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1. jampa+WYa[view] [source] 2025-10-08 17:34:33
>>moored+(OP)
I'm sure the OP means well, but I think this approach is misguided. It comes across as self-centered rather than supportive. You might get a polite "thanks" in response, but I doubt it will be genuinely appreciated.

If you care about the person and want to talk with them, reach out and be genuine. If not, don't bother them with LLM corporate-speak masquerading as support. Let's be honest: they didn't "part ways" with the company--they were fired.

Right now, they're worried about paying their bills, not about making their former coworkers feel better.

If you really want to help, reach out to your network and see if anyone is hiring. I've successfully connected many laid-off former coworkers with new opportunities. I've even approached recruiters that I ignored saying, "I'm not available, but this person is looking, and they're excellent."

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2. sadcod+t2b[view] [source] 2025-10-08 17:56:13
>>jampa+WYa
OP's blog post also rang false to me. It feels like it was written by someone who works in HR trying to promote a culture that inhibits real interactions, under the guise of being "a good human being."

Being a good human involves honesty and naming things that are extremely difficult to name when you're both employed at the same place. I've had so many honest and illuminating conversations with coworkers after one or both of us left a company or organization, conversations that deepened into real friendships instead of just being colleagues.

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3. pw6hv+18b[view] [source] 2025-10-08 18:31:27
>>sadcod+t2b
Especially when they say:

> Don’t feel like you have continue the conversation if they respond. You can if you want, but don’t feel obligated.

Then why did you write?! What kind of "good human being" are you?

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4. ChuckM+kab[view] [source] 2025-10-08 18:46:05
>>pw6hv+18b
This kind of nails it.

Absolutely keep in touch with people because connection is essential to the human existence. Don't "pretend" to offer connection if you aren't willing to nourish it. The pretense is just mean and does more harm than good.

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5. davnic+NAb[view] [source] 2025-10-08 21:40:04
>>ChuckM+kab
Yeah. There's a sort of uncanny valley to this that's hard to explain but you know when you see it.

It's like, conversations naturally taper yes, sensitive topics are danced around yes, particularly with people you're not that close with, but there's a grey area people play with generously in genuine interactions, precisely because they actually care.

Conversely in some interactions where you're sort of made acutely aware you've gone 'off script' the moment it happens and you realise, oh, this was always just templated/transactional.

I just think it's generally bad advice to enter into such interactions knowingly, even if you have good intentions, because of this. It's quite likely to happen and it's just an overall negative experience.

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