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>>jger15+(OP)
I love articles like this. The writer seems to have no idea they're revealing severe psychological trauma to the readers, and despite it they try to pass it off as sage life advice. Like telling everyone you spit in the soup at work but it helps strengthen people's immune systems so everyone should be unsanitary.

>>throwa+eU
Severe trauma? Really? Didn’t see any mention of violence, sexual assault, prison time, or the like. These seem like totally prosaic life choices that more or less worked out fine for him in the end. Maybe the language is a bit overwrought but that could just be to punch things up for the reader.

>>projec+2r1
He was unable to make and keep connections that he found valuable enough to preserve. He wrote a post about blowing up your life and barely concentrated on the biggest reason not to, to preserve your social connections and proximity to the people you love to spend time with.

I would be very surprised if this person did not have an "avoidant" attachment type.

I think you underestimate how severe the trauma of feeling disconnected from other humans can be.

I think the authors blog post conveys that he hasn't come to terms with the idea that "Wherever you go, there you are."

>>hayst4+fx1
You can preserve connections after leaving a place or changing a relationship. Most people are capable of this. It sounds like the author was as well, since he mentions having an amicable conversation with his ex-wife after his divorce.

Social alienation is very bad, but is not severe trauma. Severe trauma would be something like being held in solitary confinement for months.

>>projec+yy1
> Social alienation is very bad, but is not severe trauma.

Voluntary social alienation can definitely be caused by trauma, I think that's what the person your reply to implied

>>lm2846+dz1
The problem with trauma as an explanatory model is is that if you dig deep enough, pretty much anyone has had life experiences that may be characterized as traumatic. And even if you find someone who hasn't, they've clearly lead such a sheltered life that it's a sort of trauma on its own.

Because of this, childhood trauma is a sort of universal explanation that will explain things even outside of psychology, everything from wheat allergy to male pattern baldness. You bet there's trauma in there somewhere causing it.