The lack of empathy is incredibly depressing...
I completely agree with it. Take a contemporary pianist for example, the amount of dedication to both theory and practice, posture, mastering the instrument and what not, networking skills, technology skills, video recording, music recording, social media management, etc.
Extreme specialists are found everywhere. Mastering skateboarding at world level will eat your life too, but it's not "harder" than programming. At least, for any commonsensical interpretation of "harder".
All the rest, we do too. Except I don't record videos and I'm sure it is not childishly easy, but it will not eat my life.
Have you actually looked into CS deeply? Obviously not. (I‘m not saying this cannot also be true for music, which I don‘t know.)