The only way to accomplish this at scale is to build something that is legit better and let the market decide. Anything else is just principled wishful thinking.
There is a huge gap between spying on someone phone and calling openly to invade a territory.
Every country spies on each other for various reasons (industrial, geopolitics) even between allies.
But I think we can agree that an ally by definition is not suppose to ring your door bell and say he wants to take your land against your will.