I get why there are people that don’t like how some installers do this, but this trope is really turning into the “but I don’t even own a TV” of OSS commentary.
Just use the Docker image if you don’t like it. Or get their appliance which actually supports ongoing development.
Smart Home 2023Q3 status: still for hackers only if you want more than a few lightswitches that you can just toggle from your phone, and even if you do want that, stick to one vendor + system only.
I’ve never dealt with Matter, though.