TRT. However, you're not likely to get it prescribed before you are below 300, and even then, it'll be just enough to get you back over the curve. There's basically no risk to it as long as you keep your total test <= 1000 ng/dL (and probably <= 800 ng/dL tbh).

The median total testosterone for the cohort born after 2000 is 391 ng/dL. 20 years before it was ~550 ng/dL. 20 years before that we were above 600 ng/dL. Men are falling ill with more chronic illness, having more sexual dysfunction, and have more feminized features. We should probably be asking ourselves why this is happening rather than adjusting blood work CI's down.

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79. lostms+oi1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 02:46:32
>>IAmBro+Pi
> DEI does not provide benefits

I don't know how you can define DEI without enumerating benefits these policies provide to certain groups of people, some of which, like the ones being discussed, have very flexible boundaries.

> No one gets a DEI check from the government.

We are discussing private institution(s). But if left unchecked that could expand to local governments.

> But since you don't even see that others around you have disabilities

Oh, I've seen plenty of people who had disabilities for the purposes of draft/mandatory military service.

> we can't really expect you to know much more than Fox tells you.

Your ability to figure out other people's information sources is most certainly no better than my ability to figure out if people have mental disabilities.

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80. lostms+Pi1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 02:50:33
>>LoganD+PI
> it just became popular to label others

Feel like my theory of mind is just fine given its predictive power.

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81. MangoT+mj1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 02:55:23
>>appare+f6
Ok but such a person who thinks this way is definitionally in need of help; who would waste any brain wattage caring about this? Do they also need government subsidies to pay attention to their own lives?
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82. lostms+7k1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 03:03:57
>>quickt+uu
> I’m bringing it up because I find it surprising that everyone you’ve worked with is neurotypical.

So there are two potential explanations there. The one where I don't see neurodivergence where it does exist and the other one where you do see it where it does not. Would you be OK with 50/50 probability each of these options being right as the baseline assumption?

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83. MangoT+Sl1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 03:24:18
>>teknop+Sb
I just don't see any harm from taking these drugs. It hurts nobody, hence my skepticism of the "malicious" characterization.
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84. MangoT+Vl1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 03:24:54
>>jfindp+C6
I mean who cares? This hurts nobody.
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85. MangoT+Zl1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 03:25:32
>>mrgold+Am
Right, but life is not a competition. Who cares who gets a prescription for ritalin?
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86. MangoT+4m1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 03:26:09
>>danthe+ya
Ok, but who cares? If you don't need accommodations, the extra time won't help you.

For instance: i qualify for such accommodations, but the extra time would not grant me a better score. Who cares?!

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87. cryzin+8m1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 03:26:28
>>skeete+PB
I mean, I didn't invent the term--but the literal definition of "exceptional" doesn't necessarily mean that something is positive, only that it's outside the norm.
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88. armada+Kq1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 04:26:29
>>qazxcv+6b
> It also makes discourse hard because the (this is causing me to truly not be able to function) gets mixed in with the (this is a way that my brain behaves, but I can mostly live a life).

They're both two sides of the same coin though. You can get a neurodivergent person to a level that they're able to function in life, but they won't thrive or be happy.

Do we think it's enough for people do be a productive worker or do we actually want to give them the ability to live their life to its fullest?

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89. pastag+ut1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 05:02:51
>>paulpa+cg
I have a friend like this he is absolutely the smartest I know, maybe not the most effective. My point is that most people have drawbacks. I much rather work with an autistic myself you learn to handle the quirks.
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90. vl+Lu1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 05:22:03
>>stuffn+D51
> median total testosterone for the cohort born after 2000 is 391 ng/dL.

Really interesting. I wonder what is age range. This is beyond low. At this level you naturally feel tired all the time.

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91. dotanc+rG1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 07:53:20
>>trow23+AW
And my children grew up with rockets regularly targeting us, and our home has sustained damage, and we have had friends killed. Yet my oldest has succeeded in gifted children's organisations her entire time at school.

And at the gifted children's organisations I've seen families who have it much harder than we ever did. Children in those families grew up to be resilient, face danger, and overcome obstacles direct and obstacles covert. Some of them with physical disabilities too.

Somebody is always suffering worse than we are.

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92. isolli+0M1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 08:44:06
>>paulpa+cg
You're confusing mean and median.
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93. isolli+6M1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 08:45:24
>>vl+xS
Is this the way it is usually prescribed, a small dose every few days?
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94. lurk2+UR1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 09:07:33
>>Alexan+ZD
> Sometime around 2021-2023 there was a wave of people claiming their pets as "service animals" or "emotional support animals" and bringing them everywhere in public.

This has been going on for over ten years.

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95. nephih+aX1[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 09:23:56
>>paulpa+cg
The average does tend to be skewed by the extremes.
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96. Tade0+T42[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 10:16:39
>>Alexan+ZD
> Long term this will be to the great detriment of marginalized groups because societal support for these accommodations will erode. It's really frustrating to watch.

Where I'm from there are hardly any accommodations offered for those who are marginalized yet they're stigmatized for using the little help that there is. Also it's usually a loud minority that's against it, as I haven't seen any majority form to abolish it via voting.

Aside from that those who are tasked with executing these policies broadly agree that going after every bad actor is not worth the false positive rate.

I know a couple who became parents young and are now going through college as a family. When they applied for scholarships in their respective universities, one institution accepted immediately, the other is still dragging out the process because for some insane reason there's both an upper and lower income limit for those who apply.

Someone somewhere figured this would somehow deter bad actors so now those who genuinely need help need to jump through additional hoops.

