10gbase-t ethernet is harder to pick, a lot of those cards run incredibly hot particularly the ones that expect server style cooling. Heard bad things about all of them.
Also heard that Windows has a hard time reaching 10G anyway.
It really shouldn't. Microsoft invented or popularized Receive Side Scaling [1], which helps get things lined up for high throughput; but applications probably need to do a bit of work too.
[1] https://learn.microsoft.com/en-us/windows-hardware/drivers/n...