to be that perfect husband or wife
we’ve all decided to strive to be better, but all we’ve accomplished is to become alone
Marriage is not a capstone, it's a cornerstone
Meaning that you build a life together. You don't 'have it all figured out' and then cap that off with a wedding to someone from central casting, riding off into the sunset. You struggle together and make something with someone else. That's a vulnerable place to be, at the whims of another, and that's why marriage is not just a 'super-duper-friendship'.