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97. Yeask+Yg2[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 11:54:45
>>snapde+iX
Those are not mutually exclusive.

You can have a life harder than most and at the same time not having the worst life in the world.

17% of children experience violence at home. The fact that 5000k away there are other kids dying in wars is the consolation you think it is.

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98. austin+eh2[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 11:56:26
>>snapde+WW
An example from my personal life: I aced many academic tests without effort, but couldn't remember which lesson was in which building on which day. I was often late, and discovered many distractions that were far more interesting than school, leading to truancy. So I was indeed a "smart kid" who "did poorly at school".
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99. austin+oi2[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 12:04:33
>>isolli+6M1
Nope, typical dosage is daily.

https://www.drugs.com/adderall.html

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100. beacon+Qt2[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 13:17:14
>>qazxcv+6b
> By pathologizing them, we(society) loose touch for what they mean in our life. It also makes discourse hard because the (this is causing me to truly not be able to function) gets mixed in with the (this is a way that my brain behaves, but I can mostly live a life).

As I recently learned, ADHD executive processing issues, rsd, and demand avoidance absolutely are a pathology and if you don't even know you have them it is like being hit by a truck when the requirements of your workplace (and your life) change under your feet.

There are situations in which I will use my accommodations in the future, but it has not been an everyday need for me.

Think of dyslexia. My dear friend is an all star aerospace engineer but he couldn't read his tests in college, so he used the extended test proctoring. In the workplace he needs to receive a report, then read it and meet after he has spent appropriate time on it. This is an accommodation. It is required.

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101. marknu+SG2[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 14:25:30
>>estima+bd
I learn the same way, and I have to say, learning with LLMs now has been a very rewarding and validating experience. I struggled with the traditional school system my whole academic career, and I learn in the same way you describe. These days, I can start at the top high-level concepts and with the help of a competent LLM drill down as far as I need to from there.
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102. treis+L73[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 16:16:38
>>sokolo+jb
There's neurodivergant and there's neurodivergant. I've definitely worked with oddballs and nerds and various atypical folks. But there's a massive gulf between them and someone with legit no questions about it autism.
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103. hnfong+T73[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 16:17:11
>>barcha+Zi
I see your point, but generally you don't need to roll the dice purely randomly. You generally do get some level of control over your career, your job and the people you work with. With white collar jobs employers are also generally relatively more willing to accommodate personal quirks as long as you get the actual job done.

The level control and flexibility is much smaller when you're a student.

Also, in school there's a lot of emphasis on how you get the job done. There's a prescribed process, and learning the prescribed process is more important (to some of the teachers apparently) than getting the actual job done. This is often where neurodivergent people struggle more in school and at work.

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104. hnfong+5a3[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 16:26:48
>>paulpa+md
Saying blue collar work is "low-skilled" is probably inaccurate, I think the important distinction is that most blue collar work requires the person sitting at some physical location doing stuff, while significant amount of white collar jobs have a lower physical presence required.

Like if you work at an assembly line making widgets, the upper bound of productive work you do is proportional to the time you're physically there, so in this aspect it makes more sense for the employer to use that as a metric. In contrast a lot of tech jobs can be done remotely, sometimes if you're trying to solve a particularly nasty problem you don't even need an internet connection while you're thinking deeply about it.

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105. hnfong+yc3[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 16:36:30
>>dotanc+rG1
I think you're misreading GP's point, which I think is probably also your point.

The comment they replied to was apparently suggesting that everyone struggles in some areas, so it's meaningless to highlight one group's struggle over another given that they all have reached a certain stable career.

GP main point (as I understand it) is: no, some people actually do struggle harder than others to make it.

I don't know why people get triggered and start comparing traumas but let's avoid doing it here.

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106. jlaroc+om3[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 17:18:11
>>MangoT+mj1
So you're saying it's some kind of mental handicap causing people to cheat the system to get benefits, therefore people who fake a handicap to get benefits actually deserve those benefits?
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107. dotanc+io3[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 17:26:45
>>hnfong+yc3
Yes, I understood both their points. I added another data point for a struggle that I assume is not common for HNers, and demonstrated that people can overcome such a struggle.

I certainly don't want to compare traumas and I don't consider my family to be traumatised. I'm certain that some HNers could describe further personal experiences that they've overcome. Have we any Sudanese? People from east Ukraine? Yeminites?

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108. marknu+2t3[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 17:48:28
>>IAmBro+Pi
> Ah, you accidentally showed your hand there.

And you accidentally showed your hand there.

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109. LoganD+JU3[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 19:50:04
>>lostms+Pi1
I feel like all you predicted was the natural antithesis of the argument you made, and not actually some universal truth. Your "predictive power" is just common sense. You say people aren't neurodivergent, and your argument is then "see, you're saying people are neurodivergent again. I win."
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110. CGMthr+V74[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-05 20:56:55
>>Aurorn+YJ
>TRT clinics will prescribe testosterone to virtually anyone who requests it.

Why is that a problem, exactly? Hiding side effects is a problem I can understand, but struggling to understand why someone shouldn't be able to get TRT freely.

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111. quickt+8V5[view] [source] [discussion] 2025-12-06 15:33:01
>>lostms+7k1
Yeah, I’d be fine with assuming either one of us could be correct as a baseline. I hesitated when posting this at first because it’s hard to ask that question without sounding like an asshole, I appreciate the measured response as I was not trying to be aggressive.

Like you said, my perception of neurodivergence in others could be entirely incorrect, I have no way of knowing.

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