>>goles+(OP)
You do generally need to be far more direct/candid than most people are comfortable with, and that oftentimes makes you seem like a jerk. Takes a lot of finesse to do it right.
>>dchuk+Un
Assertive is not aggressive. But for some reason this statement angers a good many people, because I’ve made this statement multiple times on here in the last decade and seen that response repeatedly.