1. Try using pi-hole to block those particular endpoints via making DNS resolution fail; see if it still works if it can’t access the telemetry endpoints.
2. Their ridiculous tracking, disregard of the user preference to not send telemetry, and behavior on the Discord when you mentioned tracking says everything you need to know about the company. You cannot change them. If you don’t want to be tracked, then stay away from Bytedance.
The SNI extension is sent unencrypted as part of the ClientHello (first part of the TLS handshake). Any router along the way see the hostname that the client provides in the SNI data, and can/could drop the packet if they so choose